Plz Help Us!!!
Hi ladies! Ive been posting all over the place for help with my DS issues and april dawn sent me the link to this thread. Thank you!
Ive read all the posts and feel better knowing im not totally alone in this even though i often feel it.
This is our story, please take the time to read and help if you can.
My DS is almost 4 years old. He never had problems doing a poop until I started trying to get him to do it on the potty/toilet instead of in a diaper, but he always refused and demanded his diaper back on. So I went along with that from about age 2.6 until 3.4 (approx). never had any problems pee'ing on the toilet standing up by himself -still fine there.
At 3.4 (ish) he finally pooped on the toilet but hated sitting on it like it was uncomfy so i got a padded toilet seat cover thing for toddlers but he still says he doesnt like it. he kept pooping on the toilet daily or every other day until a few weeks ago.
He started saying his bottom was itchy so i checked and he had worms
: . he probably picked them up from another kid at pre school. anyway i got him a tablet for kids to treat it, but it gave him bad cramps and diarohea the next day which smelt so bad (seriously foul). since then, hes not wanted to poop, he holds it in until it hurts his tummy everywhere, then he tells me hes poorly and wants to go to bed...its so upsetting. i try telling him you hurt cos u need to poo it out your tummy is very full of poop lets try push it out. come on u can do it etc etc....
well its just stayed like this. only he may have a tear in his bottom because he screams out in pain when he finally cannot hold the poop in any longer and has major cramps/spasms im guessing, where he HAS to push it out. he was screaming out in pain during the whole bm process until it was all out for about 2 weeks when he pooped maybe 3 times.
The last time he pooped was 3 days ago during the night in his diaper, i woke up hearing him screaming and crying so i went in his bedroom, he was on his hands and knees doing a poo in his diaper in bed. I comforted him and talked soothingly etc to try help. This time he screamed and cried at the beginning when he started pushing out the first bit, then he was very uncomfortable but not screaming in pain for the rest of it. so that seems to be a slight improvement from the previous few times right???
I keep putting vaseline on his butthole...but that seems to have no effect, it still seems to really hurt when pushing any poop out. I tried having a real close up look but couldnt see any outside tears or spots, tho his bottom skin is red and sore looking (not majorly tho) i put zinc and castor cream on that. been putting vaseline on his butthole morning and night. he wont let me touch it either like its sore inside??
he eats oatmeal for breakfast every day and has 1 or 2 fruits a day, plus his poo is not hard so i dont think its constipation. (the first half inch is hard but i think thats cos he holds it in several days as the rest is very soft)
im trying to get him to drink more juice/water right now, cos he only used to drink 1 glass in a whole day. how much do yours drink??
i give him a warm bath every night which ...sometimes/occasionally makes him have a BM. but he will still hold it in and cry/stress about it instead of pooping it out. i told him its ok to poop in the bath but he still wont.
i try putting his legs up into his chest for a few seconds and making them do the cycling motion for a minute or 2 and it sometimes make him have a BM but he STILL holds it in.
then i tried fig syrup called SENNA (califig) laxative which made him go within minutes the first day then a few days later tried it again (same amount) but it took a day to work. i decided not to give him it anymore because it was clear it was giving him bad bowel cramps to force him to go and it hurt him...making him still scared to poop in the end. but he was forced to. not gentle enough in my opinion. ive taken it myself and ...talk about explosive painful diarohea..i wouldnt take it again so i sure wont make my son.
he had a real bad cold and high temperature during the week after he had worms, so i was giving him a lot of childrens painkillers/fever reducing medicine for around 10 days. which afterwards i was told causes constipation. so i thought once i stop giving him that, then he would be 'regular' again and it wouldnt hurt him to poop. but since stopping medicine it didnt change.
ive been going crazy, so upset and distraught not knowing what to do. im the type to panic. i cried at night when he was sleeping over this. im a young single parent so ive had to deal with it on my own. its been awful.
someone suggested LACTULOSE. which i never even heard of before. i bought some over the counter at the pharmacy. gave DS the highest amount which was 5 -5ml spoonfuls daily for the first 3 days. then 3 spoonfuls maximum for however many more days they need it. well after the first day on it he pooped a big one (that was in the diaper at night 3 days ago). now we are on day 4 of taking the lactulose and he HAS NOT POOPED SINCE. Im hoping he will poop today/tonight.
i dont know what to do please please help me *cries*
i forgot to add...hes allergic to cows milk. thought i should mention that as many have said dairy can cause constipation. it cant be that with us. he drinks soya milk in his oatmeal for breakfast and thats about it, occasionally has a glass of it in the evening. or rice milk instead. and i cut bananas out his diet 2 days ago just incase it helps since i read they can cause constipation.