normally I would say "nice to see the thread picking up," but considering our suffering that doesn't make as much sense here, does it?! I'm glad for all the newbies who have found it. as I've said before, folks who haven't btdt just do NOT get it.
I think that alleged connection with extended bfing is total bs. it has such a laxative effect, there's just no way. the pieces don't fit together. hmph.
I also get sooo frustrated with those who only know of encopresis as a psychological problem. I have felt like I was being questioned as a potential child molester!! what I have found is that there are countless reasons the retaining starts (something irritating produces a painful bm, the stress of a move or new sibling or whatever, control/power struggles, illness, basic constipation from diet produces pain, food allergies....) and then in those who are disposed to it the physical problem of an enlarged colon results and "maintains" the problem.
I still have to be very mindful of ds's bowel habits, but as long as I keep watch he's ok. right now we're still off the miralax except as a remedy for the occasional backup; he eats those fiber yummi bears like candy (thank goodness for frontier coop!) and goes approximately every other day. granted, his bm's are alarmingly enormous!
but he always uses the potty and doesn't seem to be in pain from it. so, I call it good enough. I still plan trips out around whether he's pooped recently to avoid struggles in public, but that's not too difficult. I still can't get him to drink enough fluids, he still consumes a lot of dairy, and I keep the miralax on-hand. I never thought I'd be such an advocate of something completely synthetic, but as I often say, motherhood is about nothing if not humility!
does anyone know if goat's milk has the same constipation effect as cow's milk? (did I ask that before?? I can't remember... preggo brain...)
we examined the chakra issues too-- it seemed very fitting. we moved three times in a year, beginning with selling the house ds had come home to, and also were in quite the financial tailspin during that time. we lived with my in-laws for a while and that was when it got really severe (and when I found miralax). definite stability/security issues for us! we made no progress whatsoever until several months after being in our own space. I know this disturbed him on a level he couldn't express-- now that he's almost 4.5, he will tell us things such as "we are NEVER EVER moving from this house!" and "we can NEVER EVER sell the car!" which really lets me know how deeply he was shaken by all that change.
I *really really* hope I don't go through this again with the new baby! I will certainly be much more alert to the problem if it occurs, and will take immediate action to avoid the enlarged colon situation if I can.
oh, p-chan, I don't think I ever answered about the baby-- she's not here yet, about 8 or 9 weeks to go. I'm due sometime around july 1. I have a HUGE basketball belly!
and on your recent post, hope you're getting some answers there.
good luck to everyone!!