... signing in as as part of the pooping tribe ....
We've done naturopath, elimination diet, osteopath, laxatives, rewards, explaining the reasons why it's not healthy to hold it in with no luck.
Things that have worked for us so far:
- trying to empower DD, tell her SHE is in charge of pooping, no one else, and that I'm not going to coach/cajole/nag her about it anymore
- not talking about poop unless she brings it up
- "brainwashing" suggestions to her as she sleeps
: (only to maintain the healthy rhythm, not to initiate pooping while withholding)
- treats, but not overdoing praise (that backfired on us)
- "treatment plan" of laxative after 1 day without pooping (I've found even skipping one day will throw her right off).
We've found once DD starts pooping regularly, it's really easy for her to lapse back into withholding --- it's such a delicate balance.
Our recent successes have been related, I believe, to me trying to lose my emotional investment, and adopt an attitude of "You're in charge. You'll decide when you need to go." After a couple of months of that, I think she started to trust me that I wasn't going to pressure her & 'coach' her on the toilet, and she relaxed some more. When she finally went, I'd give her the treat, but not really praise her.
I never knew s**t could make me so happy!!!