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post #21 of 63
My mom told me as I grew up that she had "natural childbirth" for all of us. It wasn't until I was pg with my first that she thought natural=vaginal, and not without drugs/intervention.

BTW, when I told her that I was birthing at home "naturally", she said "Oh Rosemary, why would you do you feel like you have to punish yourself like that!!!"
post #22 of 63
I may be the only one who likes when people say "went natural." It sounds so laid back. "Chose to avoid an epidural" is pretty cumbersome.
post #23 of 63
I use the term "unmedicated" to refer to my drug free vaginal birth, since the current climate is to use the word natural in place of vaginal.
post #24 of 63
I have to agree with the PP who said
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It's even worse before you have the baby. I've had so many people tell me that I'll be "screaming for the epidural"
I am birthign in a birth center specifically because I don't want unnecessary medical intervention, I don't want people pushing an epi on me, I don't want anyone telling me that I "need" to be induced. But, man am I sick of people assuming that I won't be able to take it. I mean, really, thanks for the vote of confidence folks! :

It's funny I frequently hear people who go the hospitalization, induction, epi route complain about natural birthing mothers as being so militant and judgemental.. but seriously I find the exact opposite is true. Nearly everyone i know tries to talk me out of my birth choice. Get your freaking nose out of my uterus!!! It's my choice people. And I choose to let my body do what it was designed to do, thank you very much.
post #25 of 63
Oh man, this is where I am right now, CableGirl. First time mom, and I am so freaked that people will just pelt me with doubting statements. I want to tell them my mother birthed me naturally, I'm sure I can do it as well! It's hard b/c they act like they have all the authority, but did they really prepare for birth? Did they just lay down and get hooked up? What do they really know? (speaking of people who say these kinds of things only). I think I might reply, if someone spouts this at me, well, I've raised children all day long (living/working in our family day care) and let me just assure YOU my dea that you're sure to fail miserably at that. What the heck? Why is it okay to say to someone they will fail?
post #26 of 63
I had a 1/4 shot of Nubain during labor, and PROM, but for the most part, consider my son's birth to be a natural birth. It wasn't intervention free, unfortunately, but it was closer to natural than I'd ever known of with people around me. Saying "went natural" I think is just for a lack of better words. Rather than some of the alternatives which do seem to be a bit... cumbersome.
post #27 of 63
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Oh man, this is where I am right now, CableGirl. First time mom, and I am so freaked that people will just pelt me with doubting statements. I want to tell them my mother birthed me naturally, I'm sure I can do it as well! It's hard b/c they act like they have all the authority, but did they really prepare for birth? Did they just lay down and get hooked up? What do they really know? (speaking of people who say these kinds of things only). I think I might reply, if someone spouts this at me, well, I've raised children all day long (living/working in our family day care) and let me just assure YOU my dea that you're sure to fail miserably at that. What the heck? Why is it okay to say to someone they will fail?
Honestly, when the time comes I fully intend to invent an older sibling for using with strangers "well, I had no problems with my son." Even if I've already babbled on about this being my first baby.
post #28 of 63
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It's hard b/c they act like they have all the authority, but did they really prepare for birth? Did they just lay down and get hooked up? What do they really know?
I so hear you on that! I have a friend who has been planning fro mth every start to have an epi and to "feel nothing" for the birth. She was just explaining to me how silly I was for taking hypnobirthing classes to prepare. "Sorry, *you* may not have to prepare since your such a chicken shit that you're not even willing to give it a try, I, however, do need to prepare."

BTW, no offense intended to anyone here who is pro-epi... I just was so sick of this particular person making comments and I felt like her reasons were a total wimp cop out.
post #29 of 63
I think I was more bothered by the discouraging remarks from others than I am by the "went natural/going natural" statements.

Mom: "Don't do that to yourself, honey."
DH: "I don't think you're going to be able to do it."
Dad: "Remember when Jordan was born?"

blah blah blah.... I would have LOVED someone to say, "You're going natural??" regardless of the look of horror or shock, rather than some of the comments from my "supportive" network.
post #30 of 63
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Originally Posted by NYCVeg View Post
I screamed my head off in labor...it didn't mean I needed drugs. I'm just a screamer, apparently.
Hah! Me too. My DH was so scared for me during this last birth... I guess I was making some pretty unholy sounds. But not once did it occur to me to want drugs.
post #31 of 63
I just can't stand the look of confusion and almost disdain when you say you had a med free birth and they ask "why would you do that?" :
post #32 of 63
Have been known to say, No, I went normal.

Man, that irks people.
post #33 of 63
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Originally Posted by lovencloth View Post
I just can't stand the look of confusion and almost disdain when you say you had a med free birth and they ask "why would you do that?" :
I totally agree...like you're offering your body up for somescientific experiments. Then if you actuallly do bother (which Ihave given up doing) to explain why you would not want various drugs pumped into your systemand be strapped to a torture device then you get alled militant. how annoying is that!

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Originally Posted by mamaverdi View Post
Have been known to say, No, I went normal.

Man, that irks people.
I LOVE this! I'll have to keep that line in mind.
post #34 of 63
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Originally Posted by mamaverdi View Post
Have been known to say, No, I went normal.

Man, that irks people.
Oh, I'm gonna steal that!

ETA: Oh yeah, I'm predicting I will be screaming... BFW says if you tend to be vocal you'll probably be very vocal in birth... well, I tend to be very effusive and yell and scream (in good ways, like to get through pain when I drop something on my foot,etc) so watch out! lol
post #35 of 63
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Originally Posted by NYCVeg View Post
My ILs also kept asking, "But what if you WANT pain medication." And I kept saying, "Well, that's we're not going to the hospital. When I'm in labor, I probably will think I want pain medication--so I'm taking the option away." They REALLY didn't get that.
My MIL and my mom both said the same thing. I guess they just couldn't imagine choosing to refuse pain meds. Oh well!
post #36 of 63
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Originally Posted by CableGirl View Post

It's funny I frequently hear people who go the hospitalization, induction, epi route complain about natural birthing mothers as being so militant and judgemental.. but seriously I find the exact opposite is true. Nearly everyone i know tries to talk me out of my birth choice. Get your freaking nose out of my uterus!!! It's my choice people. And I choose to let my body do what it was designed to do, thank you very much.
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post #37 of 63
I love when I get that comment. being the UCer at heart that I am, it plays out like this:

cue wicked grin: oh, more natural than you would ever believe!
post #38 of 63
when i told an acquaintance of my parents that i was planning a natural birth (i don't know how we got ont he subject because i'm ont even pregnant) and that i was doing homebirth (UC--but i didn't mention that cuz, well, anway ...) they said the same thing to me.

and my dad said "she doesn't take advil or medication at any time. at her last dentist visit to have some work done, the dentist recommended putting her under (to sleep) while he worked (wisdom teeth removed). She refused and went with only local anesthesia and not the needled novacaine either. Just the topical. So, she won't be screaming for anything or anyone. She's too stubborn."
post #39 of 63
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Originally Posted by mamaverdi View Post
Have been known to say, No, I went normal.

Man, that irks people.
I love it! I'll have to steal that too.
post #40 of 63
Why do people expect every laboring woman to get an epi? I mean, your having a BABY, It's not like you are about to get your leg chopped off!
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