Will you find out the sex?? - Page 3

[Cersha]

Probably not. We aren't planning on having an ultrasound (unless medically ness.) so, without that, it would be hard. I can't imagine having an ultrasound and not finding out though. Great willpower for those of you that can!!

My MIL is devestated. She wants to know the sex SO bad. She thinks the peanut is a boy (which I kinda think so too) so she has ALREADY bought baby boy clothes. So much for gender neutral. =P

[OTMomma]

With dd, dh really wanted to know- and back then I wasn't very cruchy (never even considered not doing the u/s), so we found out. But I knew the day I POAS that we were having a girl.

This time I just know we are having a boy, and I don't need an u/s to tell me that. However, if I need an u/s later (which i might, I already had to have one for bleeding), I'll probably let dh decide if we find out or not. It doesn't feel like ruining a suprise because I already know, but at the same time, I wouldn't want an u/s just to see, because I know.

BTW- If this sounds nuts and you worry for my well being: if I have a girl- that would really be fine too. A healthy baby, boy or girl will be the most amazing blessing!

[matey]

Originally Posted by mommamin

Right now I will say no We found out with DD even though my mama intution told me she is girl! I don't think DH wants to know...not yet anyway

Secret;y. my intuition has been pointing to girl all along. But I dont want to go around announcing it in case my mama intuition is wrong.

[Jilian]

I had a friend who was recently told she was having a girl. Then the baby turned breech so she had a few u/s to check position. At 39 weeks or so she went in for one last position check to see if she needed a cesarean and they saw a penis. She bought all those girl clothes for nothing!

[54mama]

Nope, although I am far more tempted to this time around. I think because I think about it in terms of being a little brother or sister to my daughter. Also I'm from all girls so I feel like I sort of have to get my head around the idea that it could be a boy! But we're not going to find out. Too much fun to hear "It's a....!"

Liv

[sebarnes]

Well, we're hoping to avoid any ultrasounds this time, so I would say no!

[nocalmama]

I think I'd want to know the sex this time around. With dd we didn't want to know and I so regretted that we didn't find out, but that's part of my mistake too. Let me explain..
From the beginning of my first pregnancy I secretly hoped that my first born *would* be a boy and 2nd child *would* be a girl, and he'd take care of her, protect her, etc, etc. Throughout my pregnancy I kept thinking I was carrying a boy and bought some boy clothes . On our 20 wks us we didn't want to find out, while deceiving myself (at that time) that boy/girl would be the same. Well, when dd came out and the midwife announced that it was a girl, I had a pang of disappointment : .

However, 30 min later, after a short time of bonding with her, I was amazed by this precious little darling, and realized how much I loved her. I started to regret my initial reaction and disappointment. I regretted why I had that feeling, some times I cried why I had to give a d@mn about the sex. I felt as if I didn't accept her from the very beginning, as if I rejected her . I was really hard on myself, blaming myself for being such a bad mama. It took me months to get over it. Everyday I relived that delivery moments in that delivery room, while every second wishing I could start all over again and accepted her as she was, but of course that wasn't going to happen and I cried and cried to no end.

It seems so trivial a mistake but the impact was huge. For the mistake of that first reaction I had to pay back months and months of misery. I don't want to do that same mistake again, although right now I'd be happy if I have another girl; that means dd will have a little sister who could be her little confidante. And if I have a boy, then my family is complete. All in all, I think I'll find out the sex on our 20w us.

[StacieM]

nocalmama - don't beat yourself up. You may have still had that disappointment if you found out via u/s, the only difference would have been when. Believe me, when we found out our third was going to be another girl, I was a little disappointed, but I was so glad she looked healthy. DH and oldest DD though took it hard. Because of their reaction, I felt so sad for my baby girl, like no one wanted her but me. I thought to myself, you watch, she's going to be the most beautiful one - the one that everyone totally loves because "no one" wanted her before she was born. DH and DD loved her once she was here and, though I love all my children, I do think she is the most beautiful and everyone does love her. But that's why DH doesn't want to find out because he knows once the baby is here, he'll love the baby no matter what. KWIM? So it can sort of work either way. It's just I like to find out so that I can prepare or get used to the idea if I was hoping for something else. Of course this time, it sort of doesn't matter...I mean I'd like another boy to sort of even things out because I have 3 girls, but I do have a son already so I'm happy about that.

I just feel like I get to bond earlier knowing if baby is a boy or girl. I can imagine what things will be like - for example if it's a girl I can think about having another softball player, but if it's a boy, I can look forward to rascal faces that he'll make.

[Ks Mama]

Yes, we're finding out... as long as s/he lets us see at the 20wk ultrasound! We found out the first time, and I really liked that... I felt more "connected" to our baby - finalized our name choice on the drive home from the u/s, etc. I mostly liked being able to call DD by her name, instead of "baby".

It's funny, my mom thinks we should keep it a surprise, since we found out the first time. She never found out until birth... but I just don't want to wait that long!!

[nocalmama]

Originally Posted by StacieM

nocalmama - don't beat yourself up. You may have still had that disappointment if you found out via u/s, the only difference would have been when.

I just feel like I get to bond earlier knowing if baby is a boy or girl. I can imagine what things will be like - for example if it's a girl I can think about having another softball player, but if it's a boy, I can look forward to rascal faces that he'll make.

Yes, I totally agree with you. I'd been thinking about it at that time and I regretted not finding out the sex during us. I am sure I'd have my disappointment after us, but at least there would be time to prepare me to accept my little girl then, and by the time she was born I wouldn't have had any disappointments, regrets whatsoever, and that incident would never happen. What a huge difference it would've made. That's why this time around I want to find out the sex, if we can find it .

[StacieM]

Originally Posted by nocalmama

... by the time she was born I wouldn't have had any disappointments, regrets whatsoever, and that incident would never happen. What a huge difference it would've made. That's why this time around I want to find out the sex, if we can find it .

That's true, I supposed that way your entire birth experience would have been more positive. In that case, I hope your little one cooperates so that you can find out!