*really* young mommas! - Page 2

[Amylcd]

DH and I are 23... and currently pregnant with our 3rd baby
Our first was at 19, second at 20.

[orangefoot]

Originally Posted by zjande

Hi guys, I'm not a young mama anymore, in fact I'm nearing 33 now, but I totally wanted to sneak in here & say something. Then I'll go back to my "old lady mama" threads.

Me too. I'm just 33 and have a 7 week old dd - and a three year old dd and a nine year old ds and a thirteen year old ds.

I still look young and the number of times people have assumed that dd1 is my first then almost fall over when I say I have a 13 year old are too many to count Most of our friends of a similar age haven't had their first yet.

I have no regrets about having my children young although ds1 says by the time we are rich he will have left home!

Keep your chins up and ignore the naysayers.

[ICU812]

Originally Posted by zjande

Hi guys, I'm not a young mama anymore, in fact I'm nearing 33 now, but I totally wanted to sneak in here & say something. Then I'll go back to my "old lady mama" threads.

1. OMG I would have been SOOoOSOOoo happy to have had something like MDC back when I had my dd at age 17 (there was no internet back then). I was ecstatic to become a mama. I was AP, used cloth diaps & co-slept etc. LONG before I heard the term "AP". I knew absolutely no one who parented like me for many, many years. An online board such as this would have been such a blessing. You guys are super lucky. I'm so glad you are here!

2. I also had a tough time finding friends. I didn't even begin to feel like I related to other mamas until I was about 30. I had my dd at 17 then my ds at 23 & was a super happy AP young mama. When I reached 30 I felt like other women were *finally* catching up to me, finally having their 1st babies, & I finally started meeting other mamas that parented like me. Otherwise, most of my friends were childless & now & then it would make me really sad that I couldn't find mama friends.

Anyway, um, now I can't remember if I had a real point or if I was just gonna babble about myself.

Rock on with your bad selves young mamas.

I'm with ya mama, I'm an old mama now too, 30ish and i too would've loved to have MDC when i was pg at 17, but now that i'm 30 i would Never turn back the clock, I LOVE being 30!
Its great having ya Young Mama's!

[mamamilkbar]

I'm 18 and with 2! Had DD1 when I was 17. Now with dd2 and will be 20 in december! subbing for now as i'm nak!


ETA: DH is 21 like i said before i'm 19 will be 20 in dec... I will be starting to become a LLL leader soon and also start on become a LC. I probably won't be done for a while. I would love being a midwife someday but I will have to move to another state! so we would be allowed to birth at home!

[wende]

I'm not so young anymore but I was 15 when I had my first, 18 when I had my second, just 22 (like within days) when I had my 3rd and have since had my 4th and 5th. I get all sorts of looks, especially considering my 14yo is taller than me by at least 3inches. One woman was quite confused when she found out that Kendra was mine as well as my 18month old. She didn't believe that I was old enough to have a daughter as old as Kendra and thought Kendra was Áine's mom. The craziest thing in the world is to realize that your daughter is now the same age as you were when you got pregnant with her! Thank goodness she's never even had a boyfriend, lol.

[naturallia]

Hello-

I got pregnant with my first at 13 (stillbirth) and ttc starting at 16 and got pregnant at 17, another stillbirth, then had a live birth at 18. They thought I was so young and I told them I'd been TTC since 16 years old and they just drop their jaws to the floor and think I'm being stupid.

I'm now 25, married to DH, with a new baby boy born 7/06. At 25, I still feel like I'm a young mom.

[heatherbell]

I just wanted to jump in on this thread as well. I'm 23 and have two kiddos. I've been married for almost four years. I wouldn't change a thing either

I hate the rude comments that we get on occasion.

"You do know what causes children, right?"
"You're such the typical military wife."
"Are you ever going to finish college?"
"Don't you feel like you're missing out on being a kid?"

It stings at times but I wouldn't trade all of the gummy grins in the world for a different life.

[cfiddlinmama]

How cool that there are moms on here who had their first younger than I did! I always feel like the youngest.

naturallia - I'm so sorry for your stillbirths. That must have been so very hard.

[LilMama23]

I was 18 when I got pregnant and 19 when I had DD. I'm now 20. It's very hard being a young mama, but I wouldn't trade it for anything!!

[heamae]

Hi. I'm 21. Dh is 22. Had DD1 a month b4 I turned 20 and DD2 at 21. I love being a young mom. I cant believe how fast I bounced back from giving birth. I havent gotten any comments about being young but I swaer I get looks like ppl think Im the babysitter until I NIP.

[mrsc]

I was 18 when I got pregnant and just had my DD a month ago at 19. Dh is 25.Dh and I have been married a little over a year. I love being a young mom. I haven't gotten any comments about my age yet.

[lovebug]

im not a mama yet....may i still join?

im young (22) and have been TTC for almost 1 1/2 years....

i know what you are going through because i get this all the time!

"you are to young! why dont you wait?"
or
"you have you whole life ahead of you. do you really want this now?"

DH get home from Iraq in a few weeks and i hope and pray everyday that i will get PG this time around!

[~Demeter~]

I am not so young anymore (27) but I started pretty young. I had ds1 at 15 then became pregnant with ds2 at 18, got married to dh a few days before my 19th birthday and had ds2 a few mos later. Ds3 came about 6 weeks after my 22nd birthday. (trying to convince dh that another could be fun!) I despise the steroetype that is placed on young moms.. it used to really get to me. I stayed in school after I had ds1 and I can remember my dean telling me that having children was not part of their curriculum. : I told her at least I wanted to finish school and make something of myself and that it was wrong of her to be so judgemental and harsh. My family was very supportive (disappointed maybe but supportive) and I think that was a definite blessing. I don't think having a family young is for everybody but I sure wouldn't change my experience for the world. I love that I had my boys young and how they have shaped me as I shaped them.

Anyway that is my story and it is great to see other young mama's out there that don't fall in to the sterotypical young mom category..

[kittywitty]

Hi, all! I am 23. I have a 5yo, 4yo, and newly 2 yo. I get all the nasty looks and comments, too. Last time I got a very blatant one was on my birthday and some older lady behind me in line at the restaurant made some comments about me being too young and these being "all my kids". I gave the death stare and she apologized.

I have decided to stop being civil about it. Midlife crisis, this is the last thing I need to worry about.

I was 16 when I got pg with dd#1. They actually told me I would never have kids and I got pregnant 3 weeks after my myomectomy (it was pretty major surgery).

I wouldn't trade them for anything. I am glad I had them young. They gave me direction and a life perspective. I wouldn't have it any other way.

I do have a couple of friends with kids (very young, too) who whine all the time about how they wish they'd never had kids and how they "ruined their lives". It is very sad.

[Aura_Kitten]

i was 18 when i had my 1st too. mine are 2 and 6.


i get a LOT of comments about the fact i'm "a youngin' " and i should wait before giving any advice or anything until i "have a few more years under my belt."

[Chronic Chrissy]

Originally Posted by magstphil

so how old are your DH/SOs? Robbie is 20 (a few months younger than me).

I'm 20 and Dh is 34.

[Lizzo]

My DP is only 5 mons older than me...he turned 19 this month.

[mamatoLL]

just thought Id say Hi! I had my first at 18. and my second at 20! Im 20 now and we will be TTC our third in a year or so. Some people say to me but you missed out on all the adult fun? And I say No I didn't Im smart we will have fun when we are older and have the money to do it!

[phathui5]

You're not *really* young, just young.

I'm 22 and had my third September last year. I had my first at 16, dd at 19 and ds2 at 21.

[roomformore]

Well, I'm the ripe old age of 27 now, but I was 20 when I had twins. Dh and I have been married for 8 years. I had no friends married, let alone knew anyone with kids, when we started our family. Since having my boys I've started and finished a BSc and completed the first half of a Masters program. I should be done this coming summer with my MA and starting chiropractic college next winter. Our next child is due this December. Apparently, I don't look 27, because I keep getting comments on how I'm so young to be starting my family- I love the look on their faces when I tell them I have two 6 yr olds at home already! I don't think I've missed out on anything by being a young parent! Neither I, not DH, would change a thing! We have so much fun with our boys and can't wait for this next one to get here!