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post #261 of 373
I dunno if I count. Got preggo with my first at 17, had him when I was 18. Met my hubby when he was 18 mos old and got preggo again. I'm on my 5th (including a surrogacy, so my 4th baby) and I'm 25. Dh just turned 26. And my oldest just turned 8!!

I've learned so much since I had my first. Actually probably as a result of my first (I hated his birth, his infancy, etc-and even now its hard as he has ADHD, Epilespy, and Bipolar disorder, I have no contact with his bio father and have no clue of their history). I've moved from an OB and induction in a hospital, to midwives and homebirth.

I'm lucky because my dh just happens to have the same parenting ideals as me for the most part. He was even happy when he found out my first wasnt circ'd!! (which at the time was purely because medicaid didnt cover it and I was a cheap butt lol) We cosleep up to about 2 years, nurse as long as I want (last time it was 18 months), babywear, and cloth diaper when I'm not being too lazy to do so. I cant wait for our new little dude!!
post #262 of 373
Hello all!

I'm married to my high school sweetheart, we were good friends since Freshman year and we finally got together Junior year. Then, on our Senior prom we got married! 3 Months later I was pregnant and here I am now!

I hate all the criticism and women especially who think they know better than I do. My favorite is hearing someone say my child is going to grow up "f#cked up" because of my husband's and my age. It is SO hard to keep one's cool during such a conversation.

More power to a successful teen mom/dad. My heart goes out to all of you who went through it and all of you who currently are, you are truly amazing! I'm just learning exactly what it means for me and I must say having inspiration and strong women to follow behind makes all the difference in the world.
post #263 of 373
For those of you with multiple children, was it easier for your family to accept when you had your second? DP and I are talking about TTC. I'm excited, but I'm worried about telling my parents. They did not take my first pregnancy at all. My mother became suicidal, pressured me to adopt out the baby, divorce my father because they failed as parents, etc... My father has made negative comments about the possibility of me becoming pregnant again, soon. We still plan to TTC hopefully at the end of the year, though. Any advice on making this second go around less sucky?
post #264 of 373
I was 20 when I had DS. Dh and I got married when I was 19 and he was 24 and I became preggo a month after we got married
Now at 22, I'm pregnant with out 2nd (planned)

boigrrrlwonder, we eloped and things weren't great with my parents initially, and then we told them I was pregnant, well it seemed it'd never get better, and then my mom started getting excited about being a grandma and things turned for the better. With this one, we were trying for 10 months before I did get pregnant, and I told my mom we were thinking of having more kids soon (I didn't tell her we were trying) and she kept trying to tell me to wait, I'm still young, I can have more children later on. But I knew what I wanted, and I told her recently that we were pregnant again and she was happy for me (didn't express it in so much words..not very emotional like that, but she's always calling asking how I'm feeling, telling me to take it easy etc etc). I told her on her birthday actually. I haven't told my dad yet (I don't know if my mom said anything, he hasn't called saying anything about it..but I think he'd be happy for me, he'd probably make some wierd comment about it but I know he'd be happy)
I said that I wanted him to have a bro/sis close in age, so he won't be too lonely, if you're looking for things to say to them. Also ultimately, it's your and DP's decision.
post #265 of 373
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Dh and I got married when I was 19 and he was 24
Wow! That's cool! I'm 19 and my DP is 24, too! That's really nifty.
post #266 of 373
here is a really cool website you all might like:
http://www.girl-mom.com/
post #267 of 373
cherie, i used to love girl-mom! i stopped posting there because i felt a little odd since i am now so much older than most of the girls there, but i still lurk now and then! most of those girls really have their stuff together, it's pretty cool.
post #268 of 373
I guess there is trouble with the girl-mom site, the boards are not working, thats too bad. I hope they get it up and running again.
post #269 of 373
For all the single student mommas or mommas looking to start school, in addition to the FAFSA, there's www.raisethenation.org. They have grants and scholarships that aren't based on GPA, and they also have student loan repayment grants specifically for single moms trying to get a degree

I just started an app, and I found out about them from a link from my current school -- hope others can benefit from this info.
post #270 of 373
Hi everyone! I'm 30 now, but.....I had my girls at 17, 18 and 20!
post #271 of 373
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Originally Posted by boigrrrlwonder View Post
For those of you with multiple children, was it easier for your family to accept when you had your second? DP and I are talking about TTC. I'm excited, but I'm worried about telling my parents. They did not take my first pregnancy at all. My mother became suicidal, pressured me to adopt out the baby, divorce my father because they failed as parents, etc... My father has made negative comments about the possibility of me becoming pregnant again, soon. We still plan to TTC hopefully at the end of the year, though. Any advice on making this second go around less sucky?
It was harder. The first they were very accepting. But my 2nd 13 months later noone was supportive at all. And it seems to be the same with #3 and #4, too.
post #272 of 373
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I guess there is trouble with the girl-mom site, the boards are not working, thats too bad. I hope they get it up and running again.
I help mod at girl-mom. Our site was hacked by misogynists. We're working on getting it up and running again.
post #273 of 373
i guess i belong here! first was born when i was 19.5 and second was born when i was 21.5 (halves get me too!). i am the youngest mom in our playgroup but everyone usually forgets. i forget half the time too! i have to many responsibilites to worry about what other people think. thankfully living in abig city really dulls the hate or surprise. its usually a shocked/awed surprise when people find out how old i am. i had someone ask me a few days ago "so wht did you do before kids?".....uh....nothing...i am to young to have done anything. i am 23 next month!

i would LOVE to have 3 more in the next 4-5 yrs but i doubt it will happen. my life has never been "normal" and having this odd 2 kids, 1 boy, 1 girl, 3 bed 2 bath house and a dog is just kinda weird. its like waiting for the other shoe to drop. might as well make it a FUN shoe by just having more kids.

both are "accidnets" although the 2nd less of one since we were married and only 50% useing protection although ddn't PLAN to have another. ds on the other hand was a COMPLETE surprise..i still remember breaking down crying in the bathroom of a sh*tty little hotel where i lived and wondering what the heck was going to happen to me....to us. thankfully i knew i couldn't abort and i didn't want to give the baby up so there wasn't a whole lot of choice!

I would LOVE to go to college and learn but i wonder if i can handle it. there so many wants in my life that i wonder if i can get them all done.
post #274 of 373
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both are "accidnets"
LOL, I call both of mine "surprises".

I wanted to comment because your story sounds a lot like mine!

- Unmarried and BAM! Pregnant with #1, then married, but didn't plan on another and were pretty 'safe' until BAM! #2.

- Military wife? DH was in the Marine Corps for the first 2 years of our marriage Who is your hubby with?

My DS is an Ethan too
post #275 of 373
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LOL, I call both of mine "surprises".

I wanted to comment because your story sounds a lot like mine!

- Unmarried and BAM! Pregnant with #1, then married, but didn't plan on another and were pretty 'safe' until BAM! #2.

- Military wife? DH was in the Marine Corps for the first 2 years of our marriage Who is your hubby with?

My DS is an Ethan too
they were certainly surprises! i always say good accidents too! dh is with af. we have another 1ish years before reup but i think he will...and with the economy i think he should.

ethan seemed to be catching on right after i named ds. course now ayla is starting to catch on i really wanted unique but not names that were easily made fun off.
post #276 of 373
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dh is with af. we have another 1ish years before reup but i think he will...and with the economy i think he should.
DH was in the MC and I couldn't wait to get out. I just hated being away from my family and the military telling us where to go/live. Plus, back then, the pay was at poverty level (not easy with 2 babies and a SAHM). I hear the AF is much better, especially now. One of my really good friends' DH is in the AF and they love it

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ethan seemed to be catching on right after i named ds. course now ayla is starting to catch on i really wanted unique but not names that were easily made fun off.
I know! I had the name Ethan picked out in '98 (it was going to be DD's name if she turned out to be a boy). It's crazy how popular it is now. DD is Victoria/Tori and that's fairly rare at the moment.

Ayla, how pretty!
post #277 of 373
my kids names are just good, sturdy, old-fashioned boy names. which, at the time, were unusual! now, two of 'em are in the top 10. figures. at least i don't know anyone else who name their kids that name that year, kwim?

although i had dropped out at 16, in my graduating class, at graduation, there were 4 girls who were pregnant that i knew well, a couple who we found out later were pregnant, and few others who'd had an abortion that year. which sounds like a lot, but my class was a couple hundred kids, so not so bad maybe? how about you gals?
post #278 of 373
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Originally Posted by SAHDS View Post
DH was in the MC and I couldn't wait to get out. I just hated being away from my family and the military telling us where to go/live. Plus, back then, the pay was at poverty level (not easy with 2 babies and a SAHM). I hear the AF is much better, especially now. One of my really good friends' DH is in the AF and they love it



I know! I had the name Ethan picked out in '98 (it was going to be DD's name if she turned out to be a boy). It's crazy how popular it is now. DD is Victoria/Tori and that's fairly rare at the moment.

Ayla, how pretty!
oh i like tori!! thats nice. victoria is proffessional for when she's older and i always LOVED nicknames...but i never got one.

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my kids names are just good, sturdy, old-fashioned boy names. which, at the time, were unusual! now, two of 'em are in the top 10. figures. at least i don't know anyone else who name their kids that name that year, kwim?

although i had dropped out at 16, in my graduating class, at graduation, there were 4 girls who were pregnant that i knew well, a couple who we found out later were pregnant, and few others who'd had an abortion that year. which sounds like a lot, but my class was a couple hundred kids, so not so bad maybe? how about you gals?
i dropped out at 17 but my junior year i went to 2 differnt HS. didn't really get to know many people that well. there was 1 person i knew in the senior class a few years ahead of me was pg but still going to school. it was uncommen to be pg yet commen. Commen if you were dropped out and "shacking up" with your BF and he was working..typical "white trash" situation. it was UNcommen for pg girls to stay in school i think. i wasn't much on the gossip or popular side of things so i am not sure about "scares" or almosts and what not.
post #279 of 373
How do you mamas in school balance it all? I find being an AP mama is so time consuming, and while I so desperately want to finish my degree, it's not my first priority. I do want to finish, but I'd so much rather SAH with my LO. I was a sophmore in college when we got married and I left in hope of going back soon. But not anytime soon anymore since we are expecting another one at the end of the year. (Planned)
post #280 of 373
hi all, i guess i belong here, i had my first at 18, my second at 21 and my third 5 mos ago at 25. i was raising the girls alone (other than a year of hell with my ex who didn't help anyhow) until a year and a half ago when i married my highschool sweetheart, who is my oldest bio dad. He just adopted dd2 this year, and we had ds. We live in a tiny house and often get jokes made about being so young, especially when hanging with highschool friends, b/c its then we realize, wow, we have a 7 yr old
I have often gotten the "you look too young to have kids" even when i'm just with ds, so when i tell ppl, yeah, i have two others too, i get blank stares. or i tell them, yeah, i am too young, but i wouldnt have it any other way

nice to meet you all!
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