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post #321 of 373
I just smile and nod when I get bad advice from strangers. It's not like I'll ever see these people again so who cares? Crazy old ladies.
post #322 of 373
hi everyone,
i had my DS when I was 22 (will be 24 in September).. which I don't think is *really* young, but to some I am At times, I wish I had waited a little longer.. but most of the time I love being a young mom. It's what I've wanted. He is truly a blessing.
post #323 of 373
Hey Maggie, me too. About the failure thing.
post #324 of 373
23 here, DS is almost 3, DD is 16 mos.

My fave is when people check out my ring finger, and especially when they think I don't notice. Sometimes if they look very judgemental I'll hold out my hand towards their face so they can get a better look.

Not that it matters to ME if someone is married, but sheesh, people sure are bothered by a (young and GASP potentially unmarried)woman having babies.
post #325 of 373
hey mamas... just catching up ugh i meet another young mama the other day she is 22 and has a 7 month old.. she keeps insisting on givind me adive b/c she helped raise her neices so she knows. she has criticized me wearing my ds, cloth diapering, co sleeping, no CIO and most of all my relactation attempts and pumping. telling me a whole bunch of crazy crap about letting her newborn cry it out and only holding when necessary.. she is a good friend of dp (thank god he doesnt agree with her at all) and mostly i keep my mouth shut.. but sometimes i just want to scream that she is a terrible mother and should give her poor neglected daughter to someone who loves her. ugh. she smoked through her pregnancy and says bf isnt good unless the mother eats well and takes vitamins.. otherwise formula is better. oh and i almost kicked her out of my house for this. she told me we should go get ds circed right now b/c it is disgusting and unsanitary and he will hate me when he grows up and has to get circed then b/c every uncirced guy she knows cant wait to be circed .. i would bet my right arm that one is total crap.. but ugh i just sometimes i can barely keep my temper. she says she lets her dd cry so she can clean.. and now she doesnt cry (or smile or make eye contact) and tells me how much im going to regret everything especially wearing ds b/c he'll always want to be held. to that i finally told her that i love holding my son and i do it as much as i can which is why instead of letting him cry i wear him while i clean. and that i dont consider holding him and loving him a burden or a problem to be resolved but a privildege that brings me joy everyday. she goes yeah well see how long that lasts your really going to regret it when he still wants to be held all the time as a toddler. then what are you going to do. i looked at her and said.. uh same thing i am now. she said nothing.. which was good... cuz i might have lost it. i love knowing there are young mamas with common sense out there this thread makes me feel less alone
post #326 of 373
also i feel like we should get our own little sub forum under parenting that way when we needed support from people in our same situation we wouldnt have to go digging around in the find your tribe section. plus i think as young mamas we encounter trials and tribulations that other mamas may not ya know?
post #327 of 373
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hey mamas... just catching up ugh i meet another young mama the other day she is 22 and has a 7 month old...
That poor baby.
post #328 of 373
Hello. My name is Marga I had my DD when i was 20, i am now 22. Being a young mom is hard i've seen alot of rough stuff happen. Fortunetly I met my DH when DD was 6 weeks old. We got married and he has taken her as his own. Being a young mom i get alot of unwanted advice, most of the time i just smile and say thank you, but when the advice gets pushy or it get degrading i usually say in my sweetest voice "thank you so much for the unwanted advice!" Usually throws anyone off track.
I'd love to meet other young moms. I believe that young moms may be young in age, but we are mentally old enough to be great parents! I love being a young mom because i can also grow up with my children!

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post #329 of 373
Hello young mamas,

I'm not subbing cause I SO no longer qualify for the title. But, I did once. I had my first son when I was 18, my second at 20. Then I had my daughter 12 yrs later and am expecting my third son in July.

I am so proud to be able to claim all of you as members of my very extended AP family. I had No idea how to parent the way I do now when I was 18 and 20. Not only did I have no idea these kinds of ideas were out there I don't know if I would have accepted them then.

Here's to a new generation of AP mother's, and age difference or no, if you're ever in Albq, look me up!

TK
post #330 of 373
Hey I am a young mother, I was 16 when I fell pregnant 17 when I gave birth to my son.I am now 18 and my son is 11 months old.
post #331 of 373
I am 20, ill be 21 in a month!! Got married a month after my 18th birthday, had our daughter at 19 and she is now 15 months and now I am due with baby #2 in November!
post #332 of 373
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I am 20, ill be 21 in a month!! Got married a month after my 18th birthday, had our daughter at 19 and she is now 15 months and now I am due with baby #2 in November!
Congrats!
post #333 of 373
just bumping.. and seeing how everyone is doing. neostudded i read your post in the vax forum... stand your ground.. you are doing what is best for your little guy and she needs to repsect that whether or not she agrees with it... i vax but i support your decision not to.. and i dont even know you..shes your mother.. she should definately support you... moms can be hard mine is convinced that i am doing this 'sling organic cloth diaper crap' to prove to people im a good mom. i was like uh mom.. im not doing it to prove im a good mom.. im doing it b/c i am a good mom . she said but you dont have to do all that stuff (im also relactating which she thinks is really creepy) and im very overprotective about ds with other people and needing to be with me and needing to sleep etc. she said thats what older moms do im a young mom im supposed to be naive and oblivious. wtf?!
post #334 of 373
Hi, I'm brand new to mothering so please forgive me for jumping right in. My name is Sarah, I'm 22 and pregnant with #4 : I adore my children and wouldn't have it any other way. I have a 3 and a half year old-Brody, 2 year old-Mason, Almost 10 month old-Orin and I'm 26 weeks along with baby Aidan. Yup I've been blessed with 4 beautiful bouncing baby boys! I'm completely surrounded. I've been with the same man since I was 16, we were both virgins when we got together now almost 6 years later here we are with four kids! I've read about a lot of you on this thread and you really are a shining example of how terrific young moms can be! I hope all your dreams come true!

BTW I too can't stand the unwanted "advice" all the time and all the dirty looks. We happen to no be on any assisstance and never have been (Not that there is anything wrong with it, it just seems like if you are young they automatically assume you are).
post #335 of 373
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Yup I've been blessed with 4 beautiful bouncing baby boys! I'm completely surrounded.
I'm with ya with being out numbered. Although my limit was 3.
post #336 of 373
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Originally Posted by Sarah_Mom2Many View Post
Hi, I'm brand new to mothering so please forgive me for jumping right in. My name is Sarah, I'm 22 and pregnant with #4 : I adore my children and wouldn't have it any other way. I have a 3 and a half year old-Brody, 2 year old-Mason, Almost 10 month old-Orin and I'm 26 weeks along with baby Aidan. Yup I've been blessed with 4 beautiful bouncing baby boys! I'm completely surrounded. I've been with the same man since I was 16, we were both virgins when we got together now almost 6 years later here we are with four kids! I've read about a lot of you on this thread and you really are a shining example of how terrific young moms can be! I hope all your dreams come true!

BTW I too can't stand the unwanted "advice" all the time and all the dirty looks. We happen to no be on any assisstance and never have been (Not that there is anything wrong with it, it just seems like if you are young they automatically assume you are).
How wonderful for you! It sounds like you have an amazing family!
post #337 of 373
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Yup I've been blessed with 4 beautiful bouncing baby boys! I'm completely surrounded.

yep, right there with you, i'm completely surrounded by testosterone here.. even the cats are male! welcome to the boards!
post #338 of 373
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Originally Posted by magstphil View Post
i am 21 and on my 3rd.
me too!
(okay i realize you posted this in '06, but me too now!)
i turned 22 exactly 6 weeks after having my dd.

I'm also lds =)
post #339 of 373
Do I qualify as a really young momma? I turn 23 on Friday.
post #340 of 373
Yes, 23 is young!
By the way, I would love to have an actual young parents forum on mothering, not just this thread. I find with really long threads it is easy to lose track of all the posts.

1littlebit, thanks for your support.
My mother also try's to claim I do what I do to "prove" I am a good mother.
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