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post #341 of 373
Yes, 23 is young!
By the way, I would love to have an actual young parents forum on mothering, not just this thread. I find with really long threads it is easy to lose track of all the posts.

1littlebit, thanks for your support.
My mother also try's to claim I do what I do to "prove" I am a good mother.

how is the breastfeeding going?
post #342 of 373
Hey ladies. I'm going to go ahead and join in here. After 14 months of ttc, I'm finally pregnant! I just turned 21 and DH is 22. I work as a waitress right now and I'm already dreading some of the old-fashioned southern fried comments I'm going to get from people who think I'm too young or pregnant by suprise.

Gotta go find something to ease my tummy. Looking forward to getting to know you ladies.
post #343 of 373
bump.
post #344 of 373
How is everyone?
post #345 of 373
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Originally Posted by SimplyRochelle View Post
Hey ladies. I'm going to go ahead and join in here. After 14 months of ttc, I'm finally pregnant! I just turned 21 and DH is 22. I work as a waitress right now and I'm already dreading some of the old-fashioned southern fried comments I'm going to get from people who think I'm too young or pregnant by suprise.

Gotta go find something to ease my tummy. Looking forward to getting to know you ladies.
i was a pg waitress too! really meant i didn' have to exercise at all after carting around trays and plates for 6-8 hours. i never even had swollen feet! i was 18/19 at the time as well. couldn't even tell i was pg until the 6th month b/c of the apron (full not half). most of the comments i had were just congrats. i worked in tulsa OK so i was in the bible belt. best thing was that i was the only pg person waitressing and one other girl had a baby about halfay through mine so i got to see her baby. she worked as a cook though in the back. everyone let me get free food or carried HUGE trays for me (when i reached my 8th month and it was to hard to hold a tray out that far). I hope you have wonderful commentsand luck! i thought it would be great to wear a pin saying something about "tips are for harvard" or something
post #346 of 373
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Originally Posted by magstphil View Post
i was wondering if there were any other *really* young mommas out there. i am 21 and on my 3rd. we started at 17 (18 when she was born). i'd love to get to know some younger moms or moms who have been through it to discuss in particular the stigma society places on us being so young.
Sorry to crash your group but dude, Mags, you are 21?!?!?!?!?!?!

:

You are an old soul, my friend.
post #347 of 373
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How is everyone?
I feel like I've been hit by a train and I probably look like it too. Haven't slept good in a couple of days.

On a happy note my 9 month old took his first steps last night! :

How are you?
post #348 of 373
*yawn*

how is everyone doing today?

oh- congrats rochelle!
post #349 of 373
I am alright, just finding out information about whooping cough, my son caught it from a vaccine at four months of age. He is 12 months now but is sick and I noticed he has a whooping cough like cough and I am trying to find out what to do. I don't want the health care practitioner to misdiagnose him with something else.

Oh wow cheap pearls, that's exciting! my son was an early walker to (eight months) they grow up to soon!
Dont worry, my son is sick and I look like I have been hit by a train to, just spent the last few days carrying and feeding him constantly.
post #350 of 373
Hey Neostudded, I just wanted to say I think you rock for standing up for what you believe. I know, that sounds lame eh? Like, oh, you're so young, blah blah
But seriously, i was 18 when i had my first, and single, and i had no idea. I wasn't anywhere near where you already are. I wish i'd had internet and mothering then, i just did what i was told, some of it against what i felt in my heart. I quit bfing b/c i was told to, and only cd for 6 mos, etc. So rock on Mama!
Oh and I read elsewhere that your mama nursed you til 5? That rocks! My mama only nursed me 3 weeks, then quit b/c doc told her to. she woulda never nursed that long though anyhow, b/c she worked, and just doesnt think you should. We hope to though!
Thats all, I'll quit being a lameo now
post #351 of 373
katbomumof3, aw Thanks so much for your post.

I think I just have a lot of support (online) and that makes all of the difference. I had the internet though my pregnancy and the internet has been a wonderful resource for me.

Though I still had to stand up for myself, I learned that people tend to try and push you around if you are a young mother. They try to push you around more if you do something that is not mainstream, people get shocked and don't understand why you would do something differently to what most people do.

It is incredibly difficult being a mother single mother, I tend not to dwell on it but it is, it is hard finding other people your age with babies. (a lot of young mother loose all their friends when they fall pregnant). Then there is a stigma attached to being a young mother, being a single mother, breastfeeding...The list goes on.
post #352 of 373
A lot of my friends didn't stand by me when i was pregs, and then i was single, it really sucked. Even now, i'm 26, and i still get the looks, like wth would you do that? bf, cd, etc etc. Its annoying. Plus i look the total hippy all the time I think i'm losing friends irl all the time b/c they think i'm totally weird. Oh well, i'm doing best by my fam:
post #353 of 373
Yeah, "friends" kind of just faded away when I got pregnant with my oldest at 17. It sucked but a couple did stick around. It really shows who your friends are.

In my mom's group, I'm the youngest by 6 years and I'm the only one with more then one child and I have to 2 oldest.... I'm glad that we connected and age doesn't matter at all. I've always been worried about that, joining a playgroup and being shunning because I'm young (22 yrs). I don't really care what people think but having friends can be a real sanity saver. Nice open minded non judgmental friends. :
post #354 of 373
I guess I'll join here. I was 18 when I got pregnant with DD, 19 when she was born. I'm 22 and pregnant with #2. My mom is *still* like "Why are you ruining your life?!? How are you going to take care of them?!?! Etc." DH and I have been married almost 4 years. It's not like we don't know what happens. :
post #355 of 373
Hello all, I am still here I turned 21 August 8th!!
post #356 of 373
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Originally Posted by bmcneal View Post
I guess I'll join here. I was 18 when I got pregnant with DD, 19 when she was born. I'm 22 and pregnant with #2. My mom is *still* like "Why are you ruining your life?!? How are you going to take care of them?!?! Etc." DH and I have been married almost 4 years. It's not like we don't know what happens. :
I know its irritating! I'm 22 with one DD had her at 20. I've been married almost a year now and we are thinking of another one, my mother is also the same way asking why we would want to "do that to ourselves". She waited 10 years between DC! I don't want to do that, personally. We have have to remind ourselves that we are strong and no one can tell us how to live our lives. If you are ready then you are ready and no one can judge us rightfully. Be strong mama!
post #357 of 373
Hi everyone! Can I join?! I had my DD 3 days after my 16th birthday. She's now a crazy toddler refusing to play with daddy. Lol..

I'm all for a seperate forum for young parents. It's about the only category not covered!
post #358 of 373
I got pregnant at 17 and had my ds at 18. Now he just turn 4 and is getting ready to start pre-k next week. I luv to see how exited he is. Anyways I thank God everybody were really supportive when they found out, but i still remember my father calling me crying, sad because I'm still he's baby girl, he's 1st born but also happy because he was going to be a grand daddy for the 1st time and cuz my bf was there 4 me.
post #359 of 373
probaly to old to reply...excuse the typing errors nak

I am a 30 YIKES year old mom to 5 kiddos starting with a 12 year old dd to a 5 mth old ds. I know exactly what you all are going through..
People sometimes suck but hey all I usually say back is MY KIDS ROCK. They listen they behave and they are smart. I am glad that I was blessed with the opportunity to enjoy them.
post #360 of 373
my DS that i got pregnant with at 17 has just started 4th grade. i may still be a "young mama" in the grand scheme of things, but that makes me feel old!
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