Dr Ticked Me Off I am Confused Now....

[Aquafina]

: Man I feel like just doing this on my own now...I went to the Dr yesterday,for a weekly check....He said I was a centimeter dialated and that the baby was way down in my pelvis,and baby should be here in the next couple of weeks......Well last night my back hurts like I got ran over by a mack truck and I have major nausea on top of all this dried brown blood is coming out of me....So I call his office this morning wait forever,talk to his nurse ask her if this is normal,she rude and says yea when you get checked its bound to happen....And I have nothing to worry about beacuse I am only a cenimeter dialated,I ask her if I can still exercise and she in a rude tone goes if you feel up to it.....I am sooooo mad I dont know if this is normal since I was induce with ds so I never went throw this....I am sooooooooo sick of Drs and there God complex and thinking people should know this stuff: : : Sorry had to vent and ask if I should be concerned??????

[zoebird]

why not just do it yourself?

i mean, answer your own question as to whether or not you should be concerned? and then from that, if you want to p ut up with doctors and why? and from that, whether you just want to do it yourself or not?

[gen_here]

You have every right to be ticked... they should have told you that you might experience some bleeding and cramping after an internal exam.

Honestly, she was rude. First, an internal exam doesn't tell you anything as far as dilation - you could walk around at 3 for weeks or be totally closed and go into labor that night. So, your cramps could have been a labor sign (but if you're not still experiencing them, consider them pre-labor practice).

You do NOT have to have internal exams every week - you don't have to have them at all - it is your right to refuse them if you want to.

[candipooh]

I agree with gen_here Don't let them do any more exams. s the last part of pregnancy can be so hard!!

[sapphire_chan]

Originally Posted by zoebird

why not just do it yourself?

i mean, answer your own question as to whether or not you should be concerned? and then from that, if you want to p ut up with doctors and why? and from that, whether you just want to do it yourself or not?

I thought she meant, should she be concerned about how she was treated?

[laohaire]

I think that was in response to this comment from the OP.

Originally Posted by Aquafina

: Man I feel like just doing this on my own now...

Yes, you were treated terribly. Shame on people like that.

I have decided I won't get any internal exams at all next time, if there is a next time. I had a homebirth and my MW didn't check until 39.5 weeks, thankfully, but within a few hours my membranes had ruptured... prematurely, as it turned out, and the labor dragged on and on, even after inducing with cohosh. It wasn't horrible, but I think it would have been better if it had not happened that way.

[gentlebirthmothr]

Originally Posted by gen_here

You have every right to be ticked... they should have told you that you might experience some bleeding and cramping after an internal exam.

Honestly, she was rude. First, an internal exam doesn't tell you anything as far as dilation - you could walk around at 3 for weeks or be totally closed and go into labor that night. So, your cramps could have been a labor sign (but if you're not still experiencing them, consider them pre-labor practice).

You do NOT have to have internal exams every week - you don't have to have them at all - it is your right to refuse them if you want to.

aquafina,

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on this, :, , to what Genieve said to you on this.

Thats why again I will definetly will give birth in an free standing birth center, but in walking disatice of a hospital just in an case if something goes wrong and not the midwifes or their staff making lies up to make me go the hospital.

Wondering why most women think modern medicine or formula or parenting then what we got since beginning of time? Plus, my family, close friends, and friends are in the same boat as on here. In Canada, think all of Europe, New Zealand as well, but not sure if they do. Are pretty much not for what USA is, but not for breastfeeding or parenting, as I know of.

All of the questions I answer so far on this topic are warning you against what will happen if you follow the other posters on modern medicine or formula or parenting and they think of me I'm milant or a lunatic which I'm not. I feel that getting pregnant or pregnant or birth or feeding your baby or parenting your baby should be done the way it always has before modern times. Pretty much been for this.
Don't even read the other posters or doctors or nurses or any others in healthcare field as well above or below here and their answers because they are definetly wrong for sure. The reason why is because medical birth hasn't been around since the beginning of time and has been here for since medival, spl times as I think. Personally, I'm not for this kind of birth, but when it is truly a medical necessary and not made up to medical necessary and scaring you and your family, friends, and etc. I know I haven't been pregnant or give birth yet, but that will happen in the future. Since ever subscribing to Mothering Magazines and like how I see things now from the past. Also, I volunteer in Maternity Department at the local hospital by me, so I see, and etc there as well. I recommed you don't show up for your the rest of doctor's appointments or don't consult the doctor or its office or the hospital either pre regisation or admission test or the section, and so on. Definetly don't listen to your dh or any of your family or friends or doctor or others . Definetly get a midwife that's isn't mainstream or stuff like that. Also, please try to breastfeed afterwards because it's it much more better then formula. Breastfeeding as around since the beginning of time and formula was introducted last half century so breastfeeding is way better then formula again. Also, do attactment parenting more then mainstream parenting because again it has been around since beginning of time and not like mainstream parenting when it has been around for at least a century now. Think thats it and good luck with it.

Source(s):

Baby Center (You need to register in able to get into the site, but it is worth it at the end), Books, Compleat Mother Magazine, Dr. Sarah J Buckley, Joyous Birth, KellyMom, Medscape (You need to register in order to view the site, don't worry to have consumer part of it as well), Midwifery Today Magazine, Mothering Magazine, Our Bodies, Ourselves, The Mother Magazine, WebMD (Recommed register, its not necessary, but still its good, it as well to view to the other stuff on there), Me as well

[boobjuice]

who's having the baby, you or the doctor - you.
who's delivering the baby, you or the doctor - technically you.
but yet they get the credit.

sorry they were rude to you.

if you feel you need to do something whether complain or choose an alternate birthing plan/place you should, it is your birth, you should be in control and you should definately not be abused under any circumstances!