Am I being Over Protective of DS? - Page 2

[wasabi]

Originally Posted by Evan&Anna's_Mom

For me, unless I know of driving problems, it doesn't make sense to trust myself and not others. Really, accidents are just that -- accidents that can't be predicted or really prevented. Some nut is just as likely to run a red light and plow into me as my mother. I trust those I allow my children to spend time with to do lots of other things that carry risk, why not drive? If I am comfortable leaving my children in their care, why should I exclude driving? And why should I limit my kid's lives by doing so? That's my take, anyway.

ITA. It doesn't come up often because we live so far away from family but when there are visits my girls do ride in the cars of their GPs. I always install the carseat. They've also gone out with their Godmother driving and again I install the carseats. No big deal. So yeah to me it would be overprotective not to allow the grandparents to drive the child unless their is a track record of reckless driving.

[lilyka]

if I trust them to watch them then i trust them to drive them. (the only exception was our 15 year old babysitter who had just goten her liscence - like the day before. i told her she could drive them to the park - six block, no turning - and she took them to the busiest intersection in town and hit th stores on every corner. Insanity for an experianced driver.) I may insist on installing the carseat and making sure they know how to buckel it but yes i wouldd absolutely trust them to drive. of course all of my family has very good driving records. if they were prone to drunk driving, getting tickets or causing accidents then no way. but otherwise it would never occur to me to not let my children ride with someone else. heck sometimes my friends and I misx them up just for fun. especially once they are out of infant seats.

so maybe a bit overprotective but perhaps more bording on a control thing.

[choli]

Yes, unless you have some reason to believe the driver to be incompetent or unsafe, you are being overprotective.

[KayasMama04]

I don't see why not..I mean im alive my mom drove me around and dh is alive...I let my family drive her around its not my biggest protection issue.

[Katie Bugs Mama]

Originally Posted by meowee

Yes, you are being overprotective. If your DC's grandparents/ close aunt/ unlces have clen and safe driving records, have no substance abuse issues, you should let them drive your DC short distances, IMO.

I've got to agree with this. If I trust someone to take care of dd alone, then I trust them to drive her around.

[aywilkes]

Originally Posted by onlyzombiecat

I don't get the fuss over wanting to drive a young child around anyway.

Have you ever seen grandparents out with their grandchildren? Very happy, loving, good, clean fun time. Grandparents take delight in their grandchildren - keeps them young. THAT would be the fuss. I doubt they just want to transport a young child and are irritated with that. Usually grandparents would want to do something special with their grandchild unsupervised and are unable to do that if they can't transport the child around.

[luv my 2 sweeties]

Originally Posted by aywilkes

Have you ever seen grandparents out with their grandchildren? Very happy, loving, good, clean fun time. Grandparents take delight in their grandchildren - keeps them young. THAT would be the fuss. I doubt they just want to transport a young child and are irritated with that. Usually grandparents would want to do something special with their grandchild unsupervised and are unable to do that if they can't transport the child around.

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My parents love to take the kids to do special things, and I love to let them! If I didn't allow them to drive the kids, they would have missed out on countless trips to festivals, museums, kid events, etc. Not to mention the childhood pleasure of going out for ice cream with someone who doesn't care how much of it you eat or how much of a mess you make!

It would be hypocritical of me to not allow certain other people to drive my kids. I'm not a bad driver, but I don't think I'm a *better* driver than most of my family and friends. I strongly susupect my father is a *better* driver than I am, and my mom is just as good or better. I also allow the kids to ride with other adults occassionally -- either my friends or the parents of their friends (who are usually at least casual friends of mine as well.) My kids are in boosters now, but when they had strap-in car seats, I did insist on installing the car seat in the other person's car -- even my parents.

[daniedb]

I'm with the majority, if I feel comfortable leaving Henry with someone alone, then I trust that person to drive him. The list is short, but I trust the people I trust implicity. My ILs, as of right now, are nowhere even close to being able to drive him around in the evenings, as they almost always drink an alcoholic beverage or two and then think it's okay to drive. Therefore, we never leave him alone with them and avoid the whole issue.

[dianneharp]

I allow my child to be driven by me and my Hubby only. Just don't feel too secure with other people.

[chickieleighc]

DS has been driven around by his grandparents, but only while I'm in the car with them. I think the issue here, though, is that DS just doesn't go anywhere without me.

[phathui5]

I do think it's overprotective. Unless there's a reason not to trust your IL's to drive, I think that you should ease up.