Hi! I am an unschooling mom of a 6 yr old dd and a 3 yr old ds. I am finding, like many unschoolers, that I lean to the tendency of unschooling "everything but math" However, I have not started any "formal math" ie: a flashcard set, a curriculum, bought cusinaire rods, etc as I am too d@#mn scared about this whole issue Dd actually read a Franklin book almost completely word for word yesterday (!!!!) and after about 6 months of not picking up a pen has started to write again, and I KNOW she knows the alphabet from memory from just playing around and making "lists" like me, and now has picked up an interest in spelling, and can tell me about all sorts of fascinating subjects, but I cannot seem to trust in this math area even though I can trust in all the others and see what a "fit" unschooling is for her.

On the suggestion of someone on a message board, I bought the Family Math activity book (for young children ages 4-8) I flipped through it, and to sit and "do" this with dd seems silly to me, along with all my other mental conversation of "is this too 'teachy' " running through my head. Except for the "bean salad" exercise (basic algerbraic thinking) I know that dd could do pretty much all of these activities. I looked at a scope and sequence for my province and know she could tell me of 3 objects which is first, 2nd third, etc.

I keep trying to tell myself she can "get" these concepts because of things that have come up in discussions in real life, things like understanding time, faster vs slower, bigger vs smaller, the concept of adding, etc but when I see those workbooks in the store that show adding 24+7 for a grade one-er I freak! I know there is math, and there is arithmatic, and I keep focusing on the arithmetic as that is what I remember in school, times table drills, reciting addition facts over and over to memorize them,etc. I was actually good at math in school BTW but because I knew how to, but not why, to work the formulas.

I guess in thinking about this I am not sure where to "go from here". So much of just playing Monopoly Jr. or something makes me feel like I have a hidden adgenda (like the previous discussion of strewing talks about) so here I sit paralyzed and not able to do much in the math area. I have visions of my kids at 15 not being able to calculate quickly and having to count on their fingers (!) although I know math is so much more than that.

Can anyone with older unschoolers give me any advice, or what worked for you? I want ot order some things from FUN books (because I need to be doing something, right ) like Grandfather Tang's story (tangrams...she loves puzzles anyway) or Peggy Kaye's Games for math but I am afraid I will have the same problems as before.

Tina

On the suggestion of someone on a message board, I bought the Family Math activity book (for young children ages 4-8) I flipped through it, and to sit and "do" this with dd seems silly to me, along with all my other mental conversation of "is this too 'teachy' " running through my head. Except for the "bean salad" exercise (basic algerbraic thinking) I know that dd could do pretty much all of these activities. I looked at a scope and sequence for my province and know she could tell me of 3 objects which is first, 2nd third, etc.

I keep trying to tell myself she can "get" these concepts because of things that have come up in discussions in real life, things like understanding time, faster vs slower, bigger vs smaller, the concept of adding, etc but when I see those workbooks in the store that show adding 24+7 for a grade one-er I freak! I know there is math, and there is arithmatic, and I keep focusing on the arithmetic as that is what I remember in school, times table drills, reciting addition facts over and over to memorize them,etc. I was actually good at math in school BTW but because I knew how to, but not why, to work the formulas.

I guess in thinking about this I am not sure where to "go from here". So much of just playing Monopoly Jr. or something makes me feel like I have a hidden adgenda (like the previous discussion of strewing talks about) so here I sit paralyzed and not able to do much in the math area. I have visions of my kids at 15 not being able to calculate quickly and having to count on their fingers (!) although I know math is so much more than that.

Can anyone with older unschoolers give me any advice, or what worked for you? I want ot order some things from FUN books (because I need to be doing something, right ) like Grandfather Tang's story (tangrams...she loves puzzles anyway) or Peggy Kaye's Games for math but I am afraid I will have the same problems as before.

Tina

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