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post #1 of 30
Thread Starter 
Well, I have had two phone conversations today one with my father and the other with my mil about no candy in my ds's Easter basket...and they both are throwing a fit. I suggested books and clothes....
My son is 3 BTW....

So are you ok with chocolate in your little ones Easter baskets?
Or am I just being to much.....lol..

(hope this is not a repeat thread)
post #2 of 30
Our DD is only 10months old, but we also do not approve of candy in the basket. This is your decision, not theirs. Whatever you say is what goes, IMO. For DD's basket, we're putting a couple of toys and books in there. As she gets older, we'll keeping doing the same thing. I think one or two goodies is okay, but I'd try to lean on the healthier side (maybe cookies made w/ whole wheat flour and fruit juice, etc). Anyway, don't be afraid to put your foot down. If they don't like it, that's their problem.
post #3 of 30
I am sorry. I think candy is a nice treat every now and then. As a child it was the only time we ever got candy and we loved it. for dd we will put mostly stuff in the baskets ut there will also be a small chocolate bunny. It is just fun to have a little candy every now and then. Although this should be your choice and not theirs.
post #4 of 30
I agree with lilyka. We give ds chocolate on occasion - the good, high quality stuff (partly because I don't have issues with him having sugar on rare occasions and partly because I have to have my occasional fix and don't like to sneak around :LOL).

I don't know if this would help you feel any better about the possibility of it (because ultimately it is your decision - not the grandparents') but there have been some studies recently showing that chocolate may have some great health benefits. Here's an article for starters:


(We need an easter bunny smiley!)
post #5 of 30
Or perhaps a smiley with a guilty looking smile and chocolate smeared on his face :LOL

I bet you can guess the real reason I like to put chocolate in my childrens basket . . .

"hey, there, can mommy have a bite of that bunny . . . "

The bunny, the bunny, ooo I love the bunny. i don't love my soup or my bread just the bunny, the bunny the bunny . . .
post #6 of 30
As a child, the most disappointing things you could put in my easter basket were Chocolate bunnies, Cadbury Cream Eggs and Peeps! Talk about gross.

I think it's YOUR decision. My mom wanted to have DS hunt for eggs. Like he's going to care at all? And then she wondered if I'd let him eat them? WHAT? She asked about chocolate too.

It's your choice. Maybe the grandparents need to find some healthier snacks...maybe some of the neat fruit chewies found in the baby aisle at the grocery? At 3 years old, you'd think he'd like the all natural ones and they are fun to play with. There's also the fruit and snack bars that are like treats, but a bit (not much I reckon) healthier.

It's really up to you!
post #7 of 30
Actually those fruit chewies will rot their teeth much faster than chocolate--and the preservatives in them are much more icky!

I think moderation is the key--I am always appreciative that my parents care so much that they want to buy for my kids (they spend hours trying to find the right things and planning surprises--it really is sweet) but have to always remind them to cool it with the candy. I think one good, high quality chocolate bunny and maybe even an evil marshmellow peep (what would easter be with out a dayglo chick?) along with a soft stuffed animal is wonderful.
post #8 of 30
Are they the only one's making baskets? Are you doing one too? With my kids I put a few chocolates, a book and a bunny. I wouldn't want them to get 3 baskets full of chocolate... way to much!!!!
But it is up to you!

post #9 of 30
I put candy in the baskets. I don't think there's anything wrong with a special treat once in a while.
post #10 of 30
We are doing a small basket for dd with no food- just colouring books and such. Dh's are doing a basket for her, too. Theirs is pretty much the same as ours, plus one chocolate bunny, which we agreed would be ok.

Amy, mom to Tsuneo, 09/12/01
post #11 of 30
You don't really do Easter baskets here in the UK, so we're off the hook (at least until mine are old enough to discover the big chocolate Easter eggs that everyone else is having!), but...

My mom did the 'mostly toys' Easter baskets, but did put in a few treats. Dad always insisted that she got the SMALLEST chocolate Easter bunny she could find to give us...

We were VERY grateful for the bunny, but always disappointed because all of our friends had huge bunnies...

Not sure what my point is! Yes, it is your choice, but I do think that completely denying a child any kind of sugar throughout their childhood can cause more problems than it solves (my dh and his sister weren't allowed any sugar growing up because their dad was diabetic, and they are both horrible now about chocolate and sweets).
post #12 of 30
My parents do things like stickers, goldfish and popcorn in eggs and hide them around their yard for the kids to find.

My inlaws give us pounds and pounds and pounds of candy. We tell the kids that it belongs to the whole family, we give them small amounts each day for awhile, and then throw a lot of it out. After I've eaten out the chocolate, of course.

We ourselves give them cool little things -- this year, wood puzzles for the younger one and a flower press for the older one. Along with a very minimal token amount of candy for the novelty factor.
post #13 of 30
i think that they should follow your wishes, however, i don't think a little chocolate would hurt. it would be a special treat for a special holiday. however, you offered alternatives-books, toys, stickers, crayons, etc., and that gives them PLENTY of alternatives. you could also suggest that they at least buy organic chocolate. good luck
post #14 of 30
Thread Starter 
Oh thanks everyone for your responses....

I agree with everyones views here....

Yes, he is going to be getting mulitple baskets from my mom, dh's mom, my Dad(parents divorced), and books will be coming from fil (we did not even ask...he always shows up with boks no matter what the holiday...lol...cool!) and we have one for him too .....
so I just did not want baskets all over the house with candy overflowing and no other treats....which is what they want to do all candy and nothing else....

I got chocolate in my baskets when I was growing up too but not at 3 y/o I do non't think....hhmmm..

I do not deprive him of sugar all the time; he gets "treats," cookies(sugar free/organic) and chocolate ice cream(sugar free) and we did let him have chocolate on valentines day, so I guess I could bend a little here and let him have a smitten of choco bunny. I don't know....... I will see what happens...

thanks all
post #15 of 30
Originally posted by apmamma
I do not deprive him of sugar all the time; he gets "treats," cookies(sugar free/organic) and chocolate ice cream(sugar free)
I am wondering what you mean by "sugar free"? Do you give sugar substitues like sacharine or nutrasweet (or splenda)? Or is their honey in there to sweeten it? Chocolate would be very bitter with no sugar--but I have seen *diet* chocolate with artificial sweetener in it. I am not a fan of giving artificial sweeteners to kids. Things that are sweetened with fruit sweeteners (like juice) are actually about the same health wise on our bodies--but are a bit more likely to cause dental cavities.

I could be totally in the dark here and not know about these particular sugar free products, so please enlighten me...

post #16 of 30
Yes, we are putting some chocolate in, but not as much as my family "thinks" we should We didn't put any in last year.

My dd has already gotten 3 baskets from family - wow! - and dh and I eat most of the chocolate and give her the toys and books (and some chocolate).

Frankly, it didn't occur to me to tell them what to put in the baskets. But my dd is only 1.5 yrs old so I know we can get away with eating her stuff. Is it harder when the kids are 3???
post #17 of 30
Nah - you can still get away with not giving the kids most of their candy when they are 3 (not sure about when they get older).

I still have most of the girls' Christmas candy in our fridge. Funnily enough, I bought most of it for them myself, but I just haven't been able to bring myself to dole it out! : I think we have four candy bracelets and a couple of bags of coke bottles (which were dh's actually) left...

If they are still around this coming Christmas, maybe they'll do as stocking fillers again?!
post #18 of 30
DD already brought a basket with candy home from school last week! She is picky so the candy is still there-except for what Iate! lol Our "problem" is 20 month old DS who has been known to find candy and chew through the wrapper! See, it was never an issue if she got much before b/c it would just sit there, but now with DS we have to reassess our situation!lol Keep in mind, the boy likes soda (sure we let him try when he begged, DD did and has hated it since, wouldn't he? NOPE!) Wine-DD spit it across Grandma's dining room table, kids hate tha tstuff right? NO WAY< GGrandpa (the only alcohol drinker DS is around) often) has to hide his glasses of wine when DS is around now!

All that said, I buy last but will avoid too much candy for sure now. It was much easier havign a one kid who loved to get it, but never ate it!!
post #19 of 30
I admit that my daughter loves dark chocolate and we will be putting chocolate in her basket. It can be hard to find organic dark chocolate bunnies though! (at least where I am at.) We spice it up with some Playmobile people, the farm set with the bunnies etc. She seems to not care as much about the amount of candy as long as she gets what she deems "cool candy." The toys also help because here cousins eat as much candy as they can in one day and then have nothing to do so we have started adding the toys and that seems to help the family gathering progress smoother. (granted i now bring extra toys as our family's additon to everyone's Easter)

post #20 of 30
Exactly what bad thing will happen if they have a little chocolate? When my first son was little, I was fr3eaked out about evrything. Now, I have three boys ages 6, 4, and almost 2 and I am much more philosophical about things. My boys have a terrible reaction to food coloring, so there is a zero tolerance policy to that. Their behavior gets really bad with a build up of corn, soy, or dairy, so they can have some, but not alot. but, I do not usually deny them food. I do not want food to become a big deal to them. Also, the child, grandparent relationship is so precious that I am quite a bit more lenient with it. I want them to have good momories of each other, not memories of resentment or deprivation.
So, her is what I would do in that situation: After gps went home, I would sit the kids down and talk about how nice it was of the gps to give them so much candy. Then, I would remind them that a lot of candy isnt good for them and that there are other little kids in town who dont have any candy. SO, I would let them choose a weeks worth(maybe two per day) and tell them that whatever they dont choose we will take to a food bank or to a widow in the neighborhood. Then they would choose adn we would put it in the basket and put the basket up. Then, every night after supper, we would have a splendid treat and talk about the treat that grandpa gave us. We would probably call grandpa at some point during the week, while we were enjoying our treats, and thank him again for the treats, and tell him how much we are enjoying them and tell him what we did iwth the rest of them. If gd gave me grief for giving it away, I would thank him for giving us SO much that we did have enough to give away,a nd spread the true Easter spirit around some.
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