He is paying for this vacation out of his own pocket...it's just that he hasn't repayed the debt yet and...
Oh Mamas, I'm afraid to tell you the other part.
He has promised to pay the final two installments to the midwife (at the very beginning of our relationship, I told him that I would prefer that in lieu of an engagement ring)...one due on 11/16 and the other on 12/16, each for $1200.I've already paid the first $800.
I'm starting to feel really stupid
The fact that "he" is paying for it makes zero difference to me. It sounds as though he has borrowed money from a joint savings account, which has yet to be paid back, but he "has" the money to go rejuvenate with other possibly naked women? Come on.
Now you're saying you don't have a ring, because he is supposed to pay the midwife... and it's not looking too good for him to make those payments on time, is it? So, you're going to be left with no ring and still paying the midwife yourself. Great.
I'm sorry. It just makes me so mad that a pregnant mama is having to deal with such insensitive, irresponsible bullshit.