Rough morning...encouragement, please...

[ladybugchild77]

I know itr's only 7 am here but it has already been a rough day...:

First off, I am in a lot of pain and having a hard time sleeping at night - my hips and back just ACHE and my hips are even cramping. It is very uncomfortable. My feet and hands are also swollen - my feet are so big that I am having a hard time walking. My MW checked my BP and is was 118/72 so that is not a problem.

Secondly, I tried talking to my dh about how I am just starting to get worn down by being pregnant and taking care of a toddler - not to mention the endless phone calls and comments on the street about how ready to "pop" I am or exclaiming disbelief since I have not had the baby yet. He just got up to get ready for work after I talked to him and was like, "The baby will come when it's ready. I need to go get dressed." I told him that' snot really what I needed to hear and he was like, "Well, you tell me what I need to say to make you feel better and I'll say it." in a snotty tone. For thre record, I was not complaining or whining, just expressing how I feel...And I know I am not even "due" until Saturday but my last babe came early and everyone (even the midwife) told me this one would to so I FEEL overdue if that makes sense.

Thirdly, my toddler is getting molars and also has a cold so she has been a little bit beastly these days. She headbutted me in the face this morning while she was changing sides during nursing and I *think* she may have given me a black eye - at least it was about enthusiasm for nursing...

I just want to cry. :

[ATD_Mom]

I know I'm not a member of this board, but I couldn't read your post and not send you ... one very big, tight, long bear hug. It really sounds like you need one this morning, mama.

[Marie_25]

My poor ladybug!
Let me fisrt offer a huge hug! I just poped in for the first time on this board this morning (from the unassisted birth board). We are kinda in the same boat. My due date is today. I was expecting to go 2-3 days early like I did with my DD...but no such luck. I have stopped working 4 weeks ago and I am feeling quiet useless being here just waiting.

I am tired, can't sleep very well, painfull, and I have been nurturing a cold for the last 2 days...great! woohoo

I just want to go into labor...is that too much to ask??!!

As for your DH, mine is acting the same. ''just tell me what would make you feel better''. LABOR! I feel like we just need someone to listen and understand.

Hang in there ok? You are not the only one feeling crabby this morning!

[deleria]

Oh mama

I'm sorry you're having such a rough time. I felt so similar before my Jackson arrived. It is SO hard at the end. I'll be thinking of you

[Hayes]

I completely understand! Huge hugs mama. Is there anyone you can call to help out with the toddler, even just for a couple of hours? A drop and go childcare at your local gym? A homeschool girl who will come play with him? A church friend who will take him for a couple of hours?

Go to the chiropractor, go get a minucure, or just soak in a warm bath with epsom salts.

My little ones like to rub my feet for me. Maybe you could get some yummy smelling lotion and you could give your toddler a pedicure and let him rub your feet some.

Big fat huge hugs mama.

[PuppyFluffer]

Many hugs to you. No one really understands the burden that pregnancy is on a body and mind unless you've done it. And to have a toddler at the same time....wow! It is a lot to deal with.

I hope you feel better soon. Labor will happen. Just know that your little baby knows when to come and will make his/her appearance when the time is right.

In the mean time, can you do something to relax yourself or pamper yourself. How about getting away by yourself once dh gets home from work. Maybe a trip to a bookstore, a nice decaf coffee...just some alone time to sit and relax.

Have some more hugs!

[loomweaver]

I know it won't make you feel better, but I'm right where you are too. I really wanted to have this baby before Halloween. I can't imagine laboring while people are ringing my doorbell.:

Take care of yourself, try to get in some relaxing tonight. I can never decide what I want to do when I'm able to have some time to myself.....

[leurMaman]

Oh, Stephanie - I hope you feel better soon. I didn't sleep all night either. Baby was kicking a nerve that shot pains through my hips and thighs with each kick. On top of that, she is blocking my bladder so that I can't empty it very much when I go to the bathroom - so I feel like I have to pee constantly. My back aches, my hips feel like they are coming unhinged. I know exactly how you feel! The funny thing is that for the first night in a while I didn't have any cntx - and that was actually discouraging since I knew it wasn't labor.

As for toddlers, I just have one 2yo, but it is really hard to keep up with them. Hang in there. I'm sure you're a great mommy - and you're giving them an amazing gift with this new sibling that makes it all worth it. I hope something wonderful happens to brighten your day today.

[starlein26]

Stephanie...hang in there sweetie. Those last few weeks of pregnancy suck, suck, suck...it'll be over so soon, and you'll forget all about it!

[MidnightCommando]

Hugs to you ladybug! I am due on the 28th too. Shut your phone off and take a long bath, it helps. Hugs again!!!!

I have been having a aching back at night too and I found something that is just heavenly. It is Tiger Linament and is made with wintergreen oil and some other oils. It stinks to high heaven but feels really good.

[ladybugchild77]

Thanks so much for all of the kind words of eoncouragement, ladies! I really appreciate all of you and love that I can come here and get support - even on my worst days! I wish there was someone who could help out with my toddler but it is just dh and I - all of our firends work and have little ones too...no family aorund...And I think I am just worn out becasue dh works 12 hour days so I am the primary caregiver. Speaking of caregiving - my little one wants to "helping" me type so off I go!

[Earthy~Mama]

I hope you are having a better day!!!

[mama2toomany]

i was kinda in and out of the oct/nov but I wanted to give you a big Im sorry you are feeling so worn out! You have a big job and its hard work!