Originally Posted by AutumnBreeze
Ok, I don't post in here, but I have to post to this.
I am so sorry that little boy had that done. BUT, I'm glad it was done with respect so to speak. They waited to strap him down, they spoke to him, said "Im sorry" to him.
You're post as sort of left me stunned, and I'm struggling to find the right words to express how it made me feel. There is nothing respectful about circumcising a newborn without medical indications. He was sexually violated. That is not, in any way, shape, or form respect.
We can say we're glad his suffering was minimized with anesthetic, we're glad that they didn't further abuse him by strapping him down any longer than was necessary to skin his perfectly healthy, normal penis...but it really doesn't make it any less of a crime against humanity.
When I read what you wrote, I thought, is there any respectful way to circumcise a little girl? Or, to rape a woman? Does an injection or a pill slipped into an alcoholic beverage or softly spoken, condescending, empty "I'm sorries" make an act respectful...or, respectable?
IntactGuy has a point, and I hear him loud and clear and as someone who stood idly by while babies were cut in my presense in the past, even preparing the room and setting out the instruments I feel a very heavy, dark shame upon my heart. My complacency was wrong, and for that I share some of the guilt and the blood-stained hands.
I take some comfort in the fact that at the time, I didn't really understand the issue. Witnessing what I did was actually the catalyst for my research and eventual activism. At the time I was assisting, I considered it a parental choice-a crappy parental choice-but a parental choice nonetheless. I knew it was painful and not medically necessary, but I didn't have a grasp on the anatomy, physiology, or long-term consequences...in a similar way that medical organization policy statments don't generally take into account the actual purpose and functions of what's being amputated. I think it was Frank, back on ivillage, years ago, who finally got through to me that I could-and should-refuse to assist on the grounds of conscientious objection. Shortly thereafter, I changed jobs.
Having been in that position, having come as far as I have, knowing that each person evolves at a different pace and that we are all at different stages of circumcision enlightenment, I have trouble judging someone for something they may not yet understand on the level I have come to.
For some, witnessing such an act that would have almost certainly happened anyway (unless they took matters into their own hands and did something illegal, like kidnapping the child) is the event that catapults them into serious activism. She seems to be a conscientious woman seeking truth and was clearly deeply disturbed by what she witnessed. She since met with the physician privately to discuss it. I think her heart is guiding her in the right direction, and I look forward to hearing where she goes from here... ... ...