Ever feel guilty?

[greenwest]

Does anyone ever feel guilty when they surrender childcare duties to someone else even for a short time. I just feel like I am abandoning my responsibilities.

[TinkerBelle]

Originally Posted by greenwest

Does anyone ever feel guilty when they surrender childcare duties to someone else even for a short time. I just feel like I am abandoning my responsibilities.

No. Not at all.

[Jess A]

Nope.

[shayinme]

No. I am still Mama so there is no reason to feel guilty at all.

Shay

[Ellien C]

Never!

Sometimes, I feel bad, but I never feel guilty.
It's like this: When I grew up I moved far away from college and now DH and I both live far from our parents. We'd like to live closer in an abstract way, but we're not going to move back. Sometimes I feel bad that I live so far away from family, but I don't feel guility for going to college 1000 miles from my birthplace.

I can feel bad or even conflicted, but not guilty.

[newmommy]

Who are you surrendering child care duties to? Perhaps that plays a part in your guilt.

I surrender ALL child care duties to DH and feel ZERO guilt. In fact, I feel relieved, refreshed, alive and completely able to enjoy myself.

Because I feel like DS is with his Second Mama.

[theatermom]

Originally Posted by newmommy

Who are you surrendering child care duties to? Perhaps that plays a part in your guilt.

I surrender ALL child care duties to DH and feel ZERO guilt. In fact, I feel relieved, refreshed, alive and completely able to enjoy myself.

Because I feel like DS is with his Second Mama.

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The only people who have ever taken care of my children are people with whom I want my children to develop a relationship, and from whom I believe my children can learn. KWIM? If my mom or my parents-in-law, or my brother, or my sisters-in-law, or brother-in-law, or even close friends take over my child care duties for a bit, I consider it a blessing both because I get a break (or time to take care of other responsibilities), AND my children and said care giver get the enormous GIFT of a deeper relationship and shared experiences.

So, nope no guilt. I do feel guilty if I find myself focusing on too many small things instead of paying attention to my kids. Then I just refocus and go on.

[speairson]

I never feel guilty, but I admit that I do miss them a lot even if it's just for a short time I'm away. I've only ever left them with people I really trust and they like, which helps.

[Moochie Mamma]

I do. I have a babysitter (a wonderful 60yo woman who I refer to as their surrogate Grandma) a couple hours a couple days a week so I can run errands and get some exercise. I feel guilty every time I leave but I also know that I go crazy without some time alone.