Originally Posted by NikiJeanne
I'm a pretty new sahm, just started about 3 months ago from a pretty much full-time wohm (I did non-profit pr and fundraising).
I am 32 years old
I have two boys, 3 years old and 8 months old
Dh and I co-sleep, babywear and I am a huge bfing advocate
My issues are that I'm sorta having a hard time transitioning from a professional to this new life. Basically, I feel like a cooped-up maid. Dh works quite a bit and it out of the house 60+ hours a week at least. I'm lonely and frustrated. Having all of the household duties is starting to seriously get to me too. I worry that my kids aren't getting the best of me, as I had intended when I decided to quit working.
Anyone out there ever felt this way and worked through it?
Ay yi! I have BTDT, and STILL face those feelings, dd just turned 2. Just had a discussion (which deteriorated into an argument) last night about this.
MY bottom line is that as much as I love and respect and honor my dh and everything he does, he can be oblivious of what I'M doing, or what I may need, in terms of breaks, Mommy-is-still-a-human-individual-with-a-personality-separate-from-baby-time... So, I'm learning I should not WAIT until I'm at the breaking point, and then come unglued and cry out for private time, but rather, make sure I set a standard to have activities scheduled, time blocked out, or take moments as they make themselves available; 30 minute princess shower once a week, frequent friend-viisits, walks, etc.
Dh is in a band, and golfs; I remind him that it's his right to do these things, to pursue his interests, I encourage and support him in it; and that I have the same right... It is still astounding that my loving and generous partner needs reminding, but MY sanity requires his co-operation, and he often forgets that I was a vital and dynamic person (whom he fell in love with) BEFORE I was a mother and wife.