SAHM Mentor-Mentee Match-Up - Come Join Us - Page 3

[judejude]

OMG, I killed this thread!

[mama in the forest]

OMG, I killed this thread!

No you didn't!

I've been a SAHM mama a long time......& would think about maybe mentoring just a little.

[judejude]

Originally Posted by mama in the forest

I've been a SAHM for 18 years. I am 41 years old with six unschooled children.

18 years???!!! You're awesome!

[mama in the forest]

Somehow.......I now feel so utterly OLD! Gonna go back & edit!

[judejude]

Originally Posted by mama in the forest

Somehow.......I now feel so utterly OLD! Gonna go back & edit!

Oh stop that! I have been married 16 years, so if I would have had a dc sooner I could be almost right there with you

[mama in the forest]

Oh stop that! I have been married 16 years, so if I would have had a dc sooner I could be almost right there with you
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[mommyabroad]

judejude, you so didn't kill the thread! DH is out of town all week so limited computer time for me. Welcome welcome welcome! I hope you find a match. And mama in the forest, welcome to you too. This thread gets lots of lookers even if there haven't been too many recent posts.

[Autoemesiss]

Mentor wanted

Hi! I could definately use a mentor! I've been flubbing from the beginning! lol

[wsgrl84]

Yea same here. I would love to talk to other moms too.

I am SAHM, don't really have ANY friends with kids to talk to(except MDC) and I am surrounded with people here who don't know what AP is, except for my DH. It gets frustrating sometimes...

[judejude]

Well, you two should look through this thread and find someone who you would like to e-mail regularly and then PM them to see if you are a match.

[PrennaMama]

Hi! Just bumping in, again... matched with a mom, and have exchanged PM's... feels good to have something to offer someone on a personal level!

[mama in the forest]

I'm matched up too! Thanks for starting this thread!

[lilylove]

Would you all like me to stickie this?
Or do you think you would get the most traffic leaving it as a regular thread?

[smellyann82]

i'd love a mentor! i'm a recent sahm (worked until dd was 8 mo--brought her with me). i've recently been struggling with ppd, so maybe a sahm who has worked through this? i'm lacking a support system here, so i'd love to just have someone to chat with!

i'm a catholic momma with issues about being a woman in the catholic church and raising a catholic daughter we're on an extremely tight budget and struggle, mostly because our families are far, we like to visit them a lot, and we like to eat out (ummmm...can you say...weakness?). i'm interested in how to make being a sahm work long term financially when dh makes not a whole lot of money, living in a high cost of living area, and looking to move in a couple years. also would like advice on how to (or be ok with not) get things done around the house and how to make a new place feel like home without having a work community (like, um, how to meet new people) i'm a really young mom in an area with there are very few young moms (i've met exactly none), so i think i'm really looking for affirmation that i can measure up. too picky? i hope not!

this is a great idea!

[birthgreeter]

Hello all
I have not posted on this thread, just been reading so far....
I am no longer a sahm, but was for many years....homeschooled 5 children, 3 grad from homeschool. I miss staying at home!
I am always willing to answer any questions or help. PM me if you want to!
I want to encourage all of you to stay at home as long as you can...it is so worth every minute that you spend with your babies. My 21 year old 'baby girl' moved oh so far away and we just got a card from her telling us 'forgive her' if she ever took our 'friendship, compainship, and all we did for her for granted' ! What a gift to a mother!
Keep doing the best for your little ones....it pays off!

[*violet*]

Mentor Wanted please!

Hi guys,
I'm a pretty new sahm, just started about 3 months ago from a pretty much full-time wohm (I did non-profit pr and fundraising).
I am 32 years old
I have two boys, 3 years old and 8 months old
Dh and I co-sleep, babywear and I am a huge bfing advocate

My issues are that I'm sorta having a hard time transitioning from a professional to this new life. Basically, I feel like a cooped-up maid. Dh works quite a bit and it out of the house 60+ hours a week at least. I'm lonely and frustrated. Having all of the household duties is starting to seriously get to me too. I worry that my kids aren't getting the best of me, as I had intended when I decided to quit working.

Anyone out there ever felt this way and worked through it?

[mommyabroad]

Hello to all of our new posters! I hope you can find a match. Just PM one of the available mentors (or available mentors, if you see a mentee that might match, you can do the same). I am so pleased to hear about all of the SAHMs finding support through a mentoring relationship. I know I have already benefited from emailing moms on this thread.

BTW, Nicole, I can empathize with feeling cooped up and frustrated. : I was just talking to DH about this today ... especially because he was out of town all last week. We had a housecleaner in my pre-child life and he did much more of the domestic duties when I worked out of the home.

And Sandy, I don't have much sticky experience. If others on this thread have input as to whether sticky-ing is beneficial, please chime in. Thanks for the suggestion.

[Strong Mama]

I would love to be a mentor.
Background:
Stay at home mom on and off for 12 years(worked when needed the money, but only worked during school hours so that I could still be home with ds1)
Have two children: aged 12 and 2
Work from home with Ebay
both my children have sensory disorders and my oldest son had lead poisoning as a baby, he may have ADD? I dont know, I just work with him!:
Youngest son has MAJOR feeding issues. I G/D co slept til my oldest was 5, but dont co sleep with 2 yo, baby wore til my son broke the sling! lol, practice lots and lots of GD. Grew up being spanked, so I dont want to do it myself!


If you want me for your mentor, please feel free to pm me!

[PrennaMama]

Originally Posted by NikiJeanne

Hi guys,
I'm a pretty new sahm, just started about 3 months ago from a pretty much full-time wohm (I did non-profit pr and fundraising).
I am 32 years old
I have two boys, 3 years old and 8 months old
Dh and I co-sleep, babywear and I am a huge bfing advocate

My issues are that I'm sorta having a hard time transitioning from a professional to this new life. Basically, I feel like a cooped-up maid. Dh works quite a bit and it out of the house 60+ hours a week at least. I'm lonely and frustrated. Having all of the household duties is starting to seriously get to me too. I worry that my kids aren't getting the best of me, as I had intended when I decided to quit working.

Anyone out there ever felt this way and worked through it?

Ay yi! I have BTDT, and STILL face those feelings, dd just turned 2. Just had a discussion (which deteriorated into an argument) last night about this.

MY bottom line is that as much as I love and respect and honor my dh and everything he does, he can be oblivious of what I'M doing, or what I may need, in terms of breaks, Mommy-is-still-a-human-individual-with-a-personality-separate-from-baby-time... So, I'm learning I should not WAIT until I'm at the breaking point, and then come unglued and cry out for private time, but rather, make sure I set a standard to have activities scheduled, time blocked out, or take moments as they make themselves available; 30 minute princess shower once a week, frequent friend-viisits, walks, etc.

Dh is in a band, and golfs; I remind him that it's his right to do these things, to pursue his interests, I encourage and support him in it; and that I have the same right... It is still astounding that my loving and generous partner needs reminding, but MY sanity requires his co-operation, and he often forgets that I was a vital and dynamic person (whom he fell in love with) BEFORE I was a mother and wife.

[mommyabroad]

I so agree with you prennamama. I have cared for DS everyday for 3 years. DH has never gone an entire 24 hour block alone. No doubt he could, but I don't think our dear partners understand that having little visitors in the bathroom while we are taking a shower during our 15-minute alone time does not count as "me" time! I just started exercising for 20 minutes in the morning and that little time has been making a big difference in my sanity for the day. And now that DS is up at 5am everyday, DH is getting some quality time in the morning with him