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Hi everyone this is my first time ever on this board or any for that matter on this site. My name is Kristin im a mother of 3 beautiful babies and married to a wonderful man William. Now this post is about my hubby's other childs mother ..And in now way am i trying to start anything or get anyone worked up i just want to see if anyone is in this kind of thing.

Ok ill start with i met my husband back in 01 while i was at school and he worked in my school all this don't need to be put out there but i want people to get into the whole story so here goes i'll try and make things short . Anywho we met in 01 and at that time he told me he wasn't seeing anyone. So on with things we started {seeing each other} and things seemed fine . Well in and out of the first couple months i would leave from his place and go back home were im from. Well i guess in them times of me going back home for the short times i did . He was seeing this female lets just say he was seeing along with a few others. Well time went by and 8 close to 9 months later goes by and now by then were starting to get a lil closer with things. We'll he gets a phone call at his job and it's this other female he was seeing now mind you he hasn't talked to her by now for just about 8 months we will say . So anyways . he gets the call and it's this other lady telling him she is pregnant with his child and is having the baby sometime soon . We'll he comes home from work telling me this and i just loose it at that point cause what i thought was a good relashonship going on turned into i found out he cheated on me . Well times goes by i tell him when this baby is born the only way me and you will stay together is to make sure and find out if the baby was his for sure . Well we will pass time by with just saying baby turned out to be his and then court dates come by and at this point now he hasn't seen the baby at all only on the court dates and wasn;t there to see the baby just so happens he looked and seen her. Well he gets ordered to pay child support wich well of course known to have happend wich is fine with me. Well things get hateful with everything me wich i didn't get the other woman pregnant but i guess in a new mothers state of mind at that time i would be hateful to . Well we will just back track a lil bit now her baby was born in 2002 and i had gotten pregnant and had OUR first baby together in 2003 well now she really don't like that one and let's get this straight they were very hateful towards each other and i have tried many times for him to go see her baby well never happend ..Well now it turns into a hate on me thing wiht her calling my house talking bad about my son {and of course at the time i was using not so good things towards her baby to} im not the nice guy all the way around in this and in no way am i trying to make it look like that but i get thrown in the middle of things so yea. Anyways it turns into a internet drama thing for 2 almost 3 yrs with me and her . Her telling me our son was not my husbands and what not cause he didn't look like him and her daughter did and just aweful names were put on my son . But anyways i had another baby in 2005 then just had our newest baby in 2006 . well anyways to make it a little short and see what everyone has to thing or say about this much ill just pass to the ending of it all ....

Well now here it is she has had another baby last yr and got married also ..and is having her 3rd child in 07 well anyways lets let another part out and i know this has nothing to do with anything but her and my children are mixed black and white ..and her new husband and soon to be 2 children are both white .. white dad and her being white . Well anyways on that just letting that be known in it all ..Well anyways after she got married . She was trying to have her husband adopt her and my husbands child wich i thought would be done and over with fast seeing he never signed the BC and what not well it took a long time and now seeing its been 4 yrs now i guess it was final june this yr .. well i was just wanting to see how it could have happened like it did when my husband never signed anything sayin it was ok and only by that is cause they have had a DNA done so it is known who the real dad is and all .But was wanting to know i guess as to could this have happened or could she be lying and just saying that the adoption was said and done ..and me asking this is only because well we were getting child support papers like with his child support amount adding up for a while then all of a sudden in about june i do want to say we havent gotten any papers about anything from courts or nothing . So is it true that this adoption was final .. ??????


And now another question .. Is it making me look like a bad hguy to want to stay in contact with the other mother of his other kid ..For my childrens sack even though my husband and other ladie dont even talk just for my kids to get to know his other kid if they ever wanted to .
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I am sorry you haven't gotten any replies.

Your post is very hard to read. Could you try it again, a little shorter, so I can understand what you are saying?
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