Originally Posted by mama in the forest
What makes me sick is the societal condemnation of the natural aging process in older women. Why is it not considered beautiful to show our signs of aging? Why are we not more respected as the Wise Women we have become? As we age we become more and more experienced....we are such an assest to society and to each other...yet sometimes we're simply forgotten because we have lost that outward youth beauty.
My grandmother had no plastic surgery...and as she aged I just felt so proud of her. It is not that she lacked a desire to be beautiful, she did not. She took pride in looking her best and feeling good. She wore clothes she loved, and I would watch her put on her earrings and necklace, she did her hair, etc. But she never seemed to be upset over aging and she embraced the whole of it and did it all with grace. Would I say/feel the same things for her had she had surgery? I do not know. I know that I admired her for aging the way that she did, and I want to set the same kind of example for my children.
FWIW, my mom has grey hair down to her waist, and I intend to do the same thing. I'm getting grey hairs, and they don't bother me at all. The faint lines and incipient wrinkles don't bother me, either. But, I know that carrying saggy skin from having been overweight due to depression would bother me...a lot. Would I get surgery for it? I really don't think so...my c-sections were enough.
Full disclosure...I've had surgery for purely cosmetic reasons once before. I didn't pay for it, though - it was covered under our medical plan. I had a wandering eye corrected when I was 23, because I was sick of people's comments and having people stare at it like I was some kind of freak. I don't regret it, but I'm not sure I'd do it again.