November Pagan Mom's Circle - Page 24

[midstreammama]

Mamaofthree~ s I'm so sorry! THere has to be something that can be done!

Valerie~I'll trade your gstro for the stinking head lice that I have been battling for about a month now. Everytime I think I got rid of them, one of the kids brings home a note from school saying its going around again....I'm making the kids hair as dirty and unappealing to the darned things as I can. : fingerscrossed!

My next step is to make them roll around in the dirt
and then shave their heads. WE'll make a fundraiser out of it or something, for charity! I'm about to go crazy!

[GoldBerry]

mamaofthree~ ugh, how awful! Hope it's a mistake that can be worked out!

Valerie ~ hope all get well soon- take it easy!

and Midstreammama- hope your a louse-free house soon!

[mamaofthree]

Ok, so I am back from the bank and talking with the police. It is so nuts. The company that the charges are from is the Royal Post office! (The British mail service?!) I asked the bank to see if there were any other charges thru them, like maybe from another company... but nothing. I have no idea how this happened. I think it was some internet buying that I did. But I don't know how the Royal Mail got my info and would charge over $2500.00 to my account. I am so upset. The bank needs to file fraud charges which I filled out paper work got a police case number but it still takes 7-10 working days before we will get our money back. The woman I spoke with at the bank told me to get out some cash so I at least have money till then and any fees that I get will be renibursed. I have just been crying and crying. Dh had to go to work and has class tonight. I have nothing left inside me today. I feel so violated.
Now we will have to close our accounts, cancel our checks and bank cards, re do all of our automatic deposits and withdrawls.

I gotta go change the baby.

Oh and I hope evryone with sickness and bugs gets that all cleared up. We just got thru with GI stuff. Not fun!

H

[Changed]

Good grief! I'm so sorry that happened to you.

[**guest**]

mamaofthree- Oh noooooooooo! I had a company empty my bank account before. It was so awful. I think it took about 3 business days for them to put the money back into my account. They did put back the overdraft fees immediately though.

I have a feeling that it wasn't the real Royal Mail that took your money.
Gods, it makes me paranoid now about buying stuff online.

Sending you positive vibes.

[**guest**]

My memory is so bad... Did I tell you mama's that someone stole my coat? Yep, my coat. Isn't that insane??! I had a WONDERFUL, warm down coat from LL Bean. I got it on clearance in the spring (out of season).
I was at my local cafe with ds. I had put my coat and magazine on our table. I also had a cup of tea (almost full) there. Ds wanted a milk so we went back up to the counter. By the time we got back to the table, the coat was gone.
I asked the staff if they took it by accident thinking that I had left and they said no. Being a small, privately owned cafe they don't have camera's.
It was a very busy day and no one seemed to have seen anything.
So, I had to go out without a coat (it was a very cold day).
I obviously can't afford to get a new down coat and it really does make you feel violated and sad.
I hate the winter and can't handle the cold. Which is why I got a warm down coat in the first place. Now, the only thing I have to wear out is a sweatjacket. (I don't even have sweaters).

Tis the season. :

[Kleine Hexe]

Oh man, it's so scary to know that someone can have unauthorized access to your account. I bet someone in the IT department is going to get reamed! My DH works in IT and they once had a hacker and the whole group got in trouble.

Midstreammama, I've heard that if add tea tree oil to an (unscented) shampoo and use that to wash hair with on a consistant basis you will not get lice because they don't like the smell. Might be worth a try.

[wombatclay]

MamaofThree- I know the feeling...a few years ago I suddenly got a HUGE bill from a credit card I thought I had canceled years earlier. Turns out the credit card company had never "finalized" the cancelation and then the number was stolen. A few young men several states away from me were using my name/account to charge phone sex calls!

It was not only scary to have my information stolen like that (totally out of the blue) but the whole process of getting it cleared up was icky since they kept asking if "aybe your husband made the charges and didn't tell you"...that sort of thing.

The phone sex company was actually really polite, said it happened all the time, and even offered to pay the credit card bill if the card company didn't waive the charges. They probably just wanted to avoid legal action, but I have to say they were nicer than the credit card people by a long shot!

Ode- my goodness mama, this is not your year! Have you tried a massive energy cleansing and grounding? Maybe some sort of shielding? It really sounds like there is just a cloud of unhappiness following you these days. I hope your luck changes as the sun returns...

[mamaofthree]

Thank you so much you ladies.
Dh went to work and his boss gave him another paycheck! We of course have to pay it back when this is all cleared up, but still... we will be able to pay the bills and eat. So as crazy as those people are he works with and for... they are wonderful too! Plus a dear friend of mine offered to loan us the money too. I feel very lucky right now.

I have heard about the tea tree oil thing too! A friend of mine used it to get rid of fleas on her cats. Worked great she said.

Ode: I am so sorry. That sucks. I don't even live where it gets that cold and I am a winter weather wimp! (Although I do love seeing it and want to have some... I chill so easy! LOL)

H

[**guest**]

mamaofthree- Glad that you at least have some $ in the meantime.

[eilonwy]

I had a nice, warm down coat from LL Bean once, too. I outgrew mine, though (it was a girls 18-20; I'm short, and I wasn't always fat) when I got pregnant with BeanBean. So I sold it on eBay. I still miss the thing. It was their super-warm parka, and the kid's one was $99 less than the ladies petite that I would have been ordering (and it came in better colors ). But now I'm too fat to fit into the kids' sizes so it's right out.

I'm working on the whole wealth thing. The trouble is, all the practical solutions are designed for people who have a whole heckuva lot more money than I do. As in, I once spoke with a financial consultant (a free initial consultation) and when I told him how much money I was dealing with he basically said that it wasn't enough to live on, let alone budget for things like savings. He was like, "Um, sorry, good luck!" Very helpful. I've done the math, and I have no idea what else to do... So I'm gonna do Magick. It's worth a shot, right?

[Changed]

Anything is worth a shot. We finally gave up and filed. There was just no way we'd every be able to get out of the credit card cycle.. using cards to bridge the gap between pay days. It feels really good to only spend what's mine, cash even if that means still being broke.

[mamaofthree]

Something I have been doing... I have been using the Secret (have you seen the movie?) Anyway it is about the power of attraction (oh no I gave away the secret! LOL) And you can attract good or bad to you. Like this: You say to yourself "I am always broke" so tada you are always broke. OR you can say to yourself "I am wealthy" and you are. It is also about being open to recieve the thing you asked for. I have a friend who said (I kid you not) that she didn't want to be selling houses anymore, but if someone came knocking on her door she wouldn't turn them away (as she was having alot of money troubles) two days later, someone actually came knocking on her door, an old client and wanted her to help them sell their house... she said NO! AGH!
At first I was pretty iffy about the whole thing. But I figured what have I got to loose. So on an eraser board we have in our bedroom, I wrote some stuff down... "I am wealthy" "I have enough" "I am healthy" "I have a great home" yada yada. I see it every day when I wake up and every night when I go to bed. I read it too. And I have to say it worked. Dh got a better job, he makes more than enough money for us to live on (as long as we are not robbed.) and we have money to play with. It is so wonderful. That is what I wanted.
Another thing I have been doing is opening my hands with my money. That one woman who use to be on Oprah, Susie something, said something like if you hold on tight to your money then you can't let money in. So when we can , I give as much as I can. Sometimes it is only a couple bucks and sometimes more. I tell you it feels damn good to share when we have enough. Anyway.. I know it can be hard when you are going paycheck to paycheck and using credit to fill the gaps (we have $15,000.00 in CC debit! it is horribly embarrassing to say, but when I say it it is real) but we are seeing credit counslers and we are paying it off... that feels good too.

Goodluck

H

[Kleine Hexe]

I haven't watched the movie, but I've decided to put it into practice. The past year I've been depressed about our money issue and always stressing about it. So I've changed my attitude and let my stress slip away.

I do have a question though. I have changed my attitude but DH has not. He is very unhappy right now. He stresses about his job (he doesn't like it and is looking for a new one), he stresses about money and bills, and he also has some health issues he's in denial about. So will his negative energy going out interfere with the positive energy I'm trying to send out? Will they just cancel each other? Will my positive overcome his negative? His attitude really worries me but I can't make him change it, yk?

For example he keeps saying over and over that our van is going to have major transmission problems within the next year. I tell him it will be fine until we are ready to buy another car. I'm trying to over ride what he is putting out there. What do you think?

[MPJJJ]

I am new to the Secret but I have been putting it into practice. I think that you are going to need him to change his way of thinking, because you're just gonna keep bouncing off of each other, KWIM? You really should buy the secret or watch it on the net, because they give easy and effective methods of blocking negative thoughts, and they really work! In a week I have gone from being a primarily negative person to really being able to moniter and control my thoughts, and I am feeling happy, hopeful, and content. It's so easy once you get into it. But you both have to be in tune for it to really work.

[mamaofthree]

I have wondered that myself. LOL I don't know. Although they did say that a positive thought is more powerful then a negative one.

H

[midstreammama]

Originally Posted by Kleine Hexe

For example he keeps saying over and over that our van is going to have major transmission problems within the next year. I tell him it will be fine until we are ready to buy another car. I'm trying to over ride what he is putting out there. What do you think?

Hey are you sure that we're not married to the same persson?? My dh is the same way....stresses over money, job, etc. Right down to the transmission problem at 50,000mi. It drives me nuts. I try to overcome his stresses...so i'm interested in knowing about your questions too...

[eilonwy]

My husband stresses about the practical stuff; on the other hand, he knows that I'm smarter than he is and that I'm usually right. (Sounds a little snooty, but it's not quite like that-- lemme 'splain. )

I've always been poor, but I rarely worried about money. In my experience, the things that I've truly needed have come to me, when I needed them. I tried to explain this to my husband while we were dating, but he had to watch it happen a few times to understand. A few years ago, when I did my first treasure map, I told Mike what I was doing and he thought, basically, that positive visualizations couldn't hurt anything. He's not as woohoo as I am, but he's remarkably mellow about such things; he's open to the idea. On my first treasure map, I glued a picture of a minivan, a house, and a really cute one from a back issue of Mothering with a little boy, about three, holding his brand new sibling and grinning like a little fool, obviously in love. :

Two months later, I had the minivan-- the one on my map was a silver Town & Country, 2003 (I only used one new magazine for my map, but they were all new to me. ); the one I ended up with was a silver Windstar, 2003. It looked remarkably similiar to the one on my map, just blew my mind... A month after that, I had my precious baby girl BooBah, and several pictures of BeanBean holding his sister, grinning like a fool, totally in love. He's been an amazing big brother from the very beginning, a helpful, sweet, loving little character.

I guess I know that it all works, first hand, but something is blocking me when it comes to wealth. I've finally defined what it is that I actually need: I need a house. I'd like it to be decent sized (three or four bedrooms) and be *ours*. That's all. I can't stand having a landlord, living at the whims of someone else, and flushing money down a toilet every month for a place where we can't even paint the walls without permission. It drives me bonkers. I need a house. I HAVE a house.

Anyway, I have no idea what exactly is blocking me when it comes to money. We don't have a lot of credit card debt; they don't give credit cards to people with credit as crappy as mine, and Mike has never bothered to get one (smart man!) and hasn't "needed" to, because nowadays you can get a Visa or a Mastercard from your bank and it works anywhere. I give as much as I can give (sometimes more, it seems ), and I'm trying really hard to move clutter out of my life (literally and spiritually) but it's difficult. I think that there's got to be something else going on here, but I'm not sure what it is... Maybe being poor is part of my identity, and it's difficult for me to give that up (though I'm disinclined to believe that's the problem). Maybe it's because I associate the word "abundance" with "fertility," and I'm terrified of getting pregnant right now (because we're poor and because Bella really needs her milk; even if we had all the money in the world, we'd be TTA right now for Bella's sake). Maybe it's because when I think about having loads of money, I think about giving much of it away just because I can... I don't know.

I suppose it's time to try to do another Tarot reading on this issue. "What is preventing me from actualizing my wealth?" I'll let you know how it goes. In the meantime, I'm working on drawing the wealth of the universe toward myself in the form of a house which belongs to us, which we can paint any color and in which we can live, very comfortably, and be happy.


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Last night, I had a dream about my fourth child. In that dream, the child was a girl. I was irritated when we found out, but I loved the kid to bits and I was okay with Mike getting snipped. I woke up feeling incredibly bummed that BeanBean would never have a brother....:

[DoulaLyndsey]

Originally Posted by OdeToJoy

My memory is so bad... Did I tell you mama's that someone stole my coat? Yep, my coat. Isn't that insane??! I had a WONDERFUL, warm down coat from LL Bean. I got it on clearance in the spring (out of season).
I was at my local cafe with ds. I had put my coat and magazine on our table. I also had a cup of tea (almost full) there. Ds wanted a milk so we went back up to the counter. By the time we got back to the table, the coat was gone.
I asked the staff if they took it by accident thinking that I had left and they said no. Being a small, privately owned cafe they don't have camera's.
It was a very busy day and no one seemed to have seen anything.
So, I had to go out without a coat (it was a very cold day).
I obviously can't afford to get a new down coat and it really does make you feel violated and sad.
I hate the winter and can't handle the cold. Which is why I got a warm down coat in the first place. Now, the only thing I have to wear out is a sweatjacket. (I don't even have sweaters).

Tis the season. :

Did you get another coat yet? What size are you? I had a couple winter coats for when we lived in Michigan, but now we're in Florida and rarely need them, so I have one nice coat just sitting in my closet right now. Not sure if it's your style or size (I'm a size 16 and it fits me), but if you need a coat, I could send it to you. I can try and get a picture of it later if I have time, it would probably just need a light cleaning.

[GoldBerry]

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Come on over!