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post #21 of 70

Hello again!

Hey everyone!

Dropped off the earth again! Simon came home with a cold about 2 weeks ago and that night started PUKING. Ugh. My in-laws arrived for a 10-day visit the next day. Then, 2 days later, at a Halloween street fair, DS1 started puking. Dh and I had a party and a hotel room for that night and decided to go ahead and go, since in-laws were here. Needless to say, the night was far from romantic as we alternated who slept on the bathroom floor at the hotel so as to be close to the toilet ... Oof. The next day, my FIL got it. It was the WORST.

And then, of course, there's the whole 10 days of in-laws. . .

Yeah - I'm a little beat. :

Anyway, they're gone, Sebastian's b'day party is over with, Halloween has passed, life is slowly returning to normal.

We are going to drive the kids to my mom's for T'giving (400 miles!) and meet my sis and BIL and their 2 boys. Maybe my little sis, too. Very excited. And then we fly to NY (3,000 miles!!!!!) for Christmas. I'm definitely not looking forward to that. But it's been a few years since we've been there for Xmas, and my BIL's long-term GF and he are finally living together and probably will marry soon, so there's some attention on them for a change!

Chelsea - congratulations!!!! Very exciting. I'll agree that the second time is much faster!

Welcome to the new moms! You're gonna love this group!

Whoever asked about sibs sharing rooms, my boys have shared since Simon was about 3 mos. There've been a few challenges, but I think more because we assumed the baby would wake the older kid up than for other reasons. Sebastian has a double bed and we really want them to sleep together, but right now we don't trust Simon to stay in bed or Sebastian not to squish Simon (he's a CRAZY active sleeper and sometimes sleepwalks). So, Simon's still in the crib and probably will be for some time. They both come and cuddle in our bed in the morning, though. ETA - Simon almost NEVER wakes Sebastian up, even if he's screaming his head off.

And my warm thoughts to those of you dealing with sleep issues. Simon is super clingy and not sleeping well after his g'parents' visit (part of why I'm dreading the travels) and you all know our trials in that area. Sending sleepy vibes and strength and patience your way!

Good news here - DH's project just got extended another month, which means he'll be working into December. Perfect - he'll finish, we'll travel, we come back and it's a good potential time for other projects to start. In the meantime, I opened a business banking account and am getting ready to file a dba for two of my business lines. I also heard, unoficially, that funding will be available for a potential client and I might pick up a totally different kind of work. Woo hoo!

Life. Is. Crazy.

Wouldn't have it any other way!
post #22 of 70
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Hi!

We are still :

Anna had a runny nose yesterday morning... then fever and a nasty diaper rash (red, raised and bleeding) that really hurt when I change her diapers I'm going to get some gentian violet and a pack of disposables (don't want to stain our CD stash) to get rid of this as fast as I can because I'm crying along when she screams.

Last night was a nightmare... I barely can stand strait today... we have a chiro appointment this afternoon, I'll drive slow... I would cancel but I badly need the adjustment

I. need. to. sleep. !!!!
post #23 of 70
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Elisa, we have battled all sorts of digestive issues since dd was born, including constipation and really painful gas. I would be happy to review what has helped us if you're interested.

And I so feel your pain on the lack of sleep thing. It really, really sucks.
Thanks so much, Shanana. Yes, I'd love to hear what you have to say! DD remained constipated yesterday, so I was finally able to have her drink some apple juice last night. We were moderately successful this a.m., but I can tell this might turn into an ongoing problem. I don't know if she's witholding or what. Btw, I'm also flying to NC soon. Alina (dd) & I are leaving 11/17 to visit my best friend for a few days. I'm a little nervous because I've never flown w/dd, much less by myself. :

And while I certainly don't wish sleepless nights filled w/toddler tears & screams, it's comforting to know I'm not the only one up @ 2:00 a.m!
post #24 of 70
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Thanks so much, Shanana. Yes, I'd love to hear what you have to say! DD remained constipated yesterday, so I was finally able to have her drink some apple juice last night. We were moderately successful this a.m., but I can tell this might turn into an ongoing problem. I don't know if she's witholding or what. Btw, I'm also flying to NC soon. Alina (dd) & I are leaving 11/17 to visit my best friend for a few days. I'm a little nervous because I've never flown w/dd, much less by myself. :

And while I certainly don't wish sleepless nights filled w/toddler tears & screams, it's comforting to know I'm not the only one up @ 2:00 a.m!
Okay, here goes ...

Once we figured out our nursing problems, and things were going better with that (around 4 months), it seemed like dd started getting really gassy at night. We were co-sleeping, and she would wiggle and writhe (but not wake up). She would move around, then be still for 5 or 10 minutes, move around, still, move around, still, over and over and over. I would push her knees to her chest and do some other things, and she would eventually pass gas. Then she would be still for a little while, and it would start all over again. It got worse and worse, until I was only getting a few hours of sleep a night, and most of that was while dh had her in the sling (usually until about midnight). Her sleep was also terribly disturbed, and she was tired all the time.

I tried a hard-core elimination diet for the better part of several months, but it didn't make a difference at all. Then I tried switching from our well water to distilled water (I add minerals), and that seemed to help some. Her bowel movements became a lot more normal. They had been really green and mucousy, and after switching to distilled, they finally looked like normal breastfed baby poop (this happened within 24 hours). But she was still kicking me a lot at night, and it got so bad that we finally had to stop co-sleeping (something she was very unhappy about). Also, after a short period of normal poops, she suddenly stopped pooping for long stretches of time (7+ days). (She was still exclusively breastfed at this point.) She wasn't technically constipated, because the poop wasn't hard when she finally did go, but she was going infrequently, and the longer she went without pooping, the more uncomfortable she got. I know everyone says that breastmilk is absorbed so efficiently that this type of pattern is nothing to worry about, but my instinct told me it was not a good thing for my dd.

So now she was out of my bed, but instead of wiggling and squirming all night (and sleeping through it), she was waking up and fussing. Same kind of pattern ... she would cry out or whine, then be quiet for 10 minutes, cry out, quiet for 10 minutes, etc. I've learned that this pretty much always means she is gassy.

We found that Colic Ease helped some (Mylicon is useless IMO), but I was giving her copious amounts of it, and it has a lot of fructose in it (it tastes very sweet and is super sticky when spilled). And she still wasn't sleeping well. None of us were sleeping well.

I was also taking her for craniosacral therapy during this time (due to the aforementioned nursing problems), and was really hoping it would help with the digestive issues. I had a friend who took her son for CST twice, and it totally eliminated his constipation problems. Unfortunately, this did not work for us, although it certainly didn't hurt dd, and was a tremendous help for the nursing stuff.

Oh, and I was also taking her for chiropractic care, which also helped with the nursing stuff, but not the digestion.

After many horrible months, I finally broke down and took her to a holistic pediatrician (we're in an HMO, so I had to pay out of pocket, and it added up to a lot of money). She was around 9 months old at this point. Again, she was never really constipated in the traditional sense, as her stools were not usually hard. But she was going multiple days without pooping, and every time we introduced solids it got worse. I really felt she should be going every day (as did the chiro and holistic ped, as that is the best way the body has to purge toxins). The ped is trained in acupuncture, homeopathy, CST and some other stuff, in addition to being a traditional doctor. I have been open to alternative treatments for a long time, but had never really embraced homeopathy. Well, I am a big believer now! The ped put dd on probiotics (Metagenics, Ultra Flora Plus Capsules DF ... ranging from 1 capsule every other day up to 1 capsule twice a day -- I open the capsule and mix it with some baby food), and also homeopathics. The gas disappeared immediately, and her poops improved right away, and within 2-3 months she was pooping 1-3 times/day with no problems.

The homeopathics were usually changed up every time we went in to see the ped (once a month). She said this was normal, because as the body heals, you peel back layers and uncover "new" stuff. It's not really going in circles ... more of a spiral, if you know what I mean .

So everything was going great up until maybe 4-6 weeks ago. Her sleep seemed to be really disturbed again, and when I would go in and nurse her at night, she was passing gas (which she hadn't been doing before). Also her poops slowed down (maybe once every other day), even though I was still using the homeopathics.

The ped moved to a new office too far away, so I finally got dd into the homeopath that I am seeing (on the ped's recommendation). That appt was about 10 days ago. She changed up the homeopathics again, and we saw immediate improvement, so it seems we're still working our way through that spiral. She said dd's main "issue" is digestion, and she thinks it will take 4-6 months to really get her detoxed. But she said it will always be a weak point for dd, because that's just the way we are (according to her, everyone has a weak point in their system ... it just happens that it's digestion for dd). But we did see drastic improvment right away, although things are still not perfect. We went through a rough spell for a week or two, but that was related to teething. Things are much better now, and most nights dd is doing the fuss/quiet/fuss/quiet/fuss/quiet thing around 4 AM. If I give her Colic Ease and nurse her, she goes back to sleep with no problem, and sleeps well until 8:30-9:30 AM. Two months ago she was up 2-3 times/night, so things are MUCH better now.

So, I am hoping that once her body is done detoxing, we can stop relying on the Colic Ease, and she will FINALLY sleep through the night. She is totally ready for this, and some nights doesn't even want to nurse when I go in. I think she will sleep great once she's not suffering from any discomfort.

And she's back to pooping once/day, occasionally twice/day.

So, to summarize, here are some things you might want to try:

Get some Colic Ease for dealing with the acute issue. I don't know if it will help with constipation, but it might help with the pain that accompanies it. I have taken it myself for gas pains, and the stuff really works!

If your dd is still breastfeeding, you could try an elimination diet and/or eliminate foods from her diet. It's my personal (and totally unscientific and untested ) opinion, however, that a healthy body won't have trouble with most foods. I think a food sensitivity is often a sign of an underlying imbalance in the body that needs to be addressed.

Get her on a probiotic. The stuff I found at Whole Foods was waaaay weaker than the Metagenics, but I think you can only get the Metagenics through a health care practitioner. You could try upping the dosage of whatever you get to match the Metagenics (7.5 billion live organisms of Lactobacillus acidophilus and Bifidobacterium lactis (formerly known as B. infantis) per capsule).

I mix the probiotic with Earth's Best prunes/oatmeal, which both help with constipation. She also gets some of my morning oatmeal. I know some people say prune juice works better than prunes, but we don't do juice. My friend swears by flax seeds to help her dd maintain regularity. She grinds them and adds them to cereal, etc.

The probiotic will help with any kind of imbalance, but she might need more help than that to resolve whatever the underlying issue is. You could try CST (find a practitioner here, and try to pick someone with more than a beginner level of training). We see a massage therapist who specializes in CST once a month ... it costs $30/session. (For an example of a good level of training, you can search for her name -- Kelly Handyside -- and see the classes she has taken.) Like I said, my friend's son was "cured" of his constipation problems after just two visits, so this works great for some people.

You could also try chiropractic, although it's really important to find a good one. The first woman we saw didn't help dd that much. The second one made it so dd didn't cry during nursing after just one visit. The practitioner makes a HUGE difference!!!

If that doesn't work, then you might want to bring out the bigger (and probably more expensive) guns. I really cannot say enough about homeopathy ... I am absolutely amazed at how it has helped dd, and now myself, as I sought treatment from a homeopath after seeing how it helped dd. Like the CST, I think this would address any underlying issues, and should help you find long-term relief (although it's usually not an overnight cure, IMO). You can find a holistic child health practitioner or pediatrician here. Our ped is listed through this site, although I don't know if everyone you would find there has similar levels of training. But it might be worth a look.

Here are some good articles on homeopathy: link 1 and link 2. And this one offers links to websites that will give more information and also help you find a practitioner.

Again, the practitioner makes a huge difference. The homeopath dd and I see came highly recommended by the ped (who came highly recommended by several people I know, including the good chiro, who came highly recommended by my pre-natal and mom&baby yoga teacher ... you get the drift ). Referalls are worth their weight in gold. I don't know if Angie's List covers this kind of stuff. If you have a local Birth Network or LLL, that might be a good place to start. Check out the Finding Your Tribe section at MDC, and ask if anyone who lives in your area can recommend the type of practitioner you're looking for. Find a well-trained CST therapist through the Upledger site, and see if they can recommend a good chiro, homeopath, etc.

One final thought ... Sometimes I look at the path we've taken and think "Why couldn't we have just gone straight to the homeopath, and things would have gone so much faster!! And cheaper!" But I truly believe that each "healer" we've seen brought something to the table. It is my experience that no single person holds all the answers. So it has worked out really well for us to move through different people, different healing modalities, etc., and all of it has added up to help get us to where we are today.

I hope this helps and isn't too overwhelming . Feel free to ask for clarification here or you can PM me ... and good luck!
post #25 of 70
Hey everyone! I only posted a coupld of times in October but just noticed the November thread! Trying to catch up now!

Elisa - I am new too!

Chelsea - Congrats!!! That is great, exactly 2 years apart, huh? Sounds perfect to me.

Shanana - That is so cool about the communication! My DS has just starting doing some signs and its so neat to watch their minds work.

Melina - Wow, 10 days with the IL's? You are a better woman than I...

Valerie - I hope you get some sleep!

Nothing too much going on here! Just trying to catch up as my mom has been here for 4 days and so I got behind on everything, especially online! Isn't it amazing how messy a house can get with a guest in it? It is going to take me a couple of days to recover I think!
post #26 of 70
DH seems to be coming down with a cold, and we're supposed to fly out to NC tomorrow :. If he doesn't feel 100% in the morning, we're going to reschedule. Our "free" (on frequent flier miles) trip is starting to get expensive. We already had to reschedule once because my grandfather got sick (cost $50). Now if we reschedule again, it will be another $50. Plus, we'll lose out on a 15,000 mile discount (expires after 11/16). :

I know it's not dh's fault, and it makes no sense to travel if he's sick. I'll need him at 100% to help with dd (in a non-babyproofed house . Plus, my grandfather is in his 90s, and I don't want to get him sick. AND, my cousin has a 4 week old baby, so of course we don't want to get her and her baby sick. AND, if dh is sick, odds are dd and I will get it while we're there, and it would just be a disaster.

But dh said he thought he was getting sick 4 or 5 days ago, and he still isn't "sick" sick. His voice is gravelly and he's a little congested, but he doesn't feel sick. Grrrrr. It's so weird. I wish he was either sick or NOT sick. Not this in between business.

So in the meantime, I spent the day packing and preparing, even though I'm pretty sure we'll end up cancelling. My poor grandpa ... he even went out and bought a crib, so we would have a place for dd to sleep and wouldn't have to drag a pack and play on the plane. I guess my aunt is going to take it when we're gone, since she will be babysitting my cousin's son a lot.

Ah well. Just venting at the inconvenience of the whole thing. On the odd chance we do end up going tomorrow, please send sleepy prayers our way. I am scared to death over how dd will handle sleeping somewhere else!
post #27 of 70
Very quickly - I have to go to the market but I received an email last night saying that I had passed my LLL stuff and am now a Leader - Yippee
post #28 of 70
Congrats Ewe!
post #29 of 70
We postponed our trip, as dh felt "okay", but was still congested, etc. Will probably try again in 2 weeks.

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Shanana: I will try soaking clothes in oxy clean for a few days . . I only soak for a couple of hours I can be too impatient sometimes !
Give it a try. I buy used clothes from other moms, at thrift stores, etc., and I'm almost always able to get stains out if I soak long enough. I bought a bunch of used clothes with set-in chocolate milk stains, and they all came out!

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Goodness - the time passes so quickly, Kian is back on his feet and enjoying life again - thank heavens it's awful to see them so miserable.
Ewe, I am so glad to hear that Kian is feeling better. He is so active, it must be frightening to see him laid low like that.

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and we want to impress on the kids that the important thing is to be together with family and not to count the pressies
Yeah, this is us too. My mom goes crazy with presents, but she never gets stuff I want or need ... just a bunch of junk. It was such a relief when I met dh and his family, and they don't do presents at all (after the kids became adults). Emphasis is on time spent together instead. So dh and I don't do presents except for on our birthdays, and then it's only one thing. I still have to buy some stuff for my parents, though, and I always dread that. Children are another matter, of course, and I don't plan on depriving dd of gifts. But she's still so little, and my mom is going to buy her so much stuff. I haven't decided yet if I'm going to buy her anything.

[QUOTE=ewe+lamb;6437856]As for sleeping, alot of you seem to have no nursing through the night - how did that happen? both of mine nurse more at night than during the day minimum is 5/6 times (obviously not Freya now but when she was wee) - thank heavens we co-sleep, i'd go bananas if we didn't.

Five or six times? Yikes! I think I'd go insane , although co-sleeping definitely makes it easier. I wish I knew how to make co-sleeping work. I was in so much pain (in addition to being kicked all night). I dreaded going to bed every night. As for the nursing, I think if they're right there, a babe is more likely to go for the goods . DD is still almost always getting up once to nurse, but I think it's because she's waking up for other reasons (gassy, teething, etc.). When she does nurse, though, she empties both sides (day or night), so it's a full meal.

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Going to introduce Kian to Freya's room, Ikea has a set of bunk beds, double on the bottom and single on top, I was going to put the kids in the double until Freya was old enough to go on top, it should be ok if we top and tail - shouldn't it? What do you think about kids sharing rooms/beds? We only have a two bed apartment so I don't know how else to arrange things - any ideas greatly appreciated! DH does want to put him into the other room but I'm not sure if it's just because he doesn't want to buy another bed or actually prefers co-sleeping
No advice, but your kids get along so great, I'm sure you'll work it out.

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anitaj71 - we've toddler proofed our place as well but he still manages to get into things - I don't know how he does it and apart from the cleaning cupboard I've given up with the rest! The other day he got into the child locked cupboard that I have his nappies in and tipped the whole lot into the bath I was running for the pair of them:
Ewe, what did you DO when you were pregnant to make this child turn out this way? Maybe it's something in the water over there .

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sproutbabe - kian's doing kisses but with his mouth WIDE open and then he licks!! most amusing!!
I was thrilled when dd started giving close-mouthed kisses a while back. Much less messy . She is so sweet with them. Her latest thing is to give me a kiss when she's switching sides while nursing. It makes my heart melt.

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Shanana - thank heavens you know how to do the quote thingy - haven't worked that one out yet - but having you around really helps !
At the bottom-right of each person's post, you'll see three buttons ... something like reply, multi-quote and quote (hover your mouse over them to see what they're called). If you want to quote just one person, then go to that post and click on the quote button ... that will bring you to the reply screen, with their post included as a quote. If you want to quote more than one person, click the multi-quote button for each person you want to quote (it will turn red) ... you can even go through multiple pages of a post and do this. At the last posting you want to quote, push the quote button instead of multi-quote, and it will open a reply screen with everyone's comments included as quotes. Voila!

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How's the healing doing? It seems to be working if your wee one is sleeping so long and without nursing - I don't know how everyone manages that one - it's a mystery to me.
We're doing okay. Still up once a night most nights. Last night was rough and I have no idea why. We've been eating more (cow) dairy than normal lately, and I'm beginning to wonder if that's part of the problem.

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On the down side, we are into week 4 of the girls being constantly sick with one thing or another. They're mostly fine (although Babe had a touch of croup which was horrid) but I'm tired of steam baths and being stuck home and not at the gym. Especially with halloween candy hiding in my pantry (darn DH keeps forgetting to bring it work as promised).
Pom, Halloween sounds like it was a blast! An elephant sounds too cute . I send the candy to work with dh too . So sorry about the sickies ... 4 weeks sounds pretty miserable.

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Pom - your halloween sounds fun! We love halloween in our house too - it is a double holiday for us cuz it is also DH's b-day! We dressed up as a family and I was Britney Spears (still pregnant with baby #2), Dh was Kevin Federline, and we dressed Rosie as their first son Sean Preston - photos are up on my blog. It was fun - but we didn't really do much - didn't even trick or treat - just visited DH's family to show off our costumes. I hope your girls are better soon!
Chels, I was thinking of you when I heard Britney and Kevin had split. At least they waited until after Halloween and didn't ruin your costumes .

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Took Kian to music this morning and the girl that plays the guitar forgot her strap so used a chair to lean on this morning, Kian saw what she was doing, and ever faithful to his red guitar took a baby chair and tried to balance whilst having one very teeny totty leg on the chair, he stood there wobbling about guitar in arms thinking that he was great!! - it was fantastic
That is SO cute! I'm sure your trip to Scotland will be wonderful, and much better than getting lots of presents!

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hello, I'm new. So glad to see there are other july 05 moms.
As I type this my little guy is trying to put a CD in the paper shedder (that we keep unplugged). We use cloth diapers and still nurse once at night right before bed. DS loves to run around the house and is generally a very content baby.
and welcome!

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Dropped off the earth again! Simon came home with a cold about 2 weeks ago and that night started PUKING. Ugh. My in-laws arrived for a 10-day visit the next day. Then, 2 days later, at a Halloween street fair, DS1 started puking. Dh and I had a party and a hotel room for that night and decided to go ahead and go, since in-laws were here. Needless to say, the night was far from romantic as we alternated who slept on the bathroom floor at the hotel so as to be close to the toilet ... Oof. The next day, my FIL got it. It was the WORST.

And then, of course, there's the whole 10 days of in-laws. . .
Ugh.

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Good news here - DH's project just got extended another month, which means he'll be working into December. Perfect - he'll finish, we'll travel, we come back and it's a good potential time for other projects to start. In the meantime, I opened a business banking account and am getting ready to file a dba for two of my business lines. I also heard, unoficially, that funding will be available for a potential client and I might pick up a totally different kind of work. Woo hoo!

Life. Is. Crazy.

Wouldn't have it any other way!
Yay!!!

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Anna had a runny nose yesterday morning... then fever and a nasty diaper rash (red, raised and bleeding) that really hurt when I change her diapers I'm going to get some gentian violet and a pack of disposables (don't want to stain our CD stash) to get rid of this as fast as I can because I'm crying along when she screams.

Last night was a nightmare... I barely can stand strait today... we have a chiro appointment this afternoon, I'll drive slow... I would cancel but I badly need the adjustment

I. need. to. sleep. !!!!
Valerie, I hope you've been getting more sleep. You poor thing, things have been so rough for you ... I don't know how you're surviving!

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Very quickly - I have to go to the market but I received an email last night saying that I had passed my LLL stuff and am now a Leader - Yippee
Congratulations!!!

I'm feeling like a bad mom today, but sheesh I want a break. Just a day to myself. Okay, I'd settle for a few hours . Our weekends always seem to be spent in shifts, with dh or I sleeping, trying to make up a little sleep. DH is sleeping right now, and I'm TRYING to get dd down. She slept horribly last night and only napped for an hour earlier, so I know she's tired. But no luck. My house is a disaster, and I'm always dealing with dd and still tired so much of the time. Just feeling run down and kind of complainy today I guess. But I would love a day to myself. Just to putter around, be alone, and spend some time picking up and organizing. With dd around, I just can't seem to focus on one thing long enough to actually make some headway. DH needs to use up some vacation before the year ends ... maybe I will suggest a daddy/daughter day -- OUT OF THE HOUSE!!

Ah well. I guess I'm going to give up on this nap and get her up. And I think I'll get dh up too. He's been sleeping for three hours, and I want some help!
post #30 of 70
Well, I guess sharp knives and 15+ months of sleep deprivation don't go well together. I just tried to amputate the tip of my thumb while chopping onions . The knife went through the nail and into my thumb, but not so far as to necessitate a trip to the ER (I have some knowledge in this area as dh has twice hurt himself in a similar manner ... once with the snowblower, once with wire cutters ). So I'm bleeding all over the place, and dh is running around frantically trying to figure out what to do, and sleep-deprived dd is standing in the middle of it all, screaming her head off. It has been a fun, fun day. Sigh.
post #31 of 70
Chelsea - congrats!

Shana - How's the thumb now?? Hope ok.

Melina _ I've heard that stomach bug is TORTURE! So sorry you had to go through it.

Elisa - Welcome! Our babe was mostly constipated until a couple months ago. She still has a tendency to get that way. Here's what we do:

Add PITTED juice, diluted to her diet. Better than apple -- so prune, apricot, peach, mango, etc.

Flax oil to food.

Eliminate all breads, cereals, cheese, rice, bananas, apples, oatmeal (if it's not too bad, we'll put flax oil in oatmeal).

KALE plus cottage cheese usually works wonders. We haven't figured out a better carrier for the kale, but a non-dairy would be better.

And BLUEBERRIES are magic for us. That and a ton of watermelon.

Good luck!

Babe is talking more and more. Today she said "Dog bite me". Two of us thought we heard her say that (after a dog nipped at her and we were talking about it). But is that even possible??
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Shana - How's the thumb now?? Hope ok.
It doesn't hurt, as long as I don't touch or use it . And I can type two-handed again, which is a good thing.

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KALE plus cottage cheese usually works wonders. We haven't figured out a better carrier for the kale, but a non-dairy would be better.
Have you tried kale mixed with mashed potatoes? Search kale potato recipe in Google, and you'll come up with a million suggestions. Those two foods seem to pair very well together.

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And BLUEBERRIES are magic for us. That and a ton of watermelon.
When blueberries were in season, dd was eating TONS of them. I am not kidding you when I say there were a few times when her pooped smelled like blueberries . Oh, and they turned her poop black.

Also, I know I said in one post that I think food sensitivities indicate an underlying problem and if someone is healthy they won't have them, and in another post that I thought dairy might be causing dd some trouble. I wanted to clarify that I think dairy is one of the exceptions to my theory, in that I don't think that people are really designed to drink the milk of other mammals. I think I've read that something like 80+% of the world population is lactose intolerant! That said, we still eat dairy, but dd gets mostly goat milk products (cheese and yogurt). I am still trying to settle on an eating philosophy (have been reading Weston Price, Nourishing Traditions, and posts on the Traditional Foods forum that debate the neolithic vs paleolithic diet ... yikes, it will make your head spin! , but we will probably always eat at least a little dairy. I'm just not sure yet how much or what kind (goat, cow, raw, pasteurized, cultured, etc.).

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Babe is talking more and more. Today she said "Dog bite me". Two of us thought we heard her say that (after a dog nipped at her and we were talking about it). But is that even possible??
That's how I felt when dd said "thank you" the other day. So little of her actions reflect back what we do, but when she does something like that it really makes me realize just how much she is absorbing! Hope the dog bite wasn't serious ...
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DD is sick :. Nights are awful again.
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nescarbebe: Welcome to July 05 Mamas thread. It is always nice to have more Mamas joining in.

Melina: Its a pity that there was illness when the inlaws came along. My inlaws are in the USA and we are here in Oz (evil me lured their youngest to live here with me - no they don't think I'm evil, I'm J/K). Whenever we've gone to the USA or they've come over to Oz 10 days is the usual time frame (except when we got married they stayed just a little over 2 weeks as it was their first time over here). The secret to us all getting on well together is "long distance" and that's the truth Its great that on the work front that things are going great for you and DH. Hope you have a safe and comfortable trip over Thanksgiving and Christmas.

Valerie: I hope that your back is much better now, your getting sleep and that Anna's diaper rash has gone. It is horrible when your little one is suffering, you just wish that you could take it away and put it upon yourself.

Elisa: I hope that your DD's constipation has let up. When my DS first started solids I used to say that as I Mother I am constantly worrying. I worry about what goes in his mouth and how much. Then I worry about what comes out the other end and what sort of consistency it is. Good luck with the flight, hope it goes safely and smoothly for you.

Rachel: I bet your Mom had a good time catching up with you and DS. My mother is a godsend as she lives close by and she comes grocery shopping with me. She pushes the cart and keeps DS entertained while I grab the stuff off my list (and then some )

Shana: What a bummer that your holidays plans have gone awry and is costing you but like you said, Grandpa is in his 90s and you don't want him to get sick. When DS was newborn I also bought secondhand clothes to save money and I knew that DS wouldn't be in them for long. DS had reflux so we were constantly changing his clothes and it also was a big contributor to his sleep issues back then. It is so cute that M gives you closed mouth kisses. It is hit and miss over here - I am lucky to get hugs or kisses at all now . DS's favourite thing is to "run away" from Mama and Daddy at the moment - he thinks it is funny.
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I'm feeling like a bad mom today, but sheesh I want a break. Just a day to myself. Okay, I'd settle for a few hours . Our weekends always seem to be spent in shifts, with dh or I sleeping, trying to make up a little sleep.
You're not alone feeling like this. Lately I too have been feeling really sleep deprived and as you know it really impacts your mood big time. I have yelled at DS a couple of times to "stop it" when he has become too much and I immediately feel guilty straight away and apologise to him. I know that he needs a calm mother not a banshee and I have resolved to not yell at him to vent my frustrations. It is hard but I am trying. DH tries to take over looking after DS on the weekends but it isn't a rest for me because I end up in the garden taking care of the weeding or maitenance because DH just doesn't do it and he says he may "pull out the wrong plant". Grrr. Now don't go cutting your thumb off cos you may need it. No seriously I hope you didn't get hurt badly. Sorry that M isn't well again I hope she makes a speedy recovery and sleeps well again

Ewe: Congrats - a LLL Leader that is wonderful! DH and I don't go overboard with birthday and Christmas with DS (apart from the fact that he was too young to understand). We too want to teach him family and the spirit of Christmas etc is important so we don't go crazy over presents and get a truck load or spend $500 on presents.

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Babe is talking more and more. Today she said "Dog bite me". Two of us thought we heard her say that (after a dog nipped at her and we were talking about it). But is that even possible??
Wow that is amazing and wonderful ... and yes I admit it ... I am a little jealous. DS doesn't say much.
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Doh it took me 1.5 hours to type up that previous post because DS didn't like me giving my attention to the computer.

Anyone else take ages to type up a post?

Anyway it has been getting harder to post regularly because DS has been keeping me busy.

I love watching him learn, grow and understand things.

I grab his shoes and ask him to go sit on his chair because I'm going to put his shoes on. He runs to his little chair, climb onto it and sticks his feet out so I can put his shoes on.

Feeding wise he has now refused any help. He feeds himself and we're not allowed to stick a spoon or fork anywhere near him unless it is to give it to him to use. Dinner time is a MESSY time but the look of pride and happiness on his face is priceless.
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Shanana - Sorry your DD is sick!

Ange - Yes it was nice having her here and she seemed to enjoy it. How nice for you to have someone to entertain your DS at the store!! I too am having trouble getting on the computer when DS is awake so I usually wait until he is asleep to get one. If I try while he is awake he will come over and take my hand off the mouse and keeping doing it so they I feel bad! I just give up! Which is hard because I have a creative business website I am trying to keep up with during the day but can't!

Nothing new here. Just trying to get organized but I don't think its ever going to happen! LOL
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Hi all,
can't believe it's been so long.

Chelsea, Congrats!

New moms, welcome.

Valerie, hope there's been some sleep, diaper rash healed, and your back ok. I need to live at my chiropractor's, I go every 2 weeks right now, and it still doesn't feel like enough.

Ewe, congrats on becoming a LLL leader! how fortunate for other nursing mamas.

Shana, so sorry things so hard. hope there will be improvement. my ds also seems to withhold words & even signing now, resorting to his, uhn, uhn UHN! pointing and shrieking again. or sometimes using all signs at once, More, All done, eat drink, ACK. One early morning as DH and I were trying to fall back asleep after the 5am wake up to nurse, DS finished on one breast and ever so clearly demanded "Other". he hasn't said it again since. "all done" and mama/daddy are about the only clear things he says. hope you'll get to NC soon! Weather has been pretty good, 68 and balmy today but getting colder, I hear.

Pom, amazing what dd said! my sister is going to Maine for Thanksgiving. we generally don't travel during holidays due to DH's retail work schedule, and it's too nuts when we go north in summer, never mind adding the holiday stress.

SO, DS is doing great after having surgery for tubes in ears (AND molars finally finally coming through). the time leading up to surgery very exhausting & scary. I'm very grateful, and good to feel we've made right decision. Turned out he had condition called "glue ear" where fluid is so stagnant it thickens to consistency of rubber cement, this winter would have been even more horrible than summer, although that's hard to imagine...ENT had to suction it out several times to get all clear. DS had *just * started walking week prior to surgery, so it was tough as his balance was all wonky after, but now there's no stopping him. He had his first cold post-surgery recently and it was wonderful to not be on edge waiting and desperately hoping he wouldn't tug at his ears. We tried dietary changes, chiropractic, CST, to no avail...well not to no avail, but it didn't change the ear prob.

someone else mentioned how amazing it is, seeing their comprehension & skill grow, isn't it just remarkable? I'm totally in love with him again. easier now that we're not up every 2 hours every night. so sorry to those of you having sleep probs, it's horrible. sleep is the foundation of mental health, all health really. I was in awful shape after the surgery & finally feeling more normal.

we're still nursing, boy are we nursing. he has been hammering on me, what is there, a 16 month growth spurt??? I really wish there was a Wonder Weeks for Toddlers, I loved that book. anyhow, I've lost loads of weight, finally realized how much as we switched to winter clothes...not sure how good it is because it's mostly from nursing & not eating enough/well. so working on that. but enjoying being back to my slimmer self after 10 years or so! we've cut out night feedings and his comprehension has helped, I had to say, No, all done, already nursed, we'll nurse again when you wake up, and he's fussed some but accepts it, throwing his arm around my neck and falling asleep, sometimes it's quickish, other times it takes 30-45 min. wearing him out during the day helps a lot. still doing musical co-sleeping beds, he goes down by himself until DH goes in w/him, then at 5:30 or 6 when he wakes crying for mum mum, they both come in w/me & we nurse & snuggle back to sleep.

I've finally met some moms locally instead of having to drive an hour round trip to get together, so that's nice, just started playgroups w/them. looking into playschools or waldorf type nursery for DS to attend a couple of half days a week maybe at 18 months. can't imagine having a break like that.

I'm going to my first mothers night out on thurs, too.

have noticed that there seems to be a cycle to my stress, a regular time when I feel more together, house stays picked up more, I have more energy, and times where everything goes to he**, not sure if it corresponds to MY cycle, or not, or if it's just life.

it's hard for me finding time to get online, frequently I'd much rather sleep, no offense ladies! but great to occasionally read how you're all doing, even if I can't find time to post.
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Hi all, I also have been lurking and reading the updates - but not able to find the time or energy to post regularly. I forgot how much early pregnancy takes out of you - I am constantly exhausted and my lower back is killing me! Luckily the nausea isn't too bad or I don't think I could handle it.... Thanks to all for the well wishes! I am still a little nervous and haven't told anybody outside of immediate family (and you guys) - I had an early m/c before my dd was born and I am still really nervous and checking for spotting all the time - I can't wait till New Years Day - I will be 12 weeks and can take a deep breath and relax as I enter the 2nd trimester.

Welcome to nascarbebe and the new moms who have found us!

Shana - so sorry you had to postpone your trip - I would be kicking DH's butt for being sick and then getting M sick too! That really sucks! Hope your thumb isn't too painful - do I need to come to your house and confiscate all the sharp objects?

Ewe - congrats on becoming a leader! That is awesome!

Cherubess - It takes me forever to type a post too - which is why I don't post regularly (well, that - and I am lazy )- It is hard to find time without my girl needing my attention or wanting to bang on the computer - I made the mistake of showing her some Elmo videos on my laptop that I found on youtube one day - and now everytime I get my laptop out - she runs over and says "Elmo"???

Pellifoli - glad to hear that the tubes have solved the ear problems - I can imagine how frightening that must have been to have to see your poor baby go through all that...my girl has been nursing non stop too - I thought maybe my milk was changing already - but maybe it is just a 16 month growth spurt... We have a similar sleeping arrangement - Rosie sleeps in her crib from 8-9pm until she wakes up at 5-6ish and then I bring her in to me and we snuggle and nurse and she is supposed to go back to sleep - but lately she has been staying awake - marathon nursing and crawling all over me - : Have fun with your local moms - It really helps my sanity to get out with other moms (even though it is rare)...

Rachel - my mom was just here for a visit too - it was great to have her help out with rosie so I could sleep in or take a nap - and I know she had a lot of fun playing and bonding with my girl...

Pom - I love it that you are already getting sentences with your girl - that is amazing! Rosie's vocabulary has expanded greatly - but she still has yet to string more than one word together - I have been trying to get her to say "I love you" - but all she says is "love" with her tongue sticking out...

Valerie - hope the diaper rash has cleared up - that sounds so painful for your girl - and I hope your back is feeling better too - I need to see my chiro myself - hope your chiro helped ease your pain...

Elisa - hope that Shana's thesis on constipation issues and remedies has helped give you some ideas - she is our resident expert on that subject (Pom too) so I knew she could give you lots of info...

Melina - yikes! Inlaws and puking all at the same time??? Glad you got through all that with your sanity - have safe travels over thanksgiving and have fun with your family!
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just to say hello!

Nights are hard, my back was better after the adjustment but is starting to hurt again because of the nights...

Tried the Gentian Violet on DD's rash - it cleared a bit on the first day but she got another rash when I put some on the second day... wonder if she could be allergic to it. Now I try to keep it as clean as I can and let her run nude... I'm mopping a lot!!! lol!

She needs to be in my arms a lot but refuse to be in the wrap :-( I've tried every positions I know, she fuss in all of them. I would really like to pur her on my back and do what needs to be done in the house... but it looks like she won't cooperate with me.

Have to go, DD doesn't like when I'm at the computer...
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Nights are still horrendous. I didn't fall asleep until after 4 AM last night. DD slept until 1:30 AM, but I couldn't sleep before that (I'm so wound up and anxious, waiting for her to wake up and hell on earth to begin). I'm so sleep-deprived, I'm past being tired. She was up until 5 AM or so, but at 4 I finally put in the ear plugs (dh was with dd, but I can hear everything ... her making noise, him walking down the hall, doors closing, etc.). She is still sick ... we are all sick. I am expecting our nights to continue like this until her congestion clears up. A few more days at the very least, is my guess. Good grief, this is so hard.

She is such a sweetheart, even though she's killing me with the no sleeping. I melted down the other day, sitting in dh's lap (on the floor), crying hysterically, and she kept walking around and around us. She came up to me repeatedly and kissed me so sweetly on my face. She wasn't distressed by my display of emotion, more just noticing that I was upset, and trying to offer me comfort. She even tried to gently pick the tears off my face. I need sleep so bad, but it's impossible not to just love her until my heart breaks into a million pieces.

Other than that, all is going pretty well. She seems to be talking a little more. Has started consistently saying "uh-oh" when she throws or drops something on the floor. Apparently it applies to anything going on to the floor ... the cat jumped off the bed this morning, and she said "uh-oh" .

It seems that nightly bathtime is her favorite time to practice words. Tonight it was "uh-oh", last night it was "hi" ... she must have said "hi" 50 times . Also, dh was feeding her goat milk yogurt from the container for lunch today, and she kept pointing to the picture of a goat. So he was saying "goat" over and over. She was imitating him, but we got "go", "bo", "boat", "goat", and many other variations .

Did you guys hear about the woman thrown off a plane for refusing to cover herself with a blanket while nursing???? It absolutely floors me that we're still dealing with this kind of thing. If you go to the bottom of the article, there's a link to a petition to sign that will be sent to Delta.

Gotta go. DH is finally winterizing the motorcycles, and he needs my help ...
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