TTC #1 in our 30s - Anyone? Bueller? - Page 2

[ATD_Mom]

Another here!

I'm 32, DH is 30. We've been married just over a year. I'm amazed at so many of you who have been together/married for so long! We were married 8 months to the day after we met in person. (We knew each other via e-mail and phone for 8 months prior to meeting.) The only reason we are waiting - if 16 months after the wedding is considered waiting - is for visa reasons. I had to emigrate to his country first!

We, too, would like to have two children, about two years apart. Our plan is to wait until I have secured a job before TTC, but if that hasn't happened by January of 2007, we'll TTC anyway.

[hazieluna]

Hi! I'm 35 and a half (remember when you were a kid and that was how you introduced yourself?) My partner is 32. We've been together about 2 years now. I have to say I've never been in a relationship where I've wanted to have kids before. I know that he is the love of my life and that has changed everything for me. I am excited to start a family with him.

I accept that we may not be able to get pregnant (although to be honest I don't really know why not?) and if that is our lot well I'm happy with him and we can adopt. I watched a British film right at the time we decided to start tryingt his past Sept called Maybe Baby which is about a couple's struggle with infertility. After watching it we decided that if we can't get pregnant the old fashion way we'd think about adopting instead of going through all the hormonal treatments and stuff. I just don't have the emotional strength necessary to handle that. I mean just charting is making me crazy - tww sucks!

I also have thoughts about what it will mean to have a child join us. What it will me for me professionally? I fret about everything! I have been unemployed for just shy of 2 months and I am lost at home.... I've been working since before college and that seems to have shaped me! I'm wondering how I will cope with staying at home with my child? Of course I realize that it won't be the same as now but still...... anyway on Monday I start a new job and who knows maybe I'm already pregnant in which case it's going to be hard to face my new employer with the news.... ugh
sorry I'm just

Thanks for the forum! I think we face different fears when TTC #1 in our thirties.

[KitttyKat]

I went to FF and looked up 38 years old with no meds and pregnant to compare charts. I feel alot better seeing that they have 200 charts just from this year. Most were successful in the first 4 months, some took around a year. The only info not given was how many other children all the woman had.

My mother was 57 when she died and she was just starting to have menapause issues. My sister is 4 years older then me and still going strong. And my grandmother had 2 babies in her teens, 1 baby at 39, and 1 baby at 42. (yes, I went to the same school at as my two aunts, at the same time. Calling AUNT SHERRY across the playground at lunch is a great way to get beat up. )

[PiePie]

kittykat: thanks for the research on FF. encouraging!

[beckyphry]

I just had to share. I'm here at work and just had an employee (I'm one of 5 managers in my dept) in my office really ticked off about something, half-venting to me and half demanding solutions, and another employee was looking in. As I was talking to the ticked off employee, the one looking in piped up and said "you're gonna be a great mom" and said how calm and patient I was. : And no one at work even knows that we're ready to start a family, so that was sweet!

Welcome to all the new folks joining this thread! Yaaaay!

[foxey13]

Hello All -

Great idea for this thread. I think the 30's is one of those strange ages to get pg. If you're in your early 30's everyone thinks relax you still have time, if you are 35+ your advanced maternal age - whatever that means.

Okay I'm going to be 37 in 17 days, my dh is 36. We've been ttc for close to 18 months. The first few months were kind of a bust b/c I didn't know what the heck I was doing - and dh wasn't sure he really wanted kids. For anyone reading please don't panic if you are just starting out and see that we've been ttc for so long. It is what it is. I think age has something to do with it - but not much. I've gotten all the tests done, including a clomid challenge test, and I'm healthy and "normal". Normal enough that my fertility RN told me I have the ovarian reserve of a 25 year old. So we're just a bit slower than others.

I never thought I would be ttc for so long. I'm in my 18+ tww and frankly it's just become a part of the monthly process. I wonder, look at symptoms, chart, hope, buy more glad rags and move on. Oh and I do something a great friend suggested when she was ttc. Every month that I'm not pg I add something new to the fertility quest, and do something nice for myself. She joined a wine of the month club, which cracked me up.

I really think the best thing for me during the journey has been how well I know my own body. It's pretty cool.

I've started clomid this month - which I swore I wouldn't do.... it's been interesting. Since I did the challenge test I took 100mg for 5 days. I've been a bit off, but nothing catastrophic. I think the hardest thing about the clomid has been the stimulating of my ovaries - I felt like they were the size of tennis balls.

i do think ttc in our 30's creates a unique set of things to look at and I'm glad this link was set up!

Here's to lots of baby dust this month!

shannon

[foxey13]

Oh one last thing. If anyone is starting to find obstacles in the process and have questions about any of the medical tests please feel free to ask me. I've had a lot of them and dh had the semen analysis as well. So feel free to ask away!

[dctexan]

foxey 13
hazieluna
ATD_mom
Cattbrie
B2* (I think I missed you the first time around...sorry!)

SO good to see this thread growing and gaining strength. I completely agree with foxey13

I think the 30's is one of those strange ages to get pg. If you're in your early 30's everyone thinks relax you still have time, if you are 35+ your advanced maternal age - whatever that means.

Which is why I believe this thread is so important.

Where is everyone is their cycle? I am at CD13, still waiting to O. DH was out of town Mon until late last night so no BDing this past week. I pretty much attacked him when he came to bed at 3AM this morning. He was like "get off me, I'm so tired" (having just flown in from LA) but I persisted until sleep was no longer an option...hee hee.

[Cattibrie]

Thanks
I'm on CD3. One more cycle to go before we can start working on it!
We haven't told any family and very few friends know we're going to be TTC. My mother (who lives next door to me, ugh) thought I lost my mind when I slipped and expressed excitement over AF showing up, as she's usually greeted with annoyance heh. It's funny how my priorities are already starting to change.

[ItyBty]

I agree about the 30's being an odd time. Last year (at 29) I felt like I had all the time in the world, now I'm like - OMG! I have 10 years left! But I want like 10 kids! Oh no! (Ok, maybe not 10, but at least 4, maybe 5)

We havent really told anyone except 2 close friends. I just find it easier to not tell, and especially now as we are past the 12 month mark of trying, I'm just glad we never told many people, because I would hate to deal with a constant flow of "Arem't you pregnant yet?" and such. The people who need to know do, and I have you ladies here on MDC to talk to if need be, and I kinda like it that way.

[Brightside]

Hi

I'll join in! Newbie and lurker piping up, after a couple of weeks of browsing and trying to find my way around and learn all the abbreviations! *lol*

I'm 30 and a half, cd3. My dh is 28, we've been married for 2 1/2 yrs and TTC for 2 years in Dec. Whew.

I bit the bullet and went to the OB today! I'm such a natural, independant person its taken a long time for me to get to this point. I struggle with really wacked out cycles and have my hopes set on a "simple" thyroid problem or something. I have to go back Monday to get blood drawn for tests...grrr. I'm really hoping this doc turns out to be "right" for us.

This year I've just been trying to "relax," and not get too zany about all of this, while getting back to some health basics, doing a good cleanse, etc... It seems to have helped a bit, as I've been having two month cycles almost the entire year. I thought I improved to every month, but the doc said I was probably anovulatory in between. Arghh.

Anyway...sorry this is so long. I really appreciate all I'm learning and the offer of help/info on the medical side. You all are such a wealth of great things!

(I also registed at FF today and am going to start BBT asap! I don't know why I haven't earlier...but you all have inspired and encouraged me to be more proactive.)

Babydust to all!

[Nibor]

I'm in this crowd too. I'm 34 and my husband is 36 and we've been together for ten years. We kept saying year after year, "Not yet, maybe later" and finally it's 'later'

We've been trying for several months now but had a couple months of fierce yeast infections to get rid of - now that they're conquered (phew!), I'm on CD24 now and trying hard to hold out until Tuesday to test.

Re: the thread title - I bumped into Ferris Bueller's Day Off on tv a few weekends ago and couldn't resist watching it while I cleaned the bedroom. I'm definitely an 80's geek

[KitttyKat]

CD 5. OPK -. Ovary twinges, watery discharge, increased sex drive, worn out DP. LOL

[beckyphry]

Welcome Shannon, and hazieluna, ATD_mom, Cattbrie, B2*, Brightside, & Nibor!

I really think the best thing for me during the journey has been how well I know my own body. It's pretty cool.

I totally agree!

I'm still waiting to O, CD26, but not ttc this cycle. Still recovering from my m/c, and while I know it's the right thing for us, I'm still going to have to hold myself back when I start getting fertile CM!! :

[dctexan]

Originally Posted by Nibor

Re: the thread title - I bumped into Ferris Bueller's Day Off on tv a few weekends ago and couldn't resist watching it while I cleaned the bedroom. I'm definitely an 80's geek

Yeah, I suspect we are all 80s geeks here

Here is my scary story about being "old"...
I was lecturing my college undergraduates about a particular learning phenomenon and used my dog as an example. One of my students asked what kind of dog she was, so I said, "She is a Chow Schnauzer mix. She looks exactly like an Ewok". Completely BLANK stares. I soooo dated myself with that reference.
Not cool I tell you, not cool.

[ann109]

Holy crap I love this thread! Hi everyone! It has been so great reading everyone's stories. All different, all connected. I love that, too. Well, I'd love just about anything right now, including a shower b/c I've been bding for three days heeheehee
I am glad we're all here and know who the heck Ferris is. And who can quote Demi Moore's scenes with Rob Lowe in St Elmo's Fire? Or know what it means when I say he looks like Flock of Seaguls?

Ok, since I apparently am feeling silly due to sleep deprivation, I'll end for the night. Again, thankyou thankyou thankyou for this thread.

[KitttyKat]

Here's the real test...anyone know who Barnabus Collins is?

[Cattibrie]

Dark Shadows! I used to love that show. Right along with Creature Double Feature and the Thundercats HO!

[beckyphry]

"She is a Chow Schnauzer mix. She looks exactly like an Ewok". Completely BLANK stares.

Emily! Oh no!

Thundercats HOOOO!!!

I always wanted to be She-Ra, princess of power when I was little. How's THAT for an 80s reference?

[ann109]

I missed out on lots of the after school cartoon shows, b/c where I lived, we didn't have cable yet!!! For fun on the weekends, we'd RENT a VCR(almost as big as the TV) and some movies and watch them a million times!!! Northern Michigan fun!!!