THE November 4 YO tribe ... - Page 7

[tea olive]

okayokay, i bought it already. love you gals so much. i will rationalize that we have spent less than 10 dollars at the thrift store on the 30 plus ponies she has. i hate having to think about money! got to hurry up and wrap it and guess i will hide it in the truck. it is huge.

so i killed the thread, huh? or is that weekend/holiday season busy thing?
i had a great evening, even with reed losing his wallet with all his money (60). i almost started yelling when we walked to the parking lot to make sure it wasn't in the truck, and they had left the door open and i hadn't checked them. but i was able to turn around and be compassionate mamma, and he was able to calm down after walking through all the stores we had been to. he's actually more worried about the wallet, cos i made it and the fabric was a discount disappear thing. then we splurged and had sushi. this is the 2nd restaurant meal i have had with my three, and it was awesome. it helps that i had plum wine. then we took our borrowed truck through the fierce automated carwash. they helped me clean it earlier, and it was supercool how much they helped, cos it was such a novelty......

i've decided no party for friends for ruby. i will give the excuse that 4 is badluck number in taiwan. i have no cake mix, and i don't want to make pound, so maybe brownies. maybe i'll even use the scharffen-berger. and we are going to a party at 3 anyway. so it will seem party enough for the boys.

[Mona]

grats on a good day casina.

we are going to florida on monday for a week to see wes' mom and sister/husband. i am so looking forward to it, even tho i don't really like florida. lol
but i love the beach.

so yesterday i went to target, sans kathrynn, and looked thru the toy dept for something new for K to have on the plane. OMG i have to say we are all overprotected from the world of toys. It has been years since i've really been thru a toy dept other then at TJMaxx, and we don't watch enuf tv to see the commercials thank goddess. one day this child will be seeing the world of bratz, ect and it will be an interesting experience.

i think it is and will be in the future impt to be able to honor K's desires and likes, even tho they conflict with mine. otherwise there will just be a powerstruggle and a seperation rather then an increased connection bw us. it has taken me a long time to come to this point, and i guess i'm glad that i've come to this realization before having to actually deal with the reality of it yet.
i've been reading accounts of 6 and 8 year old girls wanting to wear bras. this boggles my mind, and i'll just say that i am not eager for K to grow up. lol

hugs to everyone.

[abranger]

Originally Posted by tea olive

. i have no cake mix, and i don't want to make pound, so maybe brownies. maybe i'll even use the scharffen-berger. a.

Casina YUMYUMYUM send some of those scharffen-berger brownies my way ...or at least the recipe..


this week my project is all coming to a climax I'll check back in with you all next week.

Amy

[goddessjulia]

Originally Posted by Mona

btw, i'd buy her the castle pony.

I would too (but then you might have guessed, since I mentioned my guy is into bionicles! ). I try to steer us away from plastic when I can-- I do loathe the stuff-- but how would it make my ds feel if the things he gets excited about are always things mommy says are bad? he doesn't get the environmental side of things yet, and it would be unfair of me to put that burden on him. I talk to him about what things cost, and which are made of materials that will last, and which are likely to break, etc to give some guidance, and I limit his exposure when I can to avoid certain battles. but then I reserve judgment and let him enjoy what he enjoys. we try to get things from yard sales, too, so that we're helping with the plastic problem instead of contributing, but when that's not possible I just don't sweat it. : I don't want to trample his joy, yk?

[DecemberSun]

I can imagine how excited Ruby will be when she opens her pony castle. Priceless.

I got a wisdom tooth pulled while in Mexico and my mouth hurts. : I need the other top one pulled because it has a hole in it :, then I have to find an oral surgeon in the states to do the bottom two. Ugh. I so hate dental work...

And I have no health insurance, so I am trying to plan how to pay for the baby's birth in the spring. Hmm... Maybe I can win the lottery between now and then?

I'm not sure what we will do for Zachary's birthday, even though it's coming right up. He just has to decide if he wants it here or at Grammy's or the park. We always do the same type of thing- BBQ and beer, family and friends. The kids run around and play while the grown-ups chit chat. Everyone knows that we have too many toys, so I am hoping to keep the gifts to a minimum.

I feel like I have gained 20 pounds in one week. (I've only gained 4 pounds total so far, yay!) My belly is definitely getting bigger. I will have to post some pictures. I feel bad because I haven't taken any yet, and I took one every few weeks with Z's pregnancy. I am enjoying this pregnancy so much more. I have one contraction every few days or so, I hardly even notice, and with Zachary I was already feeling tons a day at this point. And I just love feeling this baby because she is so active and strong. I can't wait to see her! I will be holding her in just 15 weeks (or less). Can you tell I am counting down the days?!?!

Oh, and by the way, there's only 35 more days 'till Christmas! :

[Awaken]

Originally Posted by MamaFern

on other news.. we may be getting a 2 week old foster baby in our home today! we got a call yesterday from my moms social working asking if we would be open to it and my mom and i both said YES!! we dont know any details right now exept that it is an emergency situation and that they desperately need a family for it. im totally dying to know whatsis going on. when i heard i was like "lets go get it!! NOW!" and i wonder if i can breastfeed it.. and if i can get the diapers together to cloth diaper it.. but its not up to us at this point. anyways, ll keep you all posted. im waiting by the phone.
its soo so sad as well.. im excited because i love babies, but i wish that no baby ever had to be a way from its momma.

Wow, so what is happening now? Did you get the baby? Would they 'allow' you to bf a foster baby, or would you just do it anyway and have formula around and act as if you were bottle feeding it?

Re: birthdays. My "little train" (what he prefers to be called) turns 4 on 12/16. He hates loud enclosed, crowded spaces so a party would not be fun for him. What he does love is trains, so we are basically doing the exact same birthday we had last year- going to the trolley museum, riding the trolley, and seeing the model trains there. And he wants a 'coal car cake' so somehow I have to figure out how to make that!!!

[DecemberSun]

Oh, yes, I forgot to say congratulations to Fern and her Momma on the prospect of a new foster baby. How exciting. What a lucky little baby...

[MamaFern]

no baby it still might happen. we are hanging and its really frustrating.!!

anyways.. my life is crazy busy as it is.. so im not too sad, though i really to long for a new baby in my arms.. even just for a second.. because in 7 days ngaio will be a year old and im so sad! im totally in love with her.. she is the most wonderful little person.. but shes starting to really walk now and talk and im not quite ready for her to not be a baby anymore.. *sniff*
i worked my first day as an assistant caterer on sunday. it was pretty fun.. not the kind of food i would serve, but it still was a good experience and money

elwynn is becoming a really incredible artist. he is so focused on it and so involved. he draws really realistic stuff. the other day he drew a person and he said "its you momma!" and i said "what is that big thing above my eyes? " and he said "its your brain mom!" like duh.. i should know thats where a brain is.. : 3/4 year olds are totally insanely amazing!

oh.. and favorite toy right now.. playmobil... he loves it. we have the bunnies set and he plays with it day and night..http://www.collectobil.com/catalogue/items/4455.htm

[saritasmile]

Hi again. not much time again but i miss you all so much!! thinking of you fern and about the possibility of the new baby!! casina thinking about you lots too.

gtg

[tea olive]

sarita, i hope you are enjoying this time and taking things slow when you need to. how is nursey slingy going?

ruby didn't scream but she squealed and had to lay on the box when she got the castle yesterday. we went to a laser tag party so i didn't have time to make a cake. she has been furious and adamant that she was still three until she had a party, so today we put up streamers and i made a scharffenberger chocolate cake from the recipe inside (can't remember the last time i actually sifted dry ingredients, but i was nervous just chopping my special chocolate and getting all the tiny pieces) with creme anglaise icing (rich stirred custard) and we turned off the lights for the candles. so she is four now.

i just don't like to spend money for plastic. even though it is durable. i guess i never had room to buy toys in general and am not accustomed to the idea cos reed is still better off with sticks and active play. they have more fun just putting masking tape everywhere and binding themselves. i want to just put the money into my yard and house. and today i yelled at reed cos he unscrewed the handle from my dustpan, put it with a short paint roller, and they are both now banged up. i should be glad that he is creative with what we have, that it is not contrived but an invented toy, but i need my handle on my dustpan to not cut me! fortunately there is a great thrift store now that i can get things but i get tired of having so much stuff. bionicles teach so much even tho they are ugly and the books are the dullest writing to me. i buy all the secondhand legos i come across even though i have never really liked them cos my boys will make stuff. last year i got ruby a playmobil farm and i truly love the playmobil, though it is a bit small, and hardly properly played with because she and clay share poorly, i still want to get more cos i like it.

leah and rynna, i'm so glad to have heard from you both.

learning to knit socks today. my crazy funky ugly shoes came in and i like them - they are orthotebb clogs. i am really hoping they help me.

[majazama]

hey everyone. :

I am kinda weaning myself off MDC now, cause I don't agree with the google ads, and how things are run here. So, I will be on the yahoo group only now.

Sarita~ I've been meaning to say something to ya... How is it going? How are things with razi? Does he love being a big brother?

casina~ I'm happy you gave ruby that huge hunk of plastic. She sounds so delighted.... so sweet.

fern~ you still haven't pmed me back about the baby stuff. I'd love to help you with what I can.

Leah~ Haven't seen you around in awhile! wisdom teeth removal-ouch! I need to get that done too. I have a freakin' huge hole in one tooth that is getting worse all the time, but amazingly it doesn't hurt. I wish I had some funds for that. When my grandparents were young, they had all their teeth removed, and got dectures. Not sure why, I guess they couldn't afford continual dentist apointments... g-ma says it was cause she had so many babies:

[DecemberSun]

Jaz, dental work is cheaper down in Mexico. Just let one of your road trips lead you down to Mexico and I'll help watch your kids and feed you Tequila on the beach. I'm pregnant so all I can take is Tylenol, but the pain is not too bad. I have an appt. to get the other top one out on Dec. 12th. Fun fun.

[MamaFern]

ITS SNOWING!!!

just thought i'd share!: i love snow.

[XmasEve]

I hope it snows here sometime this year. Snow is fun.

Tea Olive, I'm glad you got her the Pony Castle. I didn't weigh in on that discussion because my first thought was that maybe you could come up with a similar toy, bought or made, that would please Ruby and you. You know, just build your own wooden version of the Pony Castle, right? Easy-peesy! Then I realized, gads, that sounds like my mother, and not only that, but one of my mother's WORST traits. So I kept my mouth shut.

I'm glad Ruby is happy with the Pony Castle. I had a similar toy as a child and loved it with a special love. And look, plastic toys and all, I still grew up to be environmentally conscientious! (tho I'm not sure I spelled that last word right and am too lazy to look it up)

I've decided not to do a birthday party this year. Dc1 has never been invited to a birthday party, so I'm not sure she'd know how to behave at one, and I think it would an unnecessary stressor. I really only enjoyed having birthday parties at ages 8, 9, and 10, so why do I feel dc1 needs one?

New Topic:
So I have lost dc1 twice while shopping. The first time was scary as hell, as all first times are, and left us both in tears. Which is why the 2nd time baffles me. She just keeps claiming she forgot the rule. Don't flame me for this, but I'm all about teaching 'stranger danger.' But dc1 won't believe me! I don't take her shopping anymore, if I can't carry her or keep her in the cart.

[calynde]

Originally Posted by majazama

that's cool ! (pun intented) I live in B.c. canada, and I know all about cold It's pretty progessive there, though, right? Like everything is recyclable...

My computer was down, so I disappeared...

hi again!

Switzerland is totally "progressive" and everything is recycled, everyone takes public transport or rides a bike (all year), good health care (including alternative), beautiful scenery, neutrality...yes, it really is a wonderful place. But Europe is very rooted in it's history and tradition (what we (North) Americans often love it for) and while that's novel and intriguing at first, one does start to long for a bit more openness and momentum and change. I can't really complain, our life here is comfortable. But I miss feeling "home"...and knowing what I know now, I don't think I would be quite so fast to complain about *everthing* in the US. Only most things. I guess I would say that the bad things about living in the US are emphasized when abroad, as well as the great things about living there. IYKWIM!? The good, the bad, and the ugly! Only when I lived there I didn't notice enough of the good.

My son is in a very "heady" phase right now. Anyone else dealing with this? He refuses to make any physical efforts...like learning to ride a bike (or even a trike for that matter), no climbing anything...he just seems generally uncoordinated at the moment. All he wants to do is play with toys and look at books. Sometimes it seems like he's the only non-physical kid on Earth. Would love to hear any similar stories you might have...

thanks, mamas!

[saritasmile]

Hey Fern, it's snowing here too!!

xmas~ I'm not flaming you at all about loosing dd....but...there is a great book you should read and I think Rynna would second me on this. It's called "Protecting the Gift" I have it and would be willing to let you borrow it (as long as I got it back ). It's a reallly empowering book and I think it would help w/ what your dealing w/. shoot, gtg, crying baby...

[MamaFern]

yahhoo group?

for some reason im no longer a member of the yahoo group.. im not sure whats going on.. . i tried to post a messgae and it said i couldn't..

is anyone else having trouble?

sarita, i mailed your package last week.. it should be there soon.

[DecemberSun]

Congrats on the snow to all your Northwesterners. It was about 70 degrees here on Thanksgiving and we ate our meal outside.

[XmasEve]

Originally Posted by calynde

My son is in a very "heady" phase right now. Anyone else dealing with this? He refuses to make any physical efforts...like learning to ride a bike (or even a trike for that matter), no climbing anything...he just seems generally uncoordinated at the moment. All he wants to do is play with toys and look at books. Sometimes it seems like he's the only non-physical kid on Earth. Would love to hear any similar stories you might have...

Dc1 is much more into using her mind than her body. When we play outside she usually just plays imagination games with the tiny toy dinosaurs in the sandbox. This is her first year of preschool, and at the first parent/ teacher conferences, they asked if she had ever been exposed to playgrounds, because when they took the kids out to the playground, she usually just wander the periphery. YES : I take my kid to playgrounds. How would you feel to be in a strange new place, surrounded by strange new people, and all the other kids are running and jumping like wild animals set loose? She's warmed up some, but like me she finds her real fun in her own mind.

Mamafern, thanks for the email since you couldn't get on the group. I'm not having trouble getting on the site. Maybe you should email jaz?

Sarita, I flipped through "Protecting the Gift" at the library when Mari was a baby. I know everyone raves about it. I'll try to check it out again, thanks.

[MamaFern]

its my baby's birthday today!