The thing is I would love to have the extra help from him taking care of the kids, so I usually wouldn't mind him only working part time. But he doesn't even do *anything* that needs to be done, not even the normal every day resposibilities required by an adult who owns a home. So it gets frustrating. Yeah, he needs a wake up call. I am so tired of the whole thing, YK?
Seriously, there are things I love about him, and we have 8 1/2 years together, and a child (w/ one on the way), and we're raising foster kids together. We have fun together. But when it gets right down to the day-to-day stuff I am tired of being the only one working so he can still be a kid and live his own life. All my time and money goes to the kids, which I love, but I did not sign on for this on my own. He did help, once upon a time, he's gotten much lazier over the years. And he doesn't seem to care how stressed out I am, or how tired I am, or how unhappy I am. So I try to grin and bear it and realize that I can't change him, I can just change the way I react to everything, blah blah blah. But I just wonder how much of this do I have to take? I imagined my husband as a security guard, caretaker, handyman, romantic, beautiful creature, and he ended up being a very selfish, immature, lazy boy. I love him, but I don't love being used up by him.
So, can we change the subject? How's it goin' in old Canada, eh?