Lets see....my mom worked off and on and....
My mother had my brother flat on her back in the hospital and he nearly died.. they kept turing her pitocin off and on for over 30 hrs so the nurses could have breaks and not deal with a laboring mother when it was not convienent.. he was a forceps delivery and it ripped her up inside....he was breastfed and then given supplementation with formula because she was told he was not getting enough milk.. since he still seemed hungry they started all kinds of baby food on him too.. (he wore a size 4T clothing at one year of age!! They made him obese from bad advice) He was cloth diapered (sposies were not avaliable) Left in a playpen alot...not carried much... CIO, crib, Vaccinated fully as the all knowing doctors told her to do so.....he stopped breathing at 2 months old after recieving his shots...he got vaccinated even though he was recovering from the chicken pox ...stupid docs nearly killed my brother! He was spanked and fed whatever crap they could afford.
My turn~ I was born after they gave my mother a pill of some sort to induce labor.. it nearly ruptured her uterus and I was almost born into the toilet as the nurses did not believe my mother when she told them she needed to push and insisted she needed to go potty instead and on the toilet my head came out of her... the managed to force my mother to walk back to the bed and proceeded to wheel her 2 doors down to the delivery room where I was then allowed to be born fully...
My mother changed a bit with me and nursed me fully until I was about a year old she says.... cloth diapered but tried to use the new disposies, but they gave me a horrid rash....CIO, Crib, not carried much, Fully Vaccinated even given the MMR shot after I had already had rubella and measels naturally (why?)
I ate store bought food and grew up eating hamburger helpers and mac n cheese... I was harshly spanked with a leather belt and my mother loved to pull my hair and slap me with her hand.. she also seemed fond of strangling me until I could not breathe...kicked me in the stomach a couple of times.. told me how she wished I had been aborted or would die.. accused me at age 10 of having an affair with my daddy since I liked him more than her ...(never understood that???) I begged child welfare to take me away when they came to our house once cause my teacher saw the welts on my legs and called them...but my parents managed to talk their way out of trouble with the agents and I was made out to be a liar...they convinced the agent that I had somehow inflicted my own wounds to trap them???? What???
I grew up hating my mother... never felt like she was my mother.. never had a bond with her... my daddy and I were closer, but only because I got some love from him...and less abuse. We were in public schools and hopped schools on a regular basis since my parents moved us around so much...I did get ot homeschool for the last years of my highschooling.. but only because my parents kicked me out of the house at 16, mind you I was considered to be a good kid by everyone who knew me..I never did anything bad...no drinking etc...(my brother was 17 and kicked out too) they decided they were "done" raising children as they put it and felt like we were old enough to fend for ourselves..(yeah ok?) I did survive though with the help of family as did my brother.. so where are we now...welll........
My brother is a nut... he has lots of anger issues and is a control freak... he has a bad temper and I really am scared if he ever has kids... :-(
Me~ well God came into my life when I was 16 and I have lived for him fully since...He saved me and my sanity from my bad childhood and blessed me with ahuge love and devotion to children and animals etc... I have no anger problems and tons of paitence....(don't know how with the way I was raised) God blessed me with a wonderful husband who was also the survivor of abuse and neglect... we make a great team with raising children...God sure can turn bad into good.. we are proof!
We now have 4 children and pray for more...we would love to be able to provide a happy home for foster children and possibly adopt someday as well.. we are currently a foster home for the Human Society of North Texas and get to do lots of work with neglected and abused animals.. It is so rewarding!!
Our methods of parenting .. we do attatchment parenting... cloth dipe...no longer vaccinate after tons of research and 2 vaccine damaged children..(our baby is un vacc, 3rd child is only partially, 2nd is mostly..first is full vacc...) gentle discipline now, but have spanked in the past....do not approve of spanking, homeschool, very interactive with our kids...lots of hugs and lovin and reading of books...organic and whole foods eating...home cooked meals and plan to someday have a house on land with lots of animals and children...our own fresh milk and eggs and garden...etc..
I know have a better relationship with my parents as does my husband.. and we have both forgiven them for what they did...but they will never be allowed to be alone with our children...and none of them think we are raising our children correct...(yeah ok~ like they know how????
Children are such blessings....I wish more people would see that
Kellina SAHMama to 4 heavenly blessings!