Yes, I do believe he is trying to help ds in his own way. I think he truly believes he's saving ds from me. I think he is convinced that I have medicated ds to simply control him. The problem is ds has had many many many tests. None of which x wanted to be involved in, none of which he wanted toknow anything about. I handled it from the get go. To give ds medication was not an easy decision, and if he had been involved in any part of the medical aspect from the beginning he would no that. He has come in on the tail end and made a suggestion. He wanted ds tested at Boston Children's Hospital last year. I had sole custody. Ds had already had every test under the sun, except cat scan. I chose to wait, and see how medication worked before we made any appointment and put ds through three days of medical testing. This angered x tremendously. He tried to take me to court, he contacted the law gaurdian, but I had excellent reasons, and ds began to flourish. There was no reason to do the testing. X is making me pay for "ignoring" his request to have ds tested at Boston. He feels, (I know because he's made it clear), that I have taken the easy way out and just medicated ds. No matter how you try to talk to him and tell him to read the file. Look at what has already been done, he can't hear you. I have given x the benefit of the doubt. I know he loves his children. I know he wants what is best for them. I know he wants to be a part of thier lives. I also know that he would take me back in a second and have his family together.
But the problem is, just because his intentions are good doesn't mean he behaves well. Just because he harms his child in the guise of discipline doesn't mean he doesn't love the child. It's just discipline right? Just because he can call me a lazy bag of s**t in a fit of temper doesn't mean he doesn't love me. The problem with men of this nature is their motives are good, but the way the parent and partner is not.