I'm not talking about what's supposed to be provided. I'm talking about you saying that your husband's xw should be compensating you for the time you take the child.
|What about when she comes to our house and we have to provide her with food and such (when she is legally supposed to), shouldnt she be paying us something for that. Does anyone understand what I am saying? It just really bothers me!
The answer is, no. She shouldn't be paying you for that. It's not standard in Texas, and no judge in his right mind would approve a visitation order that stated that the parent in possession of the child is not responsible for *FEEDING* said child. If you say that your husband's divorce decree states that your husband is not responsible to provide his child with food while she's in his care, then I'm calling you a liar.
Look, I'm a stepmom, too. I *know* how hard it can be. I know what it's like to not enjoy your stepchild's mother. My stepdaughter lives with us, and she lived with us when my husband was still paying her mother child support. I would *never* complain about feeding her or providing her with daily living necessities. She is my husband's daughter, she's my unborn son's sister, she's part of our family, and I love her.
I can't fathom a single reasonable circumstance that would make your nasty attitude about FEEDING your HUSBAND's CHILD an ok thing.
You are being unreasonable. Your unreasonable attitude will certainly affect your relationship with your stepchild. It will likely affect your marriage. It will affect your child's sibling relationship with your stepchild.
Get over yourself. You're an adult. This isn't about you. It's about your husband and his CHILD. Your child's sibling. Put your anger and resentment aside and focus on creating a healthy environment in your home so that this kid can begin to feel like part of your family.