Originally Posted by hairstylist
You know, my dh and I were talking last night. He is trying to get another job just so he can support us a little better (because of course, op gets 20% of his income now) And he said that it would be pointless to get another job, because she could just take 20% of that too. Pretty shitty huh? He gets a 2nd job because he cant support us with the one he has now and she still gets more money.... It is definetly a crying shame that just because SHE IS A WOMAN, she automatically gets child support. DH has to pay not only 20%, but insurance(when dsd is on Medicaid), half of daycare(if she goes), half of ALL the medical bills...ETC. So what is she responsible for? Taking care of dsd when she has all kinds of men in and out of her apt. And yes I know that she does because I have been there when it has happened. It doesnt look too good on you when you have to get paternity tests done on not one child, but BOTH of them... She is a money hungry bitch and thats all there is to it.
OK, I swore I would stay out of this one but...
I am a both a step mom and a bio mom...
No, it isn't sh***y that DSC gets 20% of the total income, no matter how much the DF makes or how many jobs he works to get it. that's what the law requires and what DSC is entitled to. Period. Ditto with the health insurance. It's the law.
No, she doesn't get CS JUST BECAUSE SHE IS A WOMAN. THE CS ISN'T FOR THE MOM. IT'S NOT ALIMONY. THE CS IS FOR THE SUPPORT OF THE CHILD. She is getting CS b/c she is the primary care taker of the child. 20% of the other parent's income doesn't even come close to what it takes, in both time and money, to raise a child. Let me tell you, the non custodial parent who pays CS is getting off easy!
BIO mom is responsible for caring for the child when ever the child isn't with the other parent (most of the time), keeping a roof over the child's head and food in his/her mouth. the 20% of his income that DF is required to provide sure doesn't do that. Rest assured that BIO Mom isn't sitting back and eating bon bons in a satin Robe, getting rich off the CS.
Her personal life style is none of the Step mom's business! Just like my DSS's mom's life style is none of my business!
Calling her a B**ch... well...
You are just going to have to accept the fact that DSC is entitled to the CS and it's going to be paid to the bio mom for his/her benefit. Fuming, stewing, and calling bio mom nasty names is just going to make you angrier and lead to resentment of DSC.
Finally, I love my DSS unconditionally. I am fortuante to have him in my life, and my love for him is why he is included in my siggy.