Nursing pregnant mamas support thread - Page 2

[Lohagrace]

Originally Posted by paxye

I am 38 weeks pregnant and also Tandem nursing my nearly 4 1/2 and my 2 yo ds....

I have no idea when this babe will be come but I am 100% sure that I will be Triandem nursing within the month

[kehliouise]

for those of you have who tandem nursed before. i am worried about what will happen after the baby gets here and i have to put both children to sleep. my 19 months old will not go to sleep unless he is nursed to sleep. Also some nights he wont sleep at all unless the breat is in his mouth...the second you remove it he is wide awake screaming. i am wondering if this will mean lots of sleepless nights for everyone once we have the new baby. i am only 7 weeks pregnant now, so im hoping that we have plenty of time to talk to our son about sharing with the new sibling...but as of right now he is not exactly conversational and doesn't have any clue about what we really mean when we say he is going to have a new sibling. Im also not sure how to cosleep with two chidren? we already take up a lot of space in a king size bed.

[Eaglevoice]

It sort of seems like when dd is nursing, a lot of the time she is sucking lightly, but not swallowing, so I think that means that I don't have much left in there. I totally know what you mama's mean when you say that there are times when you feel totally touched out. There are moments when I'm like, why can't you just sit here with me with out wanting to nurse??? Arg. Well, I know I'm doing the best thing possible for my baby girl right now, so I'll just keep on keepin on .

[bigislandmama]

I am 33 weeks pregnant and still nursing my 19 month old ds. My milk dried up at 16 weeks, but that did not stop ds. He doesn't nurse as much maybe 3-4 times a day. At first it was very painful - my first clue that I was pregnant, but now it is just fine. My colostrum came in at 27 weeks which made ds very happy. I am really excited about tandem nursing and think that it will be a good bonding experience for ds with the new baby.

[PajamaMama]

I'm still nursing my 3-1/2 year old daughter...I am pretty sure that I haven't had any milk since about 14 weeks but she doesn't care

She only nurses when she wakes up, sometimes at bedtime, and if she's really distressed. It bugs me but it's not unbearable. It would bug me more to deny her something that she obviously still feels a need to have.

[umsami]

I just found out I was preggers. I tandem nursed DS1 while I was pregnant with DS2 up until about the third trimester, when he self-weaned. I was open to allowing him to begin nursing again after his brother was born, but he wasn't interested anymore. I'm hoping to do the same thing with this pregnancy... nurse as long as DS2 is interested.

Can't recommend Hillary Flowers book enough. Gave it to my OB when she started giving me flack.

[Lohagrace]

Originally Posted by kehliouise

for those of you have who tandem nursed before. i am worried about what will happen after the baby gets here and i have to put both children to sleep. my 19 months old will not go to sleep unless he is nursed to sleep. Also some nights he wont sleep at all unless the breat is in his mouth...the second you remove it he is wide awake screaming. i am wondering if this will mean lots of sleepless nights for everyone once we have the new baby. i am only 7 weeks pregnant now, so im hoping that we have plenty of time to talk to our son about sharing with the new sibling...but as of right now he is not exactly conversational and doesn't have any clue about what we really mean when we say he is going to have a new sibling. Im also not sure how to cosleep with two chidren? we already take up a lot of space in a king size bed.

i night-weaned dd when she was about your son's age. i started nursing her about an hour before bed and naps so that we broke the association with sleep = nursing. then we just kind of battled it out. it wasn't that hard, and didn't take as long as i thought it would. i was just dying from lack of sleep and it wasn't working for me to nurse her at night any more. we talked about how she could nurse when the sun comes up (or you could put a light on a timer--"is the nursing light on?") and i just used simple phrases like "the nu-nus (what we call them) are sleeping." it took a few nights of wearing a tight shirt, cuddling her, dh cuddling her, and reminding her that nu-nus were asleep and she could have them in the morning.
i know i'm worried about the 1 hour bedtime routene with dd when the baby comes...but at least not HAVING to nurse her to sleep, she can accept substitutes like dh sometimes, or rubbing her back, singing, etc. all of which i can do while holding a baby.

[Eaglevoice]

Okay, here's a sort of stupid question...

Since your colostrum only lasts a few days after babe is born... does new babe get enough colostrum if the other one is nursing, too? I know how important that colostrum is to those tiny immune systems, so is it okay if they don't get every last drop of it since a lot will be taken by dd1?

[paxye]

Originally Posted by Eaglevoice

Okay, here's a sort of stupid question...

Since your colostrum only lasts a few days after babe is born... does new babe get enough colostrum if the other one is nursing, too? I know how important that colostrum is to those tiny immune systems, so is it okay if they don't get every last drop of it since a lot will be taken by dd1?

Colustrum is not in a limited supply.... it is what your body produces for the first few days... so the baby gets what it needs... like if you have twins etc...
ETA... I do like letting the baby have first dibs though... then nurse the older sibling after...

[paxye]

Originally Posted by kehliouise

for those of you have who tandem nursed before. i am worried about what will happen after the baby gets here and i have to put both children to sleep. my 19 months old will not go to sleep unless he is nursed to sleep. Also some nights he wont sleep at all unless the breat is in his mouth...the second you remove it he is wide awake screaming. i am wondering if this will mean lots of sleepless nights for everyone once we have the new baby. i am only 7 weeks pregnant now, so im hoping that we have plenty of time to talk to our son about sharing with the new sibling...but as of right now he is not exactly conversational and doesn't have any clue about what we really mean when we say he is going to have a new sibling. Im also not sure how to cosleep with two chidren? we already take up a lot of space in a king size bed.

First... you have a while still to go... there is a lot of growing up that happens in the 7-8 months that you have left...

I nursed both of my boys to sleep until about 2 months ago when ds#1 decided that he didn't need to nurse to sleep anymore...
I nurse to sleep in the living room and then put them down... while I was nursing one, DH was with the other...
I didn't really talk much about sharing with the new baby.... I just had the baby at the breast and if ds#1 wanted some I would Tandem... neither liked it though so he would often just wait next to me until his little brother was finished...
As for co-sleeping... I slept in between the boys and then ds#1 started to cuddle DH more... now DS#1 cuddles DH and ds#2 stays on my side... the new babe will be going between DH and I...

[Eaglevoice]

Originally Posted by paxye

As for co-sleeping... I slept in between the boys and then ds#1 started to cuddle DH more... now DS#1 cuddles DH and ds#2 stays on my side... the new babe will be going between DH and I...

Wow, that sounds like a tight squeeze! Are you all going to be in one bed, or do you have a second one set up?

[paxye]

Originally Posted by Eaglevoice

Wow, that sounds like a tight squeeze! Are you all going to be in one bed, or do you have a second one set up?

We have a King size... I find it really spacious especially since we used to all four of us in a double... now THAT was a tight squeeze!

[mitintraining]

Hi all,
I am nursing my 14 month old and until three months ago was nursing my 3 year old, oh yeah I am 32 weeks yesterday. I haven't noticed a decrease in supply at all, but I have always had an overabundance of milk, so much that I donate to milk banks while tandem nursing. My whole family has this issue, except for one sister who has thyroid issues. I loved tandem nursing my last two because I would get so overfull and it was great to have a toddler who could drink extra, although he actually reverted to nursing baby poopies as well, all the better to wash out of our cloth diapers. I considered triandem nursing, although there isn't alot of info out there on it, but my big boy decided not to nurse for a few days, then he forgot how to do it. Now he still asks then lays in my lap(what is left of it) and giggles. He has been telling his little sister about how fun it is to share mommy's nursies and I am wondering how often he will ask after the new baby comes in Dec? Guess time will tell. hang in there all you preggo nursers, because I have wonderful memories of two little (well one little one not-so-little) heads nursing. And Big boy has vivid memories of nursing with his sister that he shares with everyone, much to my pink-faced smiles!!

[Lilcrunchie]

I'm 35.5 weeks pregnant and still nursing my little guy who is 2.75 years old.

I had some nipple tenderness early on and into the 2nd trimester, but it wasn't *that* bad. In the 2nd tri my supply definitely decreased, although DS insisted he was still getting milk out. I couldn't hand express any though, but who knows?

It has been more comfortable now for quite some time...probably from 25ish weeks on. I am not leaking or anything but I do have colostrum. DS seems pretty excited that baby sister is going to bring the milkies along with her LOL. He talks about sharing w/ her all of the time, but i'm not sure how he'll feel once she's here.

He also nurses for a loooong time in the morning (he loves to cuddle in bed for a long while when he wakes up), nurses to sleep for nap and during nap, and before bed, plus a few other times in between...so still quite a bit! I have NO idea how i'm going to juggle it w/ 2 of them...I'm kinda scared I don't think i could nightwean DS...I don't think he's ready.

Oh, and another thumbs up for Adventures in Tandem Nursing. It is a good reference to have on hand and I like to show DS the pics of other toddlers/babies tandeming!

[Eaglevoice]

Do you think there is a reason why dd is insisting on nursing all day long lately? She's 17 months and it seems like everyday she nurses more and more and more. Before I got pg, she was nursing like 4-5 times a day. Now its like 30! And a lot of the time she's just sitting there with my nipple in her mouth not sucking or anything. I wonder if she is sensing something, or perhaps going through a growth spurt...

[jessitron]

Jenn, will she be just as happy to lay in your lap and play with you? The other morning DD asked for more munching, but once she was up there she just wanted to talk and play. maybe she senses the changes and wants more attention.

[Shahbazin]

Hi! Interesting thread : I've just found out I'm pregnant (7/07), & am nursing a 6 month old. Have read the Adventures book, but am going to go back & re-read!

[sebarnes]

So, I have a question. Do you find that you are hungrier than previous pregnancies when you weren't nursing? I was hungry with dd, but nothing like this! I feel like if I am not eating almost constantly, I will pass out. Seriously! I get light headed and fuzzy feeling. I haven't been able to totally get the food thing right, yet, so for the past few days I have felt like crap. I'm just wondering if this is because I am nursing and pregnant.

[gr8tfulmom]

Yes, yes, yes, I am eating almost non-stop this pregnancy.

Jenn, my little guy has upped the nursing too - he keeps running me dry but still nursing. He definitely isn't content just hanging out on my lap - I wish, my boobs are so tired.

[tiffany21074]

hello, just found out today that i am preggers! i am also nursing my 20 month old dd. i look forward to getting to know everyone!