Weekly Thread: Nov 4 - 11

[todavia]

Thought I'd get us started on the new week...
The weeks seem to be going so fast even thought the days seem endless. I'm counting down to my ultrascreen on the 15th and then meeting with the midwife after that - I can't believe it's almost 11 wks already. Then again it seems like a million years ago that I was temping every morning and waiting for that magic O. I know I'm totally rambling...sorry.

I got to sleep in a little today while DP took DS out and I was having some crazy dreams - about food, houses with glass roofs, old family friends I haven't seen in years - i guess the hormones are all over the place. :

DP and I are going to a play tonight and then tomorrow I'm helping a friend host a marathon party - it runs right by her house which is kinda cool. someone once told me that being pregnant is like your body running a marathon everyday - at least we don't actually have to run, right?

I hope everyone is doing well - eating and sleeping enough, taking good care, spending some time with the family, not stressing too much... keep up the good work mamis

[sally Z]

had to laugh at the marathon comparison, I trained this year for an ultra marathon in June 87km ( about 55miles i think) mad yes i know. But i felt way better then than i did now I even felt less tired after the marathon, well the leg were way more sore but no nausea which seem like a trade i would do any day.

Talking of exercise, anyone doing any? i have tried to keep up with walking at least but most days i am just too tired. i did a 5km fun run with dd in the stroller at 5weeks and was fine but i am too tired now to even get round the block. Hoping to get energy back next trimester.

Dh is coming home this week : i have seen him since being pregnant. I need him to have some dd time so i can sleep.

Feeling more m/s everyday and more tired that i thought possible. Otherwise fine

[Jilian]

I'm really not getting much exercise at all. I just can't. Yesterday I went on two small walks with DS at the park and I was exhausted for the rest of the day. I'm hoping the energy comes back soon so I can start going for walks again.

Yesterday I found out my nana died. She lives up in MA and we're in FL. We saw her a month ago and she looked better than ever. I don't know how she died. I guess she didn't show up for work for a couple of days so the police went to her house and found her dead in her bed. They assume she died in her sleep. No one even knew she was dead. I feel so awful about that. I'm not going to be able to make it up there for her funeral either I hope all this sadness doesn't harm my baby.

[todavia]

so sorry to hear about your nana jilian you could do your own kind of cermeony to honor her since you can't get to the funeral. maybe make a book with pictures and write down some of your favorite things about her to share with your baby when it's older...just an idea. hang in there.

[PatchChild]

It's been a crazy couple of days for me. This was the weekend of announcements for dh and I. Friday, I let the women I work with know. That was so much fun. They were all excited and it was great for me to know that I can finally have people to to talk to. Saturday was announcing to dh's family. We met his mom for breakfast and after she stopped looking so shocked she told us that she was expecting us to tell her. (hmmm, somehow, that's what they all seem to say after looking completely shocked) The afternoon brounght the really fun ones. Dh is the oldest of 6 and the other 5 are sisters so it was time to tell all of them that they are going to be aunts. We left two messages for the sisters out of the area to call us back. The first sister we got to talk to in person wasn't going to be able to stay for dinner so we dragged her away to the basement and told her there. She shrieked SOOO loud and bounced out of the house to work. We told the other two sisters and dad at dinner and no one really ate much after that. Everyone was so excited for us, it was great.

One more week and my family will be visiting so I can start telling them. Eek. It's great to have people know but this is the first grand child for both sides of the family so hold on tight.

[mommamin]

Sorry to hear about your nana Jilian

[jstar]

sorry about your nana jillian my husband's nana just went into the intensive care today and i'm not sure she will live much longer. she went into the hospital 2 days ago. i am worried about that. and we have had plans to go down at thanksgiving and see her. i hope she can hold on

i am feeling better and really stoked about it. last week i pretty much only had the bad nausea in the evenings. this weekend i have been feeling pretty good except i tweaked my neck yesterday morning and it made this popping noise. and now i can't turn my head to the left very easily oooooooowwwwwwwwww

i haven't been exercising and i went on a walk to day and i could TELL how out of shape i am. so i'm really thinking it is time to get back on some kind of exercise plan. it is so hard to motivate when i am so tired (and i have so little time)

my belly is really pooching out but it is mostly just my guts. i think they've been pushed up so they're pooching out :

[wombatclay]

Jilian- I'm so sorry about your nana. The memory books sounds like a nice memorial.

PatchChild- what fun! We're hoping to tell at Turkey Day, but DH and I both agreed to tell one person earlier. I told my closest friend (who now lives with her 9mo in Boston while I am far far away in upstate NY) and he told his cousin (they were raised as brothers though). We actually told one other local friend just because she guessed and we didn't want to lie to her face! She knew we were sort of trying and I guess when I stopped moaning about "another month gone by" she sort of put it together. lol

Sally Z- wow! I say again...wow! I did cross country track in high school but lost the "running bug" in college and just never got back into it. I do hike with dd...she can manage about 2-3 miles on her own already, which is great!

I ordered a book called "Maternal Fitness" (by the woman who developed the Tupler technique for diastasis repair) and it just arrived. I admit I haven't tried it yet though! It starts with the "basics" (online at http://www.maternalfitness.com/baks_basics.pdf) and then includes a half hour exercise program using rubber exercise bands. I did her post-partum program for a while and it was really good...so I have hope!

I've also pulled out my prenatal yoga dvds and am putting them in each night. DD likes yoga as well so she copies the positions and DH has been keeping her out from under foot as much as possible.

Last time round I gained a lot of weight (ate right, exercised, still gained 60+ pounds) and I'd really really really like to avoid that this time round. I'm planning a VBAC and I don't want ANY more additional potential red flags on my case!

My dd is 19mo and today when I picked up a friend's baby she (dd) threw a fit! I'm hoping she outgrows the "my mama" phase as quickly as possible. These days I can't leave the room without her crying (though she is fine when I leave for work!) and DH can't sooth her now either. If she is still this possessive when the new one arrives I don't know what we'll do!

[Jilian]

Thanks everyone. I like the memory book idea. My parents are at her house now and they are going to bring me something back of hers for me to remember her by.

Wombat: My DS is also very possesive of me, I'm not sure how he'll handle the competition. I'm sure it's gonna be a big adjustment.

Patch: I'm glad the announcements went well. How exciting!

Jstar: I know what you mean about being out of shape, I gotta start exercising again too. I'm worried that the longer I wait the harder it will be to start again.

[MammaV]

Today I had a great day. Only one huge episode of gagging and wretching, but I kept the puke away! I ate well, drank well, played with the kids and even felt so good I decided to get started on a diaper order I owe my professional organizer friend. We did a trade a while back and she just had a baby. My sewing machine broke. It was on its last legs and I probably shouldn't have been using it, but now it's completely toast. I know what I'm getting for Christmas. DH took the kids outside for a long time today and even to the park. My mom stopped by tonight and took the kids back to her house for a slumber party. We'll see if DS makes it. He's gotten pretty clingy lately.
Wombat: Wow! Your DD is a super trooper going 2-3 miles on foot hiking! I haven't taken my kids for a hike since I was about 4 weeks preggo. Poor kids. They've hardly gotten to crunch leaves.
Jillian: sorry about your nana. It's so hard to loose someone you love, especially if they're far away.
Patch: Have fun with those announcements and get ready for the soon to be grandma's to go wild! In our case, we had to be very firm about how much stuff we allow in the house. Those crazy grandma's just love to shop for little things.
Jstar: I'm feeling the out of shape thing. I must make it back to my exericise regime. I haven't biked in ages, nor been to the Y. I love to swim and do the sauna.
Wombat: thanks for the info on the maternal fitness. I so need it.
Have a great week everyone!

[rock_dr]

Wombat: (and other yoga mamas here) what are your favorite prenatal yoga dvds and what do you like about them?

[sally Z]

jstar- hope your neck get better soon.

Jillian- i hope you find a way to have your own memorial. I am sure that your normal emotions to a very sad event will not harm the baby. I don't think it would be realistic to expect anyone to feel happy all 40 weeks. I think when one is really in exceptional circumstances of abnormal stress that it might affect the baby, but not normal grief. After all children are going to have to deal with and feel all these normal emotions in their lifetime. Will be thinking of you.

PatchChild- how cool and exciting it must be to share your news.

MamaV: do you make diapers too?

Wombatclay- i can't even imagine how i ran that far now, even though it was only June it feels like a lifetime ago. I feel so unfit now by comparison. But i am really hoping to stay in shape this time round

Anyone else being attacked by the evil fridge smells?

[mommy77]

Hello everyone I am new and really like the atmosphere here!

I have been feeling more and more nausea easpecially in the evening and sooo tired! Dh has been so supportive and loving I love him so very much!!

Violetisadora~ Happy to hear you got to sleep in! I know what you mean about the crazy dreams ...I've been getting them as well and don't they seem so real?

SallyZ~ So happy to hear your dh is coming home!! I haven't been doing any exercise too tired to get motivated.

Jilian~ *big hugs* I am so sorry for your loss ...you will be in my thoughts!

Patchchild~ Happy things went well with your announcements you must be so excited to tell your family! That's awesome that it's the first grandchild on both sides of the family everyone must be sooo excited!

jstar~ I will be thinking about your husband's nana I am sorry *hugs* and also sending positive thoughts your way that your neck heals quickly!!

Wombatclay~ thanks for the maternal fitness info! I have been looking into the prenatal yoga but haven't started ...any good videos or books you would recommend?

MammaV~ Hope you had a nice relaxing evening while the kids where at your mom's!

I hope everyone has a beautiful week!

[willoLevin]

Physically, I'm just enjoying the normal mild nausea coming and going, plus knowing I need to eat but hating the thought of most foods. I'm also waking up at 4:30 am every day because I need to pee. Phooey.

Life itself is trying to give me headaches this week, I think, because my electricity keeps flickering (we just had our service upgraded a couple of weeks ago and now I'm worried they did something wrong!) and DH had to spend a couple of hours repairing the dishwasher yesterday. (DH is a biologist. He does not enjoy handy-man jobs. But washing dishes is my WORST CHORE.)

So now I think I need to be calling the electrician--and I haven't even paid the $3000 bill yet for the last project. <sigh>

--willo

[Shell_Ell]

Jilian

Man I feel so lazy when anyone brings up exercise. I'm lucky if I make it out of my house the days I don't have clients, let alone moving around.

M/S is better but my appetite is SO low, and nothing sounds good. I'm worried I'm wearing myself down between the pregnancy and nursing, and I'm just not eating enough to sustain it all. I've actually lost about 5 lbs since I found out I was pregnant, and I've only had one instance of vomiting with the M/S. It's just not getting enough calories.

We got a new laptop yesterday... my old computer was just about dead so we did a MAJOR upgrade. It's pretty cool being online wherever and whenever.

Anyone have their first appt soon? I still haven't scheduled mine, but my midwife said I could come any Tuesday or Thursday and since I have a client on Thursdays I guess we'll do a Tuesday... maybe the first week of December? I don't know why I'm sort of putting it off... I just don't want to burst the bubble I guess. I really like my midwife and I'm afraid I won't after an appt.

[Jilian]

Welcome mommy77!

[54mama]

We are dong well overall. My m/s is less intense than last time, but more constant (sun-up to sun-down). I'm tired too and hitting the sack by 9 every night at least which has been important and trying to rest while my daughter naps. Still struggling with feeding her and myself in a way I feel good about (combo of m/s, no food sounding good, etc.) I'm still really trying to figure out my feelings about nursing and tandem nursing... I feel like everyday it is different. I saw my family last night and lined both of my sister's up for a visit this week so I can nap, get help around the house, etc. Feeling lucky to have family (that I like) nearby.

I've been thinking about how I feel connected to this baby this time around, because it feels very different to me. I realized that last time I felt so intensly connected to the baby inside me and then when she was born I realized that the connection I'd felt in utero didn't even come close to the real connection I felt with her. So this time I've sort of felt like while I feel excited and connected to this baby, the intensity is not the same and I feel like I'm almost thinking "I'm excited for you little one, but I'll be wating for June for the real thing...". At first I was worried about this, but now I feel okay about it. I think it is just different this time around. Not to mention that now I have a toddler making demands on my attention all day and so I have so much less time to sit and "be" with this new babe. Any other second (3rd/4th/5th etc.) moms feeling this way too?

okay have to go make us breakfast.
Liv

[Robbins0614]

We're doing pretty well this week. I'm still tired a lot, so I've been dubbed the Queen of Naptime in our house. Unfortunately, everyone seems to want to call while I'm asleep. And exercise is not happening right now-I'm feeling rather guilty, but I just don't have the energy.

I finally got over my irrational fear of telling a few people that we're expecting. I was terrified that if we told people then something would happen, so we kept it to ourselves. But, we finally told a few people this weekend. Most everyone is really happy. My mom isn't sure what to think yet-I think she still thinks we are too young and that she's not old enough to be a grandmother. I know she'll be really excited soon since my dad's excitement will likely be contagious! One of our good friends from church cried when we told her-she was so excited and is very supportive. I'm glad we finally shared though!

Our first appointment is in 2 weeks. I'm starting to wonder if we're crazy though. The only option in Nebraska for us is a hospital birth and we're not too crazy about that plus I don't have maternity insurance, so we would be paying out of pocket. The closest birth center is about 3 hours away, and that's where we hope to go. Is that too far? Could we make it work? We have lots of friends and family near the birth center that we could stay with before or after, but I'm just not sure of the practicality of a birth center that far away.

I hope everyone is having a wonderful day!!!

[mommy77]

Thanks Jilian

Willo~ I hope the electrician can fix your problem *hugs*

Shell_El~ Happy to hear you're enjoying your new laptop & hope you get your appetite back soon *hugs*

54mama~ It's nice you have family you like nearby who can help! I also have a toddler ...his name is Jesse he was born 04/04/04

Robins0614~ I'm happy to hear you're happy you shared the news with your family and friends

[saratchka]

Ugh! Just got news that I have another subchorionic bleed. I'm not overly concerned about it. It sounds like this one is much smaller than the one I had when pregnant with DD, so I have experienced this before and all was fine that time. My midwife didn't sound worried either, and said that if the radiologist had thought it was a problem he'd have called her immediately rather than just listing it in the report and mailing that to her. But I think I'm going to end up getting another u/s in 4-6 weeks just for the peace of mind. I hadn't planned on doing that, but my doubts will niggle at me if I don't.

Sorry, I don't mean to whine - I know this probably isn't a big deal at all. I just didn't expect this and needed to share. Thanks for listening!