SIL having a boy - how do I approach her about circ?

[tsfairy]

SIL is due around Christmas with her 5th baby boy. All of her three surviving boys are circed, and I'm pretty sure she's planning on circing this one as well. I have been working up the nerve to talk to her (she and I are not very close and don't get much chance to talk) but thought I had plenty of time. But she has been having ctx all weekend and spent yesterday in L&D - her doc thinks the babe will be here in the next 2 weeks at the most, so now I have no time and I really feel like I want to try to change her mind about circing him!

Can anyone help me with how to approach her? My sister suggested just sending an email so I think I'll start with that approach. I love the Mothering article on circ, but it's really long and I think she really only has email access at work so I'm afraid she won't have time to read it. Is there a concise list of the pros and cons of circ, maybe with a brief history? What else should I include?

[trmpetplaya]

I really like the circumcision quiz (though in this case it might make her defensive since she has three circumcised boys - I'll let you be the judge of that) and it was written by a doctor:

http://www.doctorsopposingcircumcisi...ision_quiz.htm

I've had good success with "It's a Boy" which is also short and covers a lot of the most common reasons for wanting it done:

http://www.circumstitions.com/Itsaboy.html

One of her main reasons for wanting it done even after reading the two above would be that her other boys are and she wouldn't want them to look different. Here's a story about boys at school being different, but it applies just as easily to siblings:

http://www.circumstitions.com/Different.html

And this might be good also - the care of the intact penis (LEAVE IT ALONE!):

http://www.circumstitions.com/Care.html

I'm on a different computer than my links are on, so that's why most are from the same site But they're all pretty short and easy to read. Best wishes!

love and peace.

[Microsoap]

Favourite bookmarked link

12 great reasons to say no and some great links to learn even more!


http://www.naturalfamilyonline.com/5...rcumcision.htm

[tsfairy]

Update

Well sheesh... I sent SIL the "12 reasons" article and got a response back today. She said her DH is "very unhappy with his uncirced self and the rest of the boys did ok with it so... the penis skin is going I've read up on it myself but not since DS3 2 years ago so thanks for the info!"

UGH! I sent her a reply asking why her DH (my brother) is unhappy with his "intact self" but I'm not sure I want to know the answer. I really want to say something more to her but it sounds like her mind is made up and she won't be swayed.

[kldliam]

well as a last effort i would try sending the graphic video link and a must read article:

http://video.google.com/videoplay?do...umcision&hl=en

http://www.luckystiff.org/files/SeparatedAtBirth.pdf

All you can do is try and after that i flush my respect for that person down the can.

[tsfairy]

Well we've been having quite a dialog tonight and there may be hope. I'll pull out the circ video if I have to - it's already posted in my blog but I don't think she has gone to see it yet.

That article made me hyperventilate, just looking at the images and reading the first paragraph. I'll definitely send that one along too if just talking doesn't work.

[trmpetplaya]

OMG. It makes me so ANGRY when intact men circumcise their sons Circumcised men have some excuse (in a way - they do have to realise that something terrible was done to them and that they are less than they could have been), but intact men have NO EXCUSE whatsoever :

The least he could do is give his sons the same chance to have a choice as he was given... If he's so unhappy then he can go get circumcised with lots of fun pain meds to help him through! His sons should be able to make that decision when they're adults too.

love and peace.