I was just thinking about you today, too. Hope all is well....
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11/30/06 at 5:11pm
This girl reminds me of my sister. Sis had a no-good marriage to a loser and another relationship with an abusive jerk. She worked at Wendy's for crap wages for the longest time, etc. ad nauseum.
What finally gave her some improved self esteem was joining the military. In her case, it was Navy reserve. Yes, there were separations (she went on a deployment to Kuwait, her DD was 5), but my mom kept her DD and while on active duty she could actually afford to send money to help take care of her.
If she had someone willing to hold temporary custody while she was in training and on deployments, the military might be a good option for her. And since the baby would be on Tricare, and you live on a military base... and when she wasn't deployed, she would have money to pay for good child care and single parents get top priority at most base child care centers, etc. You know the benefits of military life. Yes, it would be tough, but in many ways a lot more stable for her and her son, and she could probably pick up some job skills that would serve her once she got out so she could find a better paying job (and/or she could go to school on the GI Bill).