Here is yet another up-date on my son's old Pedy who forcibly retracted his foreskin at 2 and 4 months. My son is now almost 9 months.
I had my final conversation with him yesterday regarding a problem with my son. My son seemed to have a white 'pimple' on the lip of his foreskin and I wanted to report it to his old Pedy and to decline his invitation to return to the old practice (long story). He mailed me a letter and I thought it best to respond and explain why I left.
I started out by saying that I appreciated all his help with my 2nd child who was born with a debilitating eye disease. I praised him for that and then went on to discuss my son. I told him that my son has a problem which I felt was related to the forced retraction and that I would not feel comfortable returning to his practice. I also told him that I have done a lot of research on the subject of circumcision and found it 'horrific and cruel'. We discussed this subject and the subject of non-retraction. Here are the highlights.
1. I found out his is jewish. His 4 sons were circ'ed by a Rabbi.
2. He actually told me he thought the practice of circumcision was "barbaric" I was stunned by this statement.
3. He said that he has lots of parents come in to discuss prenatal decisions and he told me he tells them.
A. It's not medically neccessary.
B. Most boys are circumcised
c. Ask if the father is circ'd or not.
: He reasons that most parents want the boy to "look like dad". ( I replied to this that it was an excuse)
(he left out one very important point.. The agonizing pain for the poor baby)
He then went on to tell me that if the parents decide to keep their baby boy intact he instructs them how to "care for it".
On two occations I told him. "You're not supposed to retract a babies foreskin ever!" and "It doesn't retract" He replied "oh, no.. I've had some newborns retract fine no problem."
I also told him that my son is going to have problems with adhesions because of what he did to him. He told me "You'r son's penis is fine". And here I was explaining to him the proper way to care for it. It requires no maintainance and I won't know if my son will have problems until he retracts it himself. That is when I will teach him to clean it himself.\
I ended the conversation saying that I was staying with Davey's new Pediatrician because of our fundamental differences on correct medical care. I also asked him why all the other authorities; i.e. AAP, Dr.'s, written articles teach "no retraction" and why did he think he was right and they were wrong. He just replies "This is the way I do things. I have been doing this for years.. I have seen many boy babies.
I guess if he has been doing it wrong for this many years he thinks he's right
My friend from D.O.C. is sending him another letter. If he still doesn't get it then I will have to report him to the medical board. I have terminated any relationshiop with this Pedy. I really hope someone can stop him before he does this to other poor unsuspecting babies/parents.
carolyn
I had my final conversation with him yesterday regarding a problem with my son. My son seemed to have a white 'pimple' on the lip of his foreskin and I wanted to report it to his old Pedy and to decline his invitation to return to the old practice (long story). He mailed me a letter and I thought it best to respond and explain why I left.
I started out by saying that I appreciated all his help with my 2nd child who was born with a debilitating eye disease. I praised him for that and then went on to discuss my son. I told him that my son has a problem which I felt was related to the forced retraction and that I would not feel comfortable returning to his practice. I also told him that I have done a lot of research on the subject of circumcision and found it 'horrific and cruel'. We discussed this subject and the subject of non-retraction. Here are the highlights.
1. I found out his is jewish. His 4 sons were circ'ed by a Rabbi.
2. He actually told me he thought the practice of circumcision was "barbaric" I was stunned by this statement.
3. He said that he has lots of parents come in to discuss prenatal decisions and he told me he tells them.
A. It's not medically neccessary.
B. Most boys are circumcised
c. Ask if the father is circ'd or not.
: He reasons that most parents want the boy to "look like dad". ( I replied to this that it was an excuse)(he left out one very important point.. The agonizing pain for the poor baby)
He then went on to tell me that if the parents decide to keep their baby boy intact he instructs them how to "care for it".
On two occations I told him. "You're not supposed to retract a babies foreskin ever!" and "It doesn't retract" He replied "oh, no.. I've had some newborns retract fine no problem."
I also told him that my son is going to have problems with adhesions because of what he did to him. He told me "You'r son's penis is fine". And here I was explaining to him the proper way to care for it. It requires no maintainance and I won't know if my son will have problems until he retracts it himself. That is when I will teach him to clean it himself.\
I ended the conversation saying that I was staying with Davey's new Pediatrician because of our fundamental differences on correct medical care. I also asked him why all the other authorities; i.e. AAP, Dr.'s, written articles teach "no retraction" and why did he think he was right and they were wrong. He just replies "This is the way I do things. I have been doing this for years.. I have seen many boy babies.
I guess if he has been doing it wrong for this many years he thinks he's right
My friend from D.O.C. is sending him another letter. If he still doesn't get it then I will have to report him to the medical board. I have terminated any relationshiop with this Pedy. I really hope someone can stop him before he does this to other poor unsuspecting babies/parents.
carolyn
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