We have three girls and are not finding out what this one is. Everyone is upset that they are going to have to wait and see, but dh is saying that this is it...so, we thought it would be nice to have a surprise. Dh is hoping this one is a boy...I really don't care either way. Just a happy, healthy baby is all I want. If it's another girl, at least we won't need to buy any new clothes! I do like what our dd2 says when asked if the baby is a boy or a girl. "It's not a boy, it's not a girl, it's a BABY."
As far as how I handle those comments...I just try not to take it seriously and usually just say yeah. Or dh says we'll keep trying till we have one...and then I'll add that I have to have at least 2 boys. Which then usually gets them, b/c they start with the
you could end up with 14 girls or something.
When it boils down to it, it's really none of their business, so I just feel it really doesn't matter how I reply to them. I just try not to be rude....besides mine and dh's mind is apt to change at any point, he initially only wanted one, then we wanted as many as we could have, and now we're on to 4 is it. So, we'll see.