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post #41 of 46
I'm sorry! This sounds rough.

I used a nipple shield with my son on the recomendation of the hospital and wish I hadn't. It took some work to get him off of it. Basically, it was a 2 person job. I would get him to latch on with the shield and once the let down started (When you see the big, slow swallows) I took him off really quick, removed the shield and put him back on. He eventually took the breast without the shield. I had a lactation consultant help me with this. Perhaps your husband could help you. The LC basically held my breast kind of pinched down like when you're trying to get a baby to latch on, yanked the shield off and I put baby back on all in about 1/2 a second. When he refussed, we put the shield back on and started the process over. He eventually took it. It also helped to do it when baby was kind of sleepy. He seemed less picky about how he got his milk at that time.

It was SO frustrating to deal with. You can get through this!

post #42 of 46
I have not read the other replies, so I apologize for any repeat info.


As soon as she starts doing things, like sitting up and play with toys she'll cut back. In fact, maybe if you get her out of the house more (not sure how often you get out now, but it sounds like you are home most of the day) she'll get somewhat distracted and not nurse as often.

Keep in mind also that if you quit bf'ing her, that just means you'll have to formula feed and she's likely going to eat just as often. And making bottles will only take up more of your time. And if she gets impatient waiting for a boob, imagine her disgust with your making bottles.

I've ff and I've bf. BF wins hands down. Not only is it better for mom and baby, but it's a heck of a lot more convenient.

And I suggest getting a sling. You can use a water sling in the shower and a regular sling to do your hair, make meals, etc.
post #43 of 46
Oooh, mine was a clingy popper too at that age! I remember how hard it was. Now she is almost a year, and I tell you, it gets sooo much easier. Because they become interested in more around them, on learning how to use their body, and though they may still want to nurse frequently, once they have autonomy over their bodies, they can come to you and do their thing, rather than all of the holding, swaddeling, accomodating that happens with an infant.
post #44 of 46
It gets so much better, trust me. Around six months or so, breastfeeding is much easier than formula feeding. Imagine not having to pack much (diapers and wipes) when leaving the house (formula feeding moms have to worry about bringing enough for baby to eat, you already have that if you bf). In the meantime, take it ONE FEEDING AT A TIME! You will get through this. It will pass quickly. Soon, you will be looking back wondering where the first year went and you will be enjoying the antics of a nursing toddler.
post #45 of 46

The 4 month mark

Originally Posted by Viola View Post
I wonder if 4 months is some special time. You've been going through it for several months, but I remember 4 months with my first dd and how we'd sit on the couch and she'd latch on, then off, on, off, on, off, finally getting on and nursing for a few minutes until she went to sleep. Then she'd sleep for 20ish minutes but if I tried to get up she would wake up and want to nurse. It felt like she was always at the breast or catnapping on my lap, and I remember complaining about it online. Hopefully it will pass soon, and you can get a break!
Yeah, I think the same thing. First, experience. More on that in a minute. Second, Harvey Karp (Happiest Baby). He says it's the 4th Trimester. I'd heard that elsewhere also and it makes sense to me. Also, another author I don't really recommend or agree with on all points but I do use as a reference for some info on sleep, Weissbluth (Healthy Sleep Habits Happy Child) says that at 4 months the *way babies enter sleep* changes (this has to do with light sleep vs. deep sleep. My son with the S2S association would have to be held for *20 minutes* until he was in deep sleep and then I could set him down without him waking--I'd read to try this in one of Dr. William Sears' books. It was 20 minutes on the nose for a long time.

Experience: at 4 months my son started crying at night for longer periods, popping on and off the breast a lot. This is when I started freaking out and co-sleeping seemed not to work anymore. Yep, I agree with the 4 months on that one.

I now have a 3 month old going on 4 months and I'm gettin' worried about the changes ahead. She's SUCH a good sleeper now and an easy BFer.

Another part of my 4 month theory is that we try so hard in the early months and by 4 months we're hitting the time when we're just tired as well as it's just hard to sustain the "consistency" we're supposed to be providing. So, a lot is happening at 4 months and it just comes to a head.
post #46 of 46
Wow, hang in there Mama!

I could have written a similar post when ds was that age.
I am SOOO into breastfeeding. Yet I remember sitting in the rocker in the middle of the night, thinking maybe soy formula wouldn't be so bad
I hadn't yet donated them to the women's shelter yet, so those free samples of formula were sitting in the pantry. Not to mention the sound reverberating in my head of the ill-informed people around me "three months is enough", "he's had enough breastmilk".

Knowing how I feel about breastfeeding, I know I must have been at a very low, sleep deprived point to feel that way.

It passed.

Best of luck to you, you are doing a wonderful, beautiful thing.
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