going crazy here

[simplemama]

what do you do when your child makes you want to slap them!

I am sure that caught attention, I would never do that but am scared that the thoughts are even in my mind.

My dd has usually been a wonderful listener to me for the most part and I have hardly ever had to spank her. My dh will give her a gentle nudge every now and then and then she is good and happy after that with him and she calms down. She and him get along wonderfully and play all the time together. anyway, he has been out of town for 4 nights now leaving me with my 2.5 yr old dd and 3 wk old ds. So suddenly, at night, dd who has been sleeping in her own 'big girl bed' for a long time now happily is waking up and wanting to come with me and the baby in the bed.
DD kicks and thrashes and turns all over the place in her sleep and so it is not safe. And I am also afraid if I let her do it now that daddy is gone, she'll think she can afterwards too and then there would definitely not be any room.

anyway, now that I've made this so long, I can't get her to stay in the bed without crying or having a tantrum and I don't have enegry to deal with a tantrum in the middle of the night with a nursing baby!

so I'm going a little crazy and any nice suggestions would be appreciated.

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[BellinghamCrunchie]

Your newborn is so new that DD is bound to be feeling some insecurity. And with her papa being gone she is going to be feeling even more unsettled, and want to be close to you. There is nothing wrong with what she wants.

Would you consider moving her bed into your room for a while? Its really hard on them, getting a new sibling. Its quite an adjustment. Yes, its going backwards from what she has learned, but she's going to be going backwards in more than one area anyway once she realizes that the new baby isn't going to be returned to where he came from.

Anyway, there are no circumstances under which a parent "had" to spank their child. There's always alternatives.

[foreverinbluejeans]

When you say your child has been a wonderful listener do you mean obedient? It is common for parents to confuse listening with obeying. Think about the two words and the subtle differences.

Even if you did not have a new baby there are times when a toddler or older child might want the comfort of your bed. Would it be possible for you to let her fall asleep in your bed and then you and the baby go to her bed? Worry about any difficulties when your husband returns if they happen.