I am soooo upset! This is sort of a long vent so I apologize in advance.
I had an OB appt yesterday and I am so upset now because of the way it went.
A little history first.... My first birth was vaginal... no complications whatsoever... pushed 3x and she was out! My last Birth (two years ago) was a medically necessary c-section. Our daughter had Down Syndrome and was dying inside... she was breech and I had zero fluid. She ended up passing less than two days after birth. This time around... healthy baby boy, text book pregnancy.... absolutely NO REASON for another c-section.
Ok, with that said, my entire pregnancy, I have told my OB that I want to vbac.... he has "acted" like he was completely supportive the entire time. Now that it's down to the wire, he is trying to make me change my mind. For the last three dr. appts in a row, he's made remarks about my vbac. First he tried saying that the hospital was giving him flack about doing a vbac... which is a bunch of sh!! because I called to ask if they were opposed to vbac'ing mommas. They said "no"... "we do them all of the time"....
: Then he tried using a scare tactic on me yesterday. Telling me of a story about another couple in his practice who had trouble conceiving and ended up finally thru IVF... he said the mother is so worried that she told him, "I'm not risking my baby's brain doing a vaginal delivery after all the trouble we've had conceiving". I said to my doc.... I don't understand how that would "affect" her baby's brain.... he said, "well she's worried that during labor the lack of oxygen a baby gets could cause her baby to have Cerebral Palsy". I looked at him and said, "well, I'm sorry but she doesn't sound too bright... vaginal birth is the way nature intended it. And hopefully you would be able to detect a problem occurring before that took place." Once again, one of his scare tactics!!!! I doubt he even HAS a patient where that conversation took place. The bottom line is that he wants me to have a c-section because it's convenient for HIM... !!!
I'm sorry but I'm not going thru weeks of excruciating pain for him to make his money in 30 minutes and not have to actually work for it!!! I am standing my ground.... I don't care what he says or wants!!! I am so pissed and now I'm concerned he's going to try to do something at the hospital to force me. Well thanks for letting me vent... I'm dropping him right after this birth!!!
I had an OB appt yesterday and I am so upset now because of the way it went.
A little history first.... My first birth was vaginal... no complications whatsoever... pushed 3x and she was out! My last Birth (two years ago) was a medically necessary c-section. Our daughter had Down Syndrome and was dying inside... she was breech and I had zero fluid. She ended up passing less than two days after birth. This time around... healthy baby boy, text book pregnancy.... absolutely NO REASON for another c-section.
Ok, with that said, my entire pregnancy, I have told my OB that I want to vbac.... he has "acted" like he was completely supportive the entire time. Now that it's down to the wire, he is trying to make me change my mind. For the last three dr. appts in a row, he's made remarks about my vbac. First he tried saying that the hospital was giving him flack about doing a vbac... which is a bunch of sh!! because I called to ask if they were opposed to vbac'ing mommas. They said "no"... "we do them all of the time"....
: Then he tried using a scare tactic on me yesterday. Telling me of a story about another couple in his practice who had trouble conceiving and ended up finally thru IVF... he said the mother is so worried that she told him, "I'm not risking my baby's brain doing a vaginal delivery after all the trouble we've had conceiving". I said to my doc.... I don't understand how that would "affect" her baby's brain.... he said, "well she's worried that during labor the lack of oxygen a baby gets could cause her baby to have Cerebral Palsy". I looked at him and said, "well, I'm sorry but she doesn't sound too bright... vaginal birth is the way nature intended it. And hopefully you would be able to detect a problem occurring before that took place." Once again, one of his scare tactics!!!! I doubt he even HAS a patient where that conversation took place. The bottom line is that he wants me to have a c-section because it's convenient for HIM... !!!I'm sorry but I'm not going thru weeks of excruciating pain for him to make his money in 30 minutes and not have to actually work for it!!! I am standing my ground.... I don't care what he says or wants!!! I am so pissed and now I'm concerned he's going to try to do something at the hospital to force me. Well thanks for letting me vent... I'm dropping him right after this birth!!!
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Meg
. I would go for a midwife except our insurance doesn't cover one. I did however just get off of the phone with the hospital and anonymously gave them the down low on my situation. They informed me that the only thing the hospital requires if vbac'ing is that I HAVE to have an internal monitor. Which means laboring on my back the entire time. Unfortunately, I have to go in for a scheduled induction on the 20th because I am doing the vbac. The hospital requires that an anesthesiologist be present the entire time in the event that uterine rupture takes place.... so for the anesthesiologists convenience....
: But I know if I do, that last little bit of strength I've been holding on to thru all of this will be gone. Thank you so much for all the care you mommas are showing, it really does help. I'm going to try my hardest not to let all of this ruin the beautiful birth I had pictured. Instead, now I will look like robotica with tubes coming out of every hole.... Fortunately, my dh and his mom will be in there with me and they are both extremely head strong, so in the event they try to railroad me into a c-section, they will be my voice of reason. Please pray for baby and me that all goes well and I will get my vbac despite all of this.
