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My doctor is trying to scare me into a c-section!!

post #1 of 45
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I am soooo upset! This is sort of a long vent so I apologize in advance.
I had an OB appt yesterday and I am so upset now because of the way it went.
A little history first.... My first birth was vaginal... no complications whatsoever... pushed 3x and she was out! My last Birth (two years ago) was a medically necessary c-section. Our daughter had Down Syndrome and was dying inside... she was breech and I had zero fluid. She ended up passing less than two days after birth. This time around... healthy baby boy, text book pregnancy.... absolutely NO REASON for another c-section.

Ok, with that said, my entire pregnancy, I have told my OB that I want to vbac.... he has "acted" like he was completely supportive the entire time. Now that it's down to the wire, he is trying to make me change my mind. For the last three dr. appts in a row, he's made remarks about my vbac. First he tried saying that the hospital was giving him flack about doing a vbac... which is a bunch of sh!! because I called to ask if they were opposed to vbac'ing mommas. They said "no"... "we do them all of the time"....: Then he tried using a scare tactic on me yesterday. Telling me of a story about another couple in his practice who had trouble conceiving and ended up finally thru IVF... he said the mother is so worried that she told him, "I'm not risking my baby's brain doing a vaginal delivery after all the trouble we've had conceiving". I said to my doc.... I don't understand how that would "affect" her baby's brain.... he said, "well she's worried that during labor the lack of oxygen a baby gets could cause her baby to have Cerebral Palsy". I looked at him and said, "well, I'm sorry but she doesn't sound too bright... vaginal birth is the way nature intended it. And hopefully you would be able to detect a problem occurring before that took place." Once again, one of his scare tactics!!!! I doubt he even HAS a patient where that conversation took place. The bottom line is that he wants me to have a c-section because it's convenient for HIM... !!!
I'm sorry but I'm not going thru weeks of excruciating pain for him to make his money in 30 minutes and not have to actually work for it!!! I am standing my ground.... I don't care what he says or wants!!! I am so pissed and now I'm concerned he's going to try to do something at the hospital to force me. Well thanks for letting me vent... I'm dropping him right after this birth!!!
post #2 of 45
Can you drop him before the birth? I worry that you might not want to fight his fears/wishes while you are birthing.

You are strong! You can do it!
post #3 of 45
Wow someone has been cloning Dr Duck. All he's saying is quackquackquack

My advice: Preciptious labour.
post #4 of 45
That's horrific and appaling! What an evil, sneaky man...how dare he try to terrify you with stories like that, especially after what you've been through! ARGH, this makes me furious! I'm going to express my rage using a few emoticons, because I just can't belive what he said.

So now what? What do you think you can do about this a**hole? I don't have any advice, but I sure have felt your disappointment, frustration, loss of trust, feeling the need to be defensive, fear, and rage with doctors. It sucks. I can see this really affecting how you feel about your upcoming birth. Can you rely on your support person/people to advocate for you and be firm?
post #5 of 45
Oh Mama!! Make sure you know your EMTALA rights. You can NOT be forced into a c-section against yor will.
post #6 of 45
I freakin hate scare tactics. They are so low. It's so late in the game but if it's at all possible I'd switch obs. The only thing worse than scare tactics is scare tactics while your in labor and it seems this ob would pull that crap on you. Good luck and I am sending you many VBAC vibes!!!
post #7 of 45
Did you call him on talking to the hospital and knowing that he's full of crap?

What a jerk!
post #8 of 45
hugs sweetie! I wouldn't let him pressure you into making you have another c section. There has been many women who have been able to have a successful vbac with no complications. Hugs, doctors can be pains in the rear sometimes.
post #9 of 45
Saw this thread from the main page. Just had to say that I *love* the "well, I'm sorry but that woman isn't very bright" line. It's such a good response to any kind of "this other person did it, so why don't you?" comment.
post #10 of 45
Is there another OB in his preactice that is at minimum better? Or can you call, or visit, the midwives at the hospital, and very politely but professionally explain your situation and see if they have any "unofficial" recommendations for another OB that practices at the hospital? At minimum, get yourself a doula - and fast. Argueing with him now is fine, but who wants, or is even capable, of being able to do it in between contractions?
post #11 of 45


Stand your ground, he can't force you to have a section. I hope you have a good support system to help you through this.
post #12 of 45
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Originally Posted by AllisonR View Post
At minimum, get yourself a doula - and fast. Argueing with him now is fine, but who wants, or is even capable, of being able to do it in between contractions?
:

Student doulas are cheap, too.
Best of luck, mama. Stand your ground!
post #13 of 45
Gosh, that's awful. Is there another doc in the practice who will do v-bac? I'd drop him TODAY... you deserve better. And I would tell hospital administration what he's saying to you- doesn't sound very professional at all.

Meg
post #14 of 45
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Originally Posted by AllisonR View Post
Is there another OB in his preactice that is at minimum better? Or can you call, or visit, the midwives at the hospital, and very politely but professionally explain your situation and see if they have any "unofficial" recommendations for another OB that practices at the hospital? At minimum, get yourself a doula - and fast. Argueing with him now is fine, but who wants, or is even capable, of being able to do it in between contractions?

Unfortunately he is the only doctor in his practice . I would go for a midwife except our insurance doesn't cover one. I did however just get off of the phone with the hospital and anonymously gave them the down low on my situation. They informed me that the only thing the hospital requires if vbac'ing is that I HAVE to have an internal monitor. Which means laboring on my back the entire time. Unfortunately, I have to go in for a scheduled induction on the 20th because I am doing the vbac. The hospital requires that an anesthesiologist be present the entire time in the event that uterine rupture takes place.... so for the anesthesiologists convenience....: .... I have to go in for a scheduled induction. I am so sad over all of this.... I just want to break down and cry!!!!!: But I know if I do, that last little bit of strength I've been holding on to thru all of this will be gone. Thank you so much for all the care you mommas are showing, it really does help. I'm going to try my hardest not to let all of this ruin the beautiful birth I had pictured. Instead, now I will look like robotica with tubes coming out of every hole.... Fortunately, my dh and his mom will be in there with me and they are both extremely head strong, so in the event they try to railroad me into a c-section, they will be my voice of reason. Please pray for baby and me that all goes well and I will get my vbac despite all of this.
post #15 of 45
I'm no expert on VBACs but doesn't being induced increase the chance of uterine rupture? I'm not you and of course you have to do what you feel comfortable with but I would not show up for the induction and not go to the hospital until I was well into active labor. I will keep you in my thoughts and keep sending you wonderful VBAC vibes!!
post #16 of 45
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Originally Posted by Sheacoby View Post
I'm no expert on VBACs but doesn't being induced increase the chance of uterine rupture? I'm not you and of course you have to do what you feel comfortable with but I would not show up for the induction and not go to the hospital until I was well into active labor. I will keep you in my thoughts and keep sending you wonderful VBAC vibes!!
: I would do the same.... and you can also decline the internal monitor...
post #17 of 45
NO NO NO NO NO INDUCTIONS FOR VBACS!!!!!!!: : :

They are setting you up for a possible disaster!

If I was in your shoes, I would show up in active labor and refuse to sign any consent forms.
post #18 of 45
post #19 of 45
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Originally Posted by Sheacoby View Post
I'm no expert on VBACs but doesn't being induced increase the chance of uterine rupture? I'm not you and of course you have to do what you feel comfortable with but I would not show up for the induction and not go to the hospital until I was well into active labor. I will keep you in my thoughts and keep sending you wonderful VBAC vibes!!
You are absolutely correct. That was my point as well. I told them I felt as though I were being set up for failure. They assured me that I would be started out on very low doses of pitocin. Just enough to kick start labor. I've been thinking for a couple of days now, that maybe I should try to do something naturally to induce. My reasoning for this is that I'm afraid I won't "progress" as quickly as they would like for me to, you know, like by the time they're supposed to break for lunch or something...: , and then try to use that as leverage for a csec. I want to ensure my cervix is nice and ripe, ready for induction and won't need much pitocin to get it started....????? I don't know... just thinking out loud. It's just ridiculous that I'm even having to go thru this right now. I plan on telling everyone I know about what's going on. Just to get the word out there.
post #20 of 45
WTF!!! Induction with gels and pit increases rupture!
An internal monitor means they will break your waters, which means you will be forced on a 24 hour til birth schedule, due to fear of infection. Every single sentence you wrote was screaming cesarean. They are preping you, 120%.

Absolutely do not show up for the appointment, any appointment. Come into the hospital (if you must) when you are 9cm and pushing. They can not "fire" you for not showing up, after 37 weeks (can another american confirm this?)

Is homebirth an option for you? It doesn't matter if your insurance doesn't cover a midwife. Hire one. Take out a loan or barter for her services. Can you swich to a birthing center, or at least a vbac friendly hospital? I mean, this one sounds like the worst of the worst. I am probably going to get flammed a lot for the following comment, but if it were me, in that horrid enviornment, I'd forget all of it and just plan a cesarean, because that is what you are going to get anyway. The warning signs are everywhere. So sorry momma. Please consider other options.
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