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Natural sexual lubricant

post #1 of 24
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Hi all. I didn't know where to post this.....but here it is. Hopefully some of you might be able to help me!

I am looking for a natural sexual lubricant. My DH is circ'd and most of the time we need to use some type of lubricant. However, of all the ones we have tried, they all leave me swollen, with a terrible burning sensation, and because I have Interstitial Cystitis, my bladder hurts and I go to the bathroom so much after sex that I get no sleep. I am assuming some of this is because DH is circ'd, but I know that it's the lube that leaves me with the burning sensation, because it burns right when it is applied. We have tried KY, Astroglide, and several others.

Is there a natural lubricant that anyone swears by? What about vegatable oils? I guess they would stain though? I don't know. I am just looking for a solution and I am hoping someone can help.

My DH is starting the restoration process, but as everyone knows...it takes a long time so we need help in the meantime. THANKS!
post #2 of 24
Lots and lots of foreplay.
post #3 of 24
pure olive oil works great as long as you're not relying on latex condoms for birth control

I notice that no matter how much "natural lube" I produce things still go dry after a little while.
post #4 of 24
I second the Olive Oil. Also, I have heard that this recipe works really well too:

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Or, mix and heat 4 tsp. cornstarch and 1 cup water until completely dissolved in a covered saucepan. Use non-metal dishes and a non-metal stirring spoon. Cool. Pour some into dispenser bottle. Refrigerate remainder. This is many persons' favorite recipe."
But, if you are looking for something to purchase this works well..

http://www.organiclubricant.com/fire..._lubricant.htm
post #5 of 24
pure organic coconut oil is the best. Coconut oil also has anti-fungal properties and will also help prevent yeast infections.
post #6 of 24
Oh, I will have to try the coconut oil!
post #7 of 24
Oh, yeah, coconut oil is also very helpful in the restoration process. It makes the skin very pliable and soft and "stretchable." DH has been getting very fast results restoring and I attribute some of it to the coconut oil since the main thing we are doing is manual stretching. No devices, just occasional tape or stretching several times a week.
post #8 of 24
Interesting thread. I have to say, I HATE that I still have to use lubricant. Circ'd DH here who is slowly restoring and has a ways to go.

Having to stop and take that extra step to use lube is a sad reminder of what we lost to an "ignorant parental decision" that was made for him that he never wanted.

I hope someday soon we will not have to use it. My mom (who was married to my father who was intact) never had to use any lube in the 40+ years of marriage...not through pregnancy, menopause and after her hysterectomy. In fact, I had to inform her THIS YEAR what KY jelly and those other "personal lubricants" were for...she didn't know : .

To think of all the $$$ I have had to spend on that stuff, and I am very thrifty. Long term, restoration is clearly the way to go!
post #9 of 24
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Originally Posted by fek&fuzz View Post
Lots and lots of foreplay.
Sorry fex&Fuzz, but that has me cringing, because that often doesn't work the way it should for me. Maybe it works for some but I still get to a point where I worry that if the foreplay doesn't stop soon, I'm going to run out of lube.

Sorry, no suggestions to the lube problem but after dealing with pain, I instituted a no pain policy. So whatever it takes to not be in pain works... and although it was frustrating to realize just how often dh had no idea that I was : instead of I just had to tell him.

I've found that after sex was painfree for a while I needed less lube to get things working (stopping the pill helped too).... I think my body was so fearful of the pain I just couldnt' relax, etc.

Good luck.

Jessica
post #10 of 24
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Originally Posted by fek&fuzz
Lots and lots of foreplay.
Or slobbery oral.
post #11 of 24
Personally, I find that natural oils get too sticky and gross and irritate my skin. I don't like smelling like olive oil or french fries or coconut.

We use a silicone lube (no parabens, no aloe, no glycerin). It's the number one choice for robots and automatons.
post #12 of 24
Refined coconut oil does not smell like coconut.
post #13 of 24
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Originally Posted by prairiechild View Post
Oh, yeah, coconut oil is also very helpful in the restoration process. It makes the skin very pliable and soft and "stretchable." DH has been getting very fast results restoring and I attribute some of it to the coconut oil since the main thing we are doing is manual stretching. No devices, just occasional tape or stretching several times a week.
Could you elaborate on manual stretching? PM me if you want, I imagine the details are...well, detailed.
post #14 of 24
oh..I'll have to give coconut oil a try too!
post #15 of 24
Eggwhite...
post #16 of 24
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Originally Posted by Pandora114 View Post
Eggwhite...
Eggwhites? I have never heard of that. I would think that would be really super sticky. (Coming from a mom who has a kid that like to break eggs on the floor daily)
post #17 of 24
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Originally Posted by carolhagan View Post
Eggwhites? I have never heard of that. I would think that would be really super sticky. (Coming from a mom who has a kid that like to break eggs on the floor daily)
Your body produces mucous that is the consistency of Eggwhite.

Semen is the consistency of eggwhite

Your natural vaginal lubricant also is the consistency of eggwhite at times...

they all get rather sticky if you dont wash btw...
post #18 of 24
There is a brand called Nude that is made from organic oils.
post #19 of 24
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Originally Posted by Pandora114 View Post
Your body produces mucous that is the consistency of Eggwhite.

Semen is the consistency of eggwhite

Your natural vaginal lubricant also is the consistency of eggwhite at times...

they all get rather sticky if you dont wash btw...
Yes, I understand that. I am a childbirth educator that also teaches NFP. However, using actual eggwhites from an EGG doesn't seem like something I would want to do. LOL
post #20 of 24
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Originally Posted by dynamohumm6 View Post
Could you elaborate on manual stretching? PM me if you want, I imagine the details are...well, detailed.
sent you a pm
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