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Is this 3yo behavior???  

post #1 of 6
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my DS just turned 3 (smile/snif) ...I say that because while I'm so impressed at how big and smart he is getting, he is also starting to turn into a brat, and I'm not at all used to it and I just want to cry ... is this just 3 yo behavior and it'll pass and move onto something else?...: he snatches things out of my hands... he turns his head and says NO and I don't WANT to and tells me that a toy or a food that I worked hard to get him that he said he wanted he all of a sudden doesn't want it anymore, take it away,...and sometimes he says that he hates me...I only allow him to watch TIVO'd Bob the Builder, Curious George, and/or Puppy Clifford...but I do know that once in a blue moon he sees Sponge Bob with DH, so maybe he's just picking it up from there? I try my hardest to be RESPONSIVE and not REACTIVE, but with a newborn and no sleep and my feelings hurt, sometimes it's hard to 'ignore some behavior' and 'redirect' or whatever GD idea I can think of with limited brain power. I just want to know if this is normal/typical behavior and what I can do? maybe he just needs an outlet for his curiosity/energy and put him in swim classes or something like that with other kids? I'm new to 3years old! He just turned 3 yesterday
post #2 of 6
I'm waiting for more replies, because this sounds a bit like my son, who will turn three next month.

He also has suddenly turned disobedient. Today was absolute torture just trying to get our errands done- he would stop in the grovery store and lie down in the middle of the aisle and pretend to sleep. one time, i actually had to chase him because he would not follow me (once I caught him, though, he went straight into the shopping cart and didn't get to get out until we reached the car). IT's like having an 18 month old again!
post #3 of 6
My 3.5 yo son is doing the same thing but I think the situation is different so I can't offer alot of advice. We recently left his stepfather and moved in with my aunt so we are all in a period of transition. I feel like it is the terrible twos all over again though. I have stopped getting upset and started offering choices. If he wants to go to the park and we don't have time and he gets whiny and starts kicking his feet (his version of a temper tantrum), I will calmly say to him - "Would you like to do this (insert something enjoyable as an alternative to the park) or spend quiet time in your room?" he usually calms down because he gets to choose and he would much rather play a game or read a book than spend quiet time. I did have to drag him out of a restaurant the other day though. I was so embarrassed. He was kicking and wouldn't move when I tried to take him by the hand. Outside I got down on his level and had a talk with him and after a minute he chilled out. I think he is trying to see how far he can push now that stbx is out of the picture. Good luck with your little ones.
post #4 of 6
Oh yes, that is happening to us too. And of course I had to come and lurk over here to see what everyone was saying about threes. What amazes me is how sudden this change was for my DD (she turned three last month). She started to have a big stutter, so I knew that her inner body/mind were about to make a big change. And did they! So many "I don't want to" "you don't love me/I don't love you" "No!" etc. Anything she can oppose me on, she will. She even told me she was fat one time last week : I'm so upset that came out of her mouth. So...I shut off the TV (permanantly!) so she doesn't pick up any more of that. I picked up a preschool book I've been waiting on ordering for the routine recommendations (it's not academic) and put those in practice right away. It helps, but we still have a major meltdown every day, mostly if she is frustrated or hungry or tired.

to the moms of threes!
post #5 of 6
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the newest thing is the 'I don't want to go to bed'...and the 'I don't want to eat', followed by the 'I'm hungry' when in bed for the night...:

at least the symbol I voted for won!!
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When I took my son in for his 3 yo (he'll be 4 in Feb) appointment the docs gave me a guideline for 3 yo behaviour - yk, should be speaking in 3 word sentences, stuff like that...well one of the behaviours listed was "becomes more demanding". I am so glad that this is normal cause my ds is extremely demanding and really doesn't like the word no....oh, and I get told that I am hated too and when I asked K why he said that he says to me "Nemo said it". Huh.
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