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post #41 of 59
My Dad is intact, and so is my brother, so I think my parents would have disowned me if I'd even considered cutting the boys.

The inlaws are another story. DH is circumcised and they'd still do it if they had another chance. They stay silent about the boys though, because they know they'll get hours of lectures from DH and I if they bring it up.
post #42 of 59
my ils kind of disagree on it so the don't talk about it much... my mother did not circ my brother so she doesn't get why it is such a big deal. i guess she did not get a huge fight at the time, and her family is intact, so my decision was an obvious one... maybe she just doesn't like to talk about penises all the time...
post #43 of 59
I'm sure all of my sons' g-parents would've been PISSED if we circumcised.

All of my kids uncles as well as DH are intact.
post #44 of 59
My mother says she feels very sorry for my children and is actually quite upset about it...

Oh well...

I am so happy to hear of other Grandparents that are supportive!!

~Charlene~
post #45 of 59
It's actually never come up...it seems to be a non-issue. My son and nephew are both intact and my mom has changed plenty of diapers and never said a word. I had a cousin once peek over my shoulder while I changed ds and she said "oh, thank god you didn't circ him!" I was a little surprised, only because she's pretty mainstream. I have no idea what my grandparents think...
post #46 of 59
My IL are very, very happy about ds being intact. VERY. Back when he was a baby and we were stupidly still planning on it, they kept saying they were going to kidnap him so we wouldnt do it. When we decided to leave him alone and perfect they were overjoyed!

But the interesting thing is, while fil is intact dh and his 2 bros are not. Mil still feels horrible about it. But sadly, 2 bros are procirc, and my nephews are to show for it.
post #47 of 59
My grandfather, father, uncle, and brother were left intact. My family is very conservative American (well, I'm not conservative but they are ). My dh is from India and they are Hindu and they don't circ. When I was pg the discussion came up and I was fully supported by both sides. As it turned out, we have two daughters, but if we had a son I know we would have received pats on the back.

I am sorry for all of you who face family criticism for this.
post #48 of 59
When I was pregnant with DS I told my mother that there was no way I was going to circ him. She freaked out and compared it to a cleft palette : we didn't talk for a few days but she never brought it up again. DS is almost 4 now and she changed lots of diapers without comment.

I've swayed her over to my views on vax and natural childbirth so maybe I'll start on Circ next. She is very community/Police/Red Cross involved so she interacts with many people daily.

Sarah
post #49 of 59
My mom is definitely happy, my dad and both bro's are intact and she is very much against circumcision (and is a midwife) so I grew up reading anti-circ literature... I never once considered cutting my boys.

I assume my MIL is happy her grandsons are intact since dh is not circ'd but it's not something I've ever talked to her about.
post #50 of 59
My mom cited a few of the studies which state that circ has benefits, but otherwise didn't say much (and she changes diapers without retracting.)

you know, I'm not actually certain that my MIL knows that my bug is intact... lemme ask.

my husband thinks she knows. guess she didn't say much, either =)
post #51 of 59
My parents support our choice, my mom regrets having my brothers circ'd after listening to me talk about why we will not circ. My dad trusts our decision also. I am happy that they do because I would not be very excepting of criticism
post #52 of 59
My parents assume everything I do is anti doctor, etc. or to go against the norm. Couldn't be that I have a clue right?

Dad gave an upset "you have too and here is why" speach....we lsitened. Stayed quiet, then added. Wrong, myths, etc. Dad argued. We smurked. Momlooksand says (pointing to DH) "Is he circumcised?" We answered "nope." Dad turned so many shades of red on the spot. Imagine proffesing how dirty being intact is-to an intact man!


An Aunt was only other comment when she saw him and SCREAMED INHORROR "OMG-he is NOT circumcised!" Get over it.
post #53 of 59
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Originally Posted by bebesho2 View Post
Dad gave an upset "you have too and here is why" speach....we lsitened. Stayed quiet, then added. Wrong, myths, etc. Dad argued. We smurked. Mom looks and says (pointing to DH) "Is he circumcised?" We answered "nope." Dad turned so many shades of red on the spot. Imagine proffesing how dirty being intact is-to an intact man!
"lol" indeed! I would have paid good money to be present at that moment!

post #54 of 59
Here's an odd one: My MIL left DH intact when he was born, but when I got pregnant, we got a HUGE speech about how she regretted it, and wished she had circumsized him because it was cleaner, etc, and because he had gotten an infection as a child. To be honest, I suspect part of her change of heart was due to divorcing DH's intact father, and marrying her new, circumsized husband. :P

DH did his best to explain to her that he was very happy with her decision to leave him intact. That he had no issues with cleanliness or infection, etc.

When our second child ended up being a boy, we - of course - left him intact. And when we left him with my MIL for a couple of hours so we could go see a movie together, I gave her the Foreskin 101 speech. I told her "Don't retract him when you change him. You do a quick wipe like you would if you were wiping off a finger, and you don't need to mess with the area at all." She replied "Huh??? No, you HAVE to retract or he's going to get an infection." To which I replied "No, retracting prematurely is what can CAUSE an infection." You could see the lightbulb go off over her head, lol. I think she finally had a reason as to why DH ended up with infections as a child. :P

She hasn't said a negative thing about it, since.
post #55 of 59
My parents aren't happy, but my Grandma said, "Good, you didn't take away his love glove!"
post #56 of 59
My In-laws are in India... it would not have ever occured to them that our son might be circed. It is just not done for infants!
post #57 of 59
My mom is glad my ds is whole. While I was pregnant she asked me with tears in her eyes if we were going to circumcise and was so relieved when I said no. Afaik, my dad doesn't know if my ds is intact or not. I don't know what he'd think.
post #58 of 59
My mom circ'd all 3 of my brothers because she thought intact penises "were gross". However, she since met her DP, who is intact, and she loves him whole, and has since changed her position and actually apologized to her sons for cutting them (!!!). People can change.

My MIL and FIL are supportive of us pretty much across the board. They did circ their sons, but I think they regret it on some level, or at least they don't think of it as "necessary".

Everyone else has kept their pie hole shut about it, except for my older brother (who is still childless). He maintains he will circ any sons. I figure I have another 5 or so years to change his mind. His only reason is cause he is worried his ds might get teases by "some cheerleader". Yeah, that's a good reason to genitally mutilate your son: you're worried about some hypothetical 16 year old ignorant chick. :
post #59 of 59
i believe my parents are. my father is intact. my mother said she'd like to believe they would have left me intact had i been a boy, but admits that they may have gone ahead and had a child circ'd because that's "what you did" (for edification's sake, i was formula fed because my mother "wanted her body back" and was told it was "just as good if not better!"). but she agrees there is no reason to do it. i think my father would agree!
i think my inlaws just see it as another sign of me being a damn dirty hippie. fil is a ped and they circ'd both of their sons (my husband is furious over his circ and considers himself sexually assaulted). soo....
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