Poll: How Soon to Tell People??

[Shelsi]

This is kind of piggybacking my creative ways thread. I am wondering how soon everyone is telling their friends and family? With ds we told everyone as soon as we got the BFP. This time I don't feel so eager and I kind of like dh and I having a little secret. I actually had originally planned to wait until 12 weeks. However my in-laws will be here for an entire week over Thanksgiving and I'm already feeling nauseous so I don't think I'll be able to make it. Then in early December we're flying to Texas to be with more of my dh's family. I really want them to understand why I just want to sleep the whole time! So we'll be telling everyone when I am only 5 weeks along.

[~Demeter~]

I told everyone as soon as I took the test and got a BFP... well I took more than one test just to be absolutely sure but yesterday was spent mainly on the phone. Like I said in your creative thread it's sorta like tradition and I have never been good at keeping secrets.

[tatermom]

I voted other because we're waiting until we see family in person (Thanksgiving) even though that's a little earlier than I feel comfortable with. I also feel a little nervous about telling people too early... just worried that it will turn out to be too good to be true, I guess. We think we'll wait to tell the rest of the world until after we hear a heartbeat or see the baby on an ultrasound-- around 9 wks, maybe??

BTW, Shelsi, congrats! I was lurking on The One thread and saw you get your BFP!!

[imgr8ful]

we told my inlaws at 5 weeks and we'll tell my family at 7w when they're here for thanksgiving.

w/ ds1 we told people right away, w/ ds2 we waited until after 12 weeks because i had early bleeding around 5 weeks and we were just nervous about how things might proceed.

[trmpetplaya]

6 weeks is when I told most people, but I didn't even know I was pg with dd till 7 weeks... I called my mom right away : Dh found out when I did. My siblings aren't going to know until December (after we hear the heartbeat) because they're much younger and live on the other side of the country. I don't want to make the pregnancy really long for them and I already mc'ed once after telling them and don't want that to happen again....

My extended family will find out when my siblings do. They also live on the other side of the country so there's no reason to tell them yet. We announced it in church at 6 weeks though

love and peace.

[DoulaClara]

I wanted to wait for 8 weeks to tell people, but I think one of my pregnany symptoms is a blabber-mouth! I also kind of want my family to know just so they can pray with me that this baby sticks.

New plan- finish telling immediate family at Thanksgiving, and swear them to secrecy to the extended family until Christmas.

Clara

[tripmom+]

Some people I'm really dying to tell, like my children. Others, I could stand to never tell if I could get away with it, like my parents. At any rate, I think we are going public at Thanksgiving. I got these little "I'm Going to be a Big Brother/Big Sister" buttons for my kids and they will wear them into my in-laws where everyone will be. I think they'll get the picture, and hopefully, be as positive as possible. This is number 5 afterall, and most people will think it's just silly to have another kid!

[gr8tfulmom]

We pretty much had to tell everyone close when we found out. I had been working with our builder on our house for months and was in the middle of varnishing when we got the bfp. My SIL is also working on the house so she, my bro, the builder, (dh and I of course) knew within hours of the test. The rest of my family wondered why I was no longer going to work everyday - so it was kind of obvious. I would've liked to hold off for a while as we had a mc this summer and I didn't want to go through the untelling again, but we really didn't have much choice.

[party_of_seven]

This one will hopefully be #5 for me. I have always told everyone right away. My last two pregnancies have been early miscarriages though, and my sister is the only one I ever told about that. I feel pretty sure of this pregnancy, but I want to wait until we hear the HB and then tell everyone at Christmas.

I'm dying to tell the kids! I can't though because I know they would blab. Fpr now its just dh and I and a good friend who lives 2000 miles away that know.

[twentyalmonds]

With dd, I was very cautious and waited until 10 weeks to tell...This time around I called my parents the day after we found out. then I kind of spontaneously blabbed to my neighbor . After that, I figured, well if my NEIGHBOR knows, then I need to tell my friends and inlaws!

[proudhsmommy]

We're waiting this time til after the 12 week period. We told lots of people the last time we were pregnant starting at the 5-6 week period. At 12 weeks, I lost the baby who died at that 5-6 week gestation that I carried for another 6 weeks.

So, we're just going to wait a bit and see how things go. My eldest daughter took it really hard and I would not want to see her go through that again if something happens.

[Lissybug]

I can't keep it a secret. Told everyone right away with Ds, and have done the same with this babe. Though I did tell Dh first! Then we told people. Actually, come to think of it I think he's been spreading the word more than me.

[wheatie]

we're telling both families on thanksgiving, and i'll be 7 weeks then.

with ds, we told our families after i went to my first dr appt, which was around 10 weeks.

[Ashersmum]

With my first we waited until the 12 week point to tell people but this time i just could not keep it a secret! I've told so many people and I'm only six weeks along. I now kind of regret my blabbermouth but whats done is done.

[bruisergirl]

I've told my sister, brother, and a few friends, but I'm trying to hold out until after my first trimester. It's really hard! And I'm really bad at keeping secrets.

[Panthira]

DH knows because he was there for the test. My oldest DC knows and she said, "No way!! You can't be!" And she groaned and complained about so many babies. See, she's had to help out a lot since I broke my leg, so she's been the built-in babysitter, poor kid.

One good friend knows. My Dec. '05 DDC knows. Everyone else will have to wait until the last possible moment. My mom and I aren't close. My ILs would tell me to abort and this isn't the right time. My other friends would think I'm CRAZY stupid for having one right now, considering the circumstances. Ugh.

[Shahbazin]

Well, I told DH right away of course; also told him I wanted to wait 'til 12 weeks to tell parents, but he didn't wait & told his right away : , so then I had to tell mine (in his defense, his parents are in their 80s). So it's kind of out there, although I haven't told my non-cyber friends yet - my mom wasn't too keen on the idea of me having a 2nd child (I was an only), although the idea seems to be growing on her ("but you won't have more than 2, will you?" Whatever, mom.), & I know I'll get flack from my friends for conceiving again so soon (but I'm in good health, & it was our decision.) Hmph - I guess I just wish we didn't have to feel defensive about our 2nd DC-to-be; we personally really want him/her.

[Thalia]

I told DH this morning, and then I also had to tell my personal trainer at the gym so that we could modify my workout if necessary. I like her, but she really wasn't the first person besides DH that I wanted to tell!

We will tell our familes at Thanksgiving and the people in our infertility group this Sunday. We are also lay pastors of a church "small group" of about 18 people, and we'll tell them at our next meeting this Thursday, because we waited to tell them the first time, and then I miscarried at 8 weeks. They were so supportive during the miscarriage, and we figured this time we might as well tell them right away so they can share the happiness with us (God willing, there won't be any sad news this time). :

As far as everyone else, we will probably wait until 12 weeks or until I start to show. I've lost 24 pounds since August, so all my clothes are baggy anyway and hopefully no one will notice.

[suzysprite]

I've already told my brother and sister(at around 5 weeks), and I'll be telling my dad and stepmother over Thanksgiving weekend. I'm going to wait on telling my mom until after my first OB appointment, at nine weeks (she's on the sensitive side, and I want to wait until I'm a bit more sure of this pregnancy in her case). H wants to wait and tell his family around Christmas time, which will be about 12 weeks.

I voted "10 weeks," 'cause I wasn't sure what to put. In retrospect I should have voted "other."

[Maela]

Before I got pg, I always planned on waiting to tell anyone (besides Dh) until I was 12 weeks. However, we are going to Disneyland for Thanksgiving with Dh's family and I think it will be obvious when I don't go on the indiana Jone's ride (my favorite! and everyone knows that). They all know we're trying anyway. Plus, my SIL is also pg and due in July (she's the only one that knows so far), so we are excited to tell our parents together on Thanksgiving.

Originally Posted by tatermom

I voted other because we're waiting until we see family in person (Thanksgiving) even though that's a little earlier than I feel comfortable with. I also feel a little nervous about telling people too early... just worried that it will turn out to be too good to be true, I guess.

This is exactly how I feel. I really don't want to miscarry and have to tell all those people.