Birth, to me, is just another rest stop on the journey of life. Why does it matter how much medication one had? Why does c-section vs no c-section matter?
It is really how each woman perceives her experience.
Yes, this is a singular event that can never be captured again, but what in llife isn't? Each hug, each kiss, each "I love you" is unique.
I guess I don't see this as an issue. It took me time to truely love my child. Why? Because I didn't know who she was. I felt the bonds of mom and daughter, but how could I love a person I didn't even know? A few weeks later, we were so in love with each other. It just took time to meet her.