We don't drink so no we would not let DS try an alcoholic beverage.
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11/13/06 at 6:39pm
So many moms and dads extoll the virtues of natural living, natural parenting, organic foods, cloth diapering, attachment parenting, gentle discipline, and the many other glowing examples of child-oriented, nurturing and loving family-practices. ALCOHOL??? Am I the only one who sees a conversation about giving children alcohol as an insane one?
What is so unnatural about drinking a glass of wine? In many cultures wine is served with every meal and children are allowed to enjoy a glass from a very young age. These children are generally raised to respect rather than abuse alcohol. It is when alcohol is off-limits that children become curious about it and eager to try it.
I never said wine is unnatural... I merely point out that the nurturing place we come from as parents hits a wall when we justify introducing toxins to our children that are known to be addictive and harmful. Children in other countries drinking alcohol is not a justification, it is another relative point of view; their whole social structure is different... In our culture, this "little-sippers" club is often what STARTS alcoholism in teens.
...Vaccinations contain toxins that are dangerous to the human body. Wine is made from grapes - a naturally growing fruit.
And the sugars created by fermenting the grapes are toxic, which is why our bodies immediately set about trying to reject it, which is what causes the intoxication... Even the word that denotes the feelings caused by drinking, INTOXICATION indicates the introduction of something toxic...
... I grew up being allowed small portions of beer at family gatherings. I think it contributed to my healthy relationship with alcohol.
I did, too, as did my mother... she's an active, in-denial alcoholic, I am not. People and families vary. I easily could have gone down that road, I chose not to. You sound like you chose not to, as well. Are you SURE your children will be as strong? How do we teach a respect for an addictive substance, while we preach Just Say No?
People can grow up and become addicted to prescription drugs, should I never give my child ibuprofen because it could cause celluar memory?
That's just silly.
Honestly, I can see situations where it's not a good idea. But in a healthy family with no alcohol problems, what's the big deal?
The big deal is that we have been CONDITIONED to ignore the addictive nature of alcohol in our society, and we now nurture social alcoholism, which too often leads to much worse behaviors. I know PLENTY of people who came from these same "no alcohol problem families", and they STRUGGLE with addiction... "my parents weren't alcoholic, so I'm sure I'm fine..." <said by a binge drinker friend of mine days before he killed a family of 5 drunk driving.
And the carbs you would load your child up on could very well do way more damage to her body than a sip of alcohol. Diabetes anyone?
I would never actually give her this concoction of carbs; jeez!
I don't see alcohol as inherently poisonous. Done in moderation, some kinds of alcohol are better for you than the fast food, soda, and other junk people consume.
Alcohol, whether u "see it as inherently" so, or not, it is a PROVEN POISON... which is why people DIE from alcohol POISONING. The flush in our cheeks, the buzz, the drunk, is a product of our body's effort to process what it views as poison; the sugars it can't use, in a systemic reaction. There is no denying that studies have shown that the regular, minimal consumption of red wine has heart-healthy effects... for grown-ups. There is nothing healthy about giving a child alcohol, nutritionally, medicinally, nor psychologically.
I wish it were more the norm for at least teens to be allowed to drink. I think keeping it a forbidden fruit causes more problems than allowing children sips here and there with the family.