i don't really get what you are saying...sarcastic?
I think when i said "no rules" i was meaning no punishment. Of course i give guidance and teach the basics about being a good human being. But sometimes my kids run around in stores (just for example), and i don't yell at them and make them stay by my side. Somepeople would smack their kids for that. but as long as i can see and hear both of my kids...i don't feel like staying by my side constanly is a nessesary rule.
Also, I find it hard to think about what I need to get and stuff if I'm too busy wondering where the kids are. So as a team, we shop together. They push little kid sized carts and help me find stuff. If one team member is completely uncooperative, I have been known to leave a half-full shopping cart in the middle of an aisle and walk out of the store.