There are so many ways to approach this topic. What information do you need? What would your dh be receptive to?
Your dh doesn't have a foreskin or an intact penis so the point is that he really doesn't know what it is like to be intact either- even though he does have a penis.
But is that really the issue? There are so many ways to think about it:
Does he know it is not medically necessary?
Does he have concerns about the procedure and the usual lack of pain relief?
Do you want to breastfeed? If so, are you aware that circumcision can interrupt the establishment of breastfeeding?
Whose right is it to make this decision? Yours? His? Your doctor? Your sons?
What are the functions of the foreskin?
Why would boys be born with a foreskin, only to need it removed?
Does your dh realize that 85% of men in the world are intact and that most other cultures consider us strange (the US) and perhaps even barbaric?
Do you realize there are different methods of circumcision and different styles (doctors circumcised differently)-- are you prepared to weigh a list of pro's con's, select a method and choose the style (ie, how it will look) for your son's penis? Most parents don't want to think about that, but then if it looks different than dh or different then expected they are upset (and some re-circ).
Do you understand that the risks of intactness are extrememly low and you can actually compare them to the risks of complications of circumcision?
Can you watch a video to inform your self about the procedure.
Does everyone around you really care-- I mean, you say they all choose circumcision, but are they going to care that you leave your son intact?
If they ARE AP, I'd expect they wouldn't really think it was a big deal.
HAve you heard the opinion of your doctor/midwife/pedi? What did they say.
|He's glad that he's circ'd, and wants the same for our child if we have a boy
Medical opinions have changed since your dh was circed. I'll assume we can compare somewhat even if off by a decade or so... Let's see, my father was not allowed to see me for the first 4 weeks (I was a premie), he was not allowed in the delivery room. My mom was not supported trying to breastfeed- formula was still considered fine. I had several treatments that are outdated now.
Just because these things happened to us when we were born doesn't mean that we need to insist they happen to our children.
As wishy washy as the AAP statement is, it does state that circumcision is medically unnecessary.
If not for medical reasons... WHY is you dh insisting?
Hope that helps and thank you for considering, questioning, and learning!