Freaking out and in need of some advice! (again)

[GravyElbow]

ok I'm 42 weeks TODAY.... done accupunture twice (today and yesterday) and did the dose of castor oil on Sunday... had Contractions for 8 hours but fizzled oout after accupunture. BUT!! I lost my mucus plug yesterday...
I'm freaking out because my midwife (whom i love) keeps informing me of the risks i am subjecting my self to as each day over due passes (i.e. placenta degrading, merconium, still birth etc)
She asked me today what my fears are about having a hospital induction ( this is what set me off) and I told her the picotin, the setting, the fact i'd have to be on my back and not in the peacful birthing pool i have had set up for the last two months, the fact they take the baby away from me and mess around with it... and wipe all the good white stuff off. IT WOULD BE HEARTBREAKING!!
My baby is active and heartbeats are at 137 (they were 160 yesterday) My mom was 42 weeks at my age (32) and homebirth with no complications...
At what point am i putting my self or the baby at risk? how longis too long to wait?
AM I BEING SELFISH WANTING A HOMEBIRTH?
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[alegna]

You are not selfish. Your midwife is not giving you good information, she's just trying to scare you. I would not "love" anyone who did that.

to you

-Angela

[krismarie]

it's not a good thing that your midwife is saying things that put FEAR in you... you need to be positive... is this your first babe? there is nothing abnormal about being 42 weeks and you can keep yourself/placenta/etc healthy by being healthy!

trust yourself! trust your body! don't be fearful...

[phoebemommy]

You aren't selfish. I agree that you don't need this stress right now. It isn't helping. Try to relax, do something fun, chill out... My water broke & labor started when I was listening to a comedy album -- I think humor is helpful! Mucus plug is a good sign, by the way. Best of luck!

[Nan'sMom]

Your midwife sounds like she's being difficult...sorry you have to deal with that. Has she told you to do vit C, take temperature, etc...that is what my mw suggested with prom. Can you tell her to state the risks to you in a non-alarming way and to be supportive? That is what you are paying her for.

Best of luck and good peaceful birthing vibes to you!

[erin_brycesmom]

the risks do go up after 42 weeks but with the extenisve research I have done, the risks are not significant *to me* until 43 weeks. Just try to educate yourself as much as possible, then you won't have to fear what your MW is telling you because you will know yourself what the risks are. I feel you though, I really do. Both of mine have gone 42+ weeks and I know what it is like to not want to be induced with every fiber of my being. Try not to let it stress you though, because that won't help.

You are not being selfish. Last time I had to sign a waiver saying I knew I was putting my baby at risk for death by not agreeing to a post dates induction and it feels like crap. It was easy to doubt myself and think that maybe I was just being selfish. I would say try to look deep within yourself and shut everything else out (including your MW) and see what your body is telling you, what your baby is telling you. Follow your instincts on this, whatever that may be.

Oh and i just had to mention that if your baby really is 42 weeks, he probalby wont have an white stuff left on him, lol.

~Erin

[Mrs_Hos]

Ok wait...your mom delivered at 42 wks?
Sounds like you may not have a 28 day cycle (she may not either--genetic?) Do you know your cycle length? Lets say you have an average of a 32day cycle...then if you have a LMP date of 14 Feb (mine!) then you have a due date of 25 Nov...however, if you have a 22day cycle, your due date is 15 Nov...
That is a 10 day difference...
If you were having irregular cycles, who knows what your true 'due' date would be. I would bring this up to your MW and let her know that you MAY be only 40wks and 3 days TODAY...this is why we must be patient--keep your eye on things at this point, but don't stress! A glass of wine may help you more than talking to you MW too!

[Eaglevoice]

I delivered a healthy baby with a perfectly functioning placenta 15 days past my EDD.

[pamamidwife]

Wow, where is your midwife getting her information from???

Here is my postdates informed choice agreement: http://www.midwifemama.com/Postdates...0Agreement.pdf

The placenta is not an organ with an expiration date. It ages, sure, but it also changes to meet the needs of the baby. I can tell you that unless there is some underlying issue (you smoking or poor nutrition or high blood pressure, etc), your placenta is supporting your baby well.

I'm so sorry you've been put through this emotional strain right now.

[Minerva]

Babies don't have a calendar in there, you know. They come out when they're ready. Just remember that they can't induce labor if you don't show up.

If your mw is stressing you this badly, you definitely won't go into labor. Have you thought about suddenly producing an old calendar that'll put your dates back a couple of weeks? That would take the pressure off, if the mw will accept it (and if she won't, find another one -- even at this date).

[twogreencars]

Originally Posted by pamamidwife

Wow, where is your midwife getting her information from???

Here is my postdates informed choice agreement: http://www.midwifemama.com/Postdates...0Agreement.pdf (

Thanks for the links - this has really helped me. Although my "official due date" was Nov. 3rd, by the other calculations, it's more like TODAY! But...baby still is in not out...C'mon baby!!!! I went to the hospital for a NST and AFI yesterday and everything is fine, so my MW is more relaxed...and anyway both DD and DS were way "over"...