My wife and I have been seperated several months and one of the leading contributers to this was her lack of respect of me as a father. She would frequently call me names in front of and to the children as well as undermining my decision making and discipline. I always attempted to collaborate with her but she would refuse to institute discipline if it would make her look 'mean'. Since we seperated, the children now call me the same names she referred to me as and repeat conversations (not suited to children's ears) which she has had in front of them. I refuse to say anything negative about their mother to them, but they say it is my fault that I left and I don't love them. My children are from the ages of 2-14. I don't know how to deal with the children when they are rude to me (giving me the finger in church, hitting, kicking, mouthing off). Any attempts to punish them for their behavior are reversed as soon as they are with their mom. What can I say to them to help them understand that I love them and I know this situation is tough, but it is not acceptable for them to treat another human being this way.
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11/14/06 at 11:53pm