afraid of failing at homebirth again *successful homebirth update in post #32!* - Page 2

[umami_mommy]

Originally Posted by georgannemomof6

The very best mw's are those that are quiet, out of the way, and are very observent!

sometimes. sometimes the worse part of a hospital birth is the being left totally alone for long periods of time and not having any help with positions, pain relief, giving the birth partner a break etc. this happened with a birth a friend of mine attneded as a friend and support. they left the woman alone to labor for many hours, poked their heads in and said "are you pushing yet? no? well you have another hour to push this baby out or you're next for a section." well, she was flat on her back with an epidural. push how? she didn't feel how to push. finally, my friend recommended that she roll over on her side and try pushing. it worked, but no nurse or doctor made any such recommendation for her at all.

some woman, just because of their personalities, would feel very abandoned by a caregiver who just stayed in the other room.

my GF who is going for a home VBAC this time felt that she got no help laboring at the hospital and if she had just had some guidance she would not have ended up with a section. in fact, she kept asking for help, but there was no one who could help, they just wanted her to push or have a section.

the very best midwives are those that respond well to what their clients needs are... either hands off or more active.

[umami_mommy]

Originally Posted by riversong

I tried pushing in every possible place and position and just couldn't get my dd under my pubic bone.

make sure you get a few chiropractic adjustments. esp, get your pubic bone adjusted.

this should help greatly.

yoga would help too, but you're due in 2 weeks.

[georgannemomof6]

Originally Posted by honeybeedreams

the very best midwives are those that respond well to what their clients needs are... either hands off or more active.

that's exactly what I meant by "observant"!LOL!

[SaraC]

I just want to add that the postitioning of the baby can play a huge roll in how easy it is to push and give birth since you mentioned that your baby's head was a little crooked. With my transport, my DD was OP, asynclitic, with a military postition. She was coming out ear first. We knew she was OP way before birth and we worked on ways to get her to turn but she never did. Her head was just not going to come out of my pelvis positioned like that. With my second birth I did focus on keeping her in a better position and I do believe that is what made the difference in my birth with her. Her head was not in a crazy position and it was so much easier pushing her out.

[mamaverdi]

What's the spinning babies website?

[mamaverdi]

As far as dealing with emotional issues, have you read Birthing from Within?

I don't think it's terribly touchy feely. And the exercises described are fairly straightfoward, might give you an idea.

I think what you describe is enough to cause trouble for anyone....But a malpositioned baby....well...you need to deal with that before going into labor.

[umami_mommy]

Originally Posted by mamaverdi

What's the spinning babies website?

www.spinningbabies.com

optimal fetal positioning.

[13Sandals]

follw your instincts about needing more time alone - time to be unobserved during labor. demand peace and stillness from those present - and treat yourself with kindness and forgiveness. you did the absolute best you could. So what if it was something emotional holding you up? You can only be where you are at any given time. I admire your courage for trying again! You go, lady!!!!

[riversong]

Originally Posted by 13Sandals

follw your instincts about needing more time alone - time to be unobserved during labor. demand peace and stillness from those present - and treat yourself with kindness and forgiveness. you did the absolute best you could. So what if it was something emotional holding you up? You can only be where you are at any given time. I admire your courage for trying again! You go, lady!!!!

Aw, thanks!

[riversong]

I'm trying to be good about the positioning issue. I don't sit much and I sit on the birth ball at the computer. I also do a lot of yoga and try to do my squats every day. This baby shifts positions a lot, but is not often posterior.

[mother culture]

Well It will be a whole new experience for you, each birth is. Really try to let go of the fear and believe that your body will do what it must to birth. I think it wise to not find out how dialated you are just let the urges come and try them out, I hope you are surprised with 10 min pushing phase!

[riversong]

Well, I did it! I had my son, Carter, at home on November 24th. The labor was only 4 hours long and the pushing phase was only 20 minutes! I got scared when I started pushing and was imagining hours and hours of it ending at the hospital again. My midwife talked me through it and it was surprisingly quick and easy to push him out, despite the fact that he was a pound and a half larger than my dd was and he was asynclitic. What a relief. Homebirth is awesome.
Thank you again for all your wise words of support!

[HomeBirthMommy]

Congratulations! Well done, mama!

[pamamidwife]

congratulations!!

[mamamilkers]

Great job, mama! I KNEW you could do it!

[Lynski]

Congratulations!

[runes]

congratulations, and welcome baby carter!!

you did it, mama!!

[the_lissa]

congratulations!

[Nan'sMom]

Congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!