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anyone else "hopng' for a "suprise baby"?

post #1 of 35
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I do not usually post here - because I really haven't decided if I want another child (I have 3), or not. We use withdrawl, hardly the most reliable method, and each month I wonder/almost hope that I am pregnant. I think I am trying to let God/the universe decide. Anyone else in the same boat - or ever do this (If so...what happened?)

Kathy
post #2 of 35
Yeah, I've been hoping. I've rarely been on birth control in my life and started dtd when I was 14. I was dumb and used withdrawl as a teen. I've only been pregnant 3 times and all three happened when he didn't withdrawl at my O time. So, I guess withdrawl has been pretty reliable for me.
post #3 of 35
well, i was on the pill but kept having these thoughts/fantasies about being pregnant...i kept taking my pill religiously but one month i had some light spotting instead of my period and i just knew that i had somehow made it happen by thinking about it so much!
post #4 of 35
Yes, I am right there with you!! We also use withdrawal and it has proved to be a very reliable method for us... It's always in the back of my head though that it's not full proof and I often hope for an accident.

The only thing going against us though is that we have not had an accident in the 12 years of using it unless he didn't pull out and we were trying for a baby at those times. The odds of an oopsie for me are somewhat slim I believe!! :
post #5 of 35
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Originally Posted by stacey2061 View Post
well, i was on the pill but kept having these thoughts/fantasies about being pregnant...i kept taking my pill religiously but one month i had some light spotting instead of my period and i just knew that i had somehow made it happen by thinking about it so much!
Did that really work, because I take bcp and fantasize about an oops baby myself.
post #6 of 35
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I have been using withdrawl for 5 years (cummulative - not in a row). I have never had an oops...so it seems pretty reliable for us.

I am also trying not to control the universe...I do not deliberately have sex around "O", but if I am feeling frisky or husband initiates...I go for it. I almost wish I did not know when I was "O" as I play head games with myself about it. :

Glad I am not alone!! I also wonder if putting these thoughts out into the universe wil make it happen.
post #7 of 35
I'd love a suprise pregnancy. I would love to be like, "Guess what honey!" and have Dh be excited, but I know it wouldnt happen right now, since he's under a lot of job-related stress. We're probably going to ttc next year officially, but in the meantime i'd love a 'whoops'. I'm on the pill though, so its unlikely. :
post #8 of 35
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Originally Posted by whoamama View Post
Did that really work, because I take bcp and fantasize about an oops baby myself.

i'm assuming in worked, since i took the pill perfectly and got pregnant...i'm not saying that it couldn't be a fluke, but i'm sure my psychological state had a lot to do with it
post #9 of 35
I think I'd be very happy with a surprise baby. It's hard for me to admit that, because I'm trying to finish school before we have a child. Despite me knowing that in my head, my heart aches for a child especially when I'm fertile. We use FAM (charting) and either withdrawl or condoms during the fertile time. Maybe my secret desire for a baby is why I keep loosing my damned thermometer? maybe my subconcious is trying to set us up! I joke with DP the only way we will have a baby is if it is a surprise; he hates planning for things.
post #10 of 35
I would love a surprise baby... But since I am single and not doing the baby dance it won't happen
post #11 of 35
You sound just like me!
post #12 of 35
Yep, that's me. We are using withdrawl and I am taking my dd's gummy multi- vitamins and folic acid. But we aren't 'planning'. I am also in the process of slooowwly getting a degree and we'd like an addition on the house but the "we should wait until"s are endless, so...

Anyway, my nipples have been super sore for a few days now, which sort of excites me, but we'll see. I get a little disappointed when at first when my period arrives
post #13 of 35
It's so funny that I was lurking on the fertility board, not posting becuase we're not "trying", and came across this thread!

I am so hoping for a "suprise" baby. Dd was conceived on our honeymoon. Total suprise! It's the only way I know now

Dh and I have talked about starting TTC #2 around Christmas, but I'm sort of secretly hoping we just end up pregnant.

We shall see!
post #14 of 35
I totally hoped for a surprise baby and then we got pregnant with #2. This time around, I went through a time period of hoping for a surprise baby, to no avail. My husband is now on board with #3 though and we are actively TTC.
post #15 of 35
Not right now, but Henri was a surprise baby and he has been one of the best surprises I've ever gotten in my entire life He's our "Wow that was fun babies are awesome lets go have unprotected sex!" love child :
post #16 of 35
We had our 3rd boy just 4 months ago, my hubby is pretty sure we are done, I'm not however, I would love to have just one more, (yes try for that little girl) Anyway, we don't use anything, just withdrawl and I secretly hope that it will eventually lead to a surprise baby. I'll keep my fingers crossed!
post #17 of 35
That's my hope! I don't want to actively try for a third child. We are very happy with our two sweet little girls but would love to have a surprise! We don't usually use any birth control and every month I get a little bit excited as I wait for my period and a little bit disappointed when it arrives.
post #18 of 35
I am mostly sure I'm done (have 3 also and youngest is a handful!) but DH really wants one more-crazy to have the dad want more in most cases.
We are very careful and I chart but still sometimes (rarely LOL) think a surprise would answer my wonderings for me and I'd be happy.

and as a matter of fact ....
This month we've traveled across country for the holidays and I think for ONCE my cycle is off from the stress or something and am wondering if maybe a suprise is waiting for me in the form of a BFP when I get home.... (what are the chances really that after a year of being regular that this month I'd ovulate a week early when I thought we were safe!)
oh well...I trust fate
post #19 of 35
yes!

almost 13 months pp and no sign of af yet, and dd is nursing like crazy especially at night so it's not even on the horizon. i did have a few instances of o-type pain/twinges so i may be ovulating sporadically. we've just been using withdrawal as bc.

i'd love a little 'oopsie' baby!
post #20 of 35
I do this every month. Problem is, it is hard to have an oops when your method is withdrawal.
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